posters ask for your opionion but diss you when you give it whats up with that

Grrrrrrrrrrr (I am not grring at you mind you, I am grring at the stupid person who did that) I am so sorry that someone did that. People can be so rude on here, and the ferocity of some people can be uncalled for. I am not sure why people will ask for an opinion and then insult you. I'll admit sometimes I get irritated at a person's response to me, but I won't outright tell the person. It's not worth getting angry over. If this fifeteen year old is the daughter of the poster then I can understand her being upset if she is having a hard time dealing with her daughter's pregnancy but she didn't have to bash you! I will go and look for this discussion and read it myself. I really appreciate discussions like these as it let's me know not everyone's a critic on here! I hope that you have a very lovely and wonderful evening!

oh my i expect thats going to happen to me also, since i have a tendency to really tell it like i see it. so sorry. dont let it affect you dear.

I would just respond and put them in their place and I would also neg rate them. People like this are very immature. It's happened to me too and I couldn't believe how nasty the person became. She outright told me I was wrong - it was so pathetic.

You have got to be kidding! Some people just don't get it do they Hatley. Here's what I would say in return: (remember the age on YOUR profile? lol) "Well my dear, being old enough to be YOUR mother, it's now obvious to me why you need advice on how to be a mother yourself!" Then leave the thread and don't go back no matter what she says! Let me know what you decide Hatley.

Oh Hatley I am sorry to hear that you have been roasted over simply being honest, and this is a bone of contention with me. I agree with you, we are asked for our thoughts and opinions and when we give them are made to feel like idiots or blasted for it. I sometimes do not like the opinions I get on things but I know that it is what the person thinks and OK I may not like it but I certainly would not insult someone over it. Well unless it was below the belt like happens sometimes. Don't let it get you down xxxx

Gee Hatley you sure are right. If someone doesn't want opinions the don't ask the question! Don't be upset-just be pissed. They are the stupid one. You did the right thing. Freedom of speech! I wish I answered that question, I can be sure they really would have be pissed off at what I would have said!

Hello Hatley, I fully understand how you felt now! I know how rude is that when people ask our opinion and very shallow enough to accept it nor to listen it...Anyway, I guess you just need to stay away from these people, they will just ruin your day and I know you're always sincere in your thoughts! I have tried this but it was on my post...I was insulted and at first, I want to ride it on but I was thinking I will not get nothing with these people, it will just add more wrinkles in my forehead...LOL! I explained to her and clarify the situation and said, thanks for being in my post and promise myself, I will just stay away from her..

That is what we are here for...is to share our opinions... It is possible that you maybe hit on the truth of her situation and the truth hurts....Everyone is not going to agree with the poster..sometimes the poster wants people's opinions but then can't handle what some of us have to say.... You have done nothing wrong...The poster just has to remember that we are here to share our stories...if they help then great...if they don't then at least we tried to offer some help... Apparently the poster is troubled and you may have inadvertantly hit a nerve and she reacted without thinking it through...

I responded on that discussion as well. I saw your response and it was well written and honest as always. I did miss her response back to you so i'll have to go back and check. I know i have experienced this on other discussions also. It always kind of stuns me for a moment. On one recently I got blasted because i was too old to know how young people think. At first i was a bit insulted because the poster had not even mentioned that she was looking for answers from a particular age group. Then I chuckled. I'm willing to bet that I can remember being young a whole lot better than she remembers being old...not to mention I am surrounded by teens here. Don't be upset hatley. You are a valuable member here and we love your posts. If you can't see humour in the rude response then at least take comfort in knowing that the persons words reveal more about them than they do you. hugs!!

you don't need to be upset with those kind of people. they shouldn't belong here in the first place if they would do that. it also happened on me for about 2 months ago. someone's asking if i had a daughter or sister, would i allow them to join the pageant. i answered yes and the topic starter just keeps telling that i shouldn't lol hello? that was my opinion and if she doesn't agree to that then she can't do anything about it lol

hi dear i have also experienced this i had just put my viewpoint on being in love with a prisoner and i actually got a thumbs down..well why do people start a discussion if they are not open to a different answer..why is other opinion not accepted and considered wrong..anyways we should not let such things dishearten us..it does hurt at that moment but we must keep our spirits high and Keep Posting!!

Hi Hatley...I did not notice that topic,i never signed in since last night.I know how it feels to be insulted after giving your solicited opinion to a hypothetical situation-which she just clarified when you gave your honest opinion.Every one is entitled to give his or her ideas,opinions or advices.Whether we like others opinion or not we have to respect it-that's mylot way.Just don't let this issue get into your nerves,such don't deserve your attentionSmile and have a good day.

Please do not feel upset. The problem here is that the person obviously wanted her opinions clarified and you did not go along with her thoughts of what she wanted Tough,if you do not like the heat stay out of the kitchen and dont ask others. Good for you...

Hello Hatley, that's just not right. I mean a person should not put up a question like that if they don't want to hear your answer or the answer of anyone else. I guess we have to allow for people to not like what we might say. I haven't experienced that yet, but I am sure I probably will.

Hi Hatley The problem here is that most People just start a Discussion to earn Money Then you have the ones that ask for advice but do not really want to hear your Opinion they want you to agree with them and say what they want to hear I am sorry this happened to you this is one of the reasons I will only stick with my Friends very rare that I respond outside my Friends here Just ignore it as this Person obviously did not want true advice just People to agree with her Hugs

Hatley Most of the times the users want us to support their viewpoint and if we don't they take it otherwise. The whole point asking for opinions get digressed thus. We must accept others' viewpoints as well. We may not support that or follow that but a discussion in the true sense only survives when there is differences in opinion. We can see the picture more clearly. Even I had gone through this.I usually ignore the user and avoid him/her. This is a nice place. we cannot spoil the sweetness of this place like this. Smiles...

That gets on my last nerve when someone shows us disrespect, especially if they ask us for our opinion. We are all entitled to speak what we think here and we do not have to agree with one another. We are just saying what we think or how we feel about the situation at hand. I think every one of us should not be disrespected just from trying to show our views about something.

Hi Hatley, Well you certainly didn't deserve that at all and yes I agree if ask for an opinion and you openly give it the poster has no right to then slam you for it at all. I would make sure in future that I never answered another discussion posted by them in the future as this is totally wrong. I have posted and people have disagreed with elements but I will respond thanking them for their opinion not reply slating their opinion. Big hugs to you as I feel for you on this one I really do. Ellie :D

Relax Hatley, and forget about it. There are all kinds of people around. And if the questioner can't take opinions, that's her business right? There is no need to be worked up over an immature person like that. Cheer up and turn the =( into =)!

All I can think of is that the stress of her 15yr. old daughter becoming pregnant has made her behave stressed out and if someone else would have posted their opinion in a direction she did not like, she would have became furious with them too. Don't take it personal. Let it roll off your back. Her misery is unfortunate, but it is hers, and it should not be aloud to spread to others. If she needs help in finding what to do, of course ask but don't snip at the one who tries to offer a solution. Here is a smile to cheer you for now Hatley :)