what's your common reasons to your parents when you came home late?
By zer0charly
@zer0charly (5614)
Philippines
July 20, 2008 8:52pm CST
I am a home buddy way back high school. my parents way back then were so strict and always check my schedule. so I really don't have the chance to go out with my friends after class.. and if ever there's no class.. I don't have any excuses to go out because they will always tell me that why the heck will I go out where there is no class?..
so there.. no gimmick moments during my high school days..
during my college days, if ever I will came home late, there's this "interview portion" with my parents on where did I go.. I always come up with these excuses.. " My best friend invited me to her house because her ___ celebrates its birthday." or " we made our project to our best friend's house.."
as you've notice, my best friend should always be included on my excuses. because they trust my best friend so much, and that they are at ease whenever I am with my best friend..
guilt always kills me whenever I use my best friend's name, but of course, I will always inform my best friend that I will use her as my excuse.. she get mad sometimes, but of course, she always remind me to take care and not to go anywhere because she's responsible for whatever happens to me since my parents knows that I am with her..
I rarely go out during college since my parents were so strict, but whenever, I will use my best friend as an excuse. but of course, I know my limitations, and my responsibilities, so I wouldn't do anything to brake the trust of my parents to my best friend.
but now, since I am on the right age, and that I already finish my studies, it's OK now for my dad, wherever I want to go, I just have to inform him so that he'll never get worried about me.
how about you, share your funny excuses to your parents whenever you came home late when you were still young or when you were still a student.
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38 responses
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
21 Jul 08
I never had any excuses. I told the truth, and there was no problem.
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
good for you.. you deserve the trust of your parents.
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@jinxky (2248)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
im a good girl that's why i dont have any excuses well to tell you the truth, whenever i came home late, my excuses to my mom are...
1. have some research in the library
2. have some research at my friends house
3. have some projects
LOL..
but im not doing this all the time, im just having some excuses when im at my friends house having some party hehehe..
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
LOL. what a good girl huh?., those research excuses isn't reasonable for my parents, so I don't use that.LOL.
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
Hmmmm.. when you mention is like that, its as if my high school or even college days were mundane.. I simply got to school and did what I had to do then, go home when I have to.
Then again, my parents were both working when I was still in high school so if ever they arrive earlier before I would, my reason would be that I was at the house behind ours, playing video games. Apparently, the house behind our's was indeed an arcade and a PSX rental so the only complaints that they could mention would be our ironic enthusiasm to go to someone else's place instead of doing what's needed to be done in our own house like cleaning, cooking, being there since no one else would be, those kinds of complaints. Though its wasn't like that in the long run when we finally got a PSX console of our own and that just made us go immediately after class hours
On the other hand, even when I don't go straight home after classes during college, I still get home in decent hours and not around those that are already capable of ingniting worry. I'd always tell before hand if I think I'd be arriving late. I couldn't use traffic as an excuse since that's something evident here in our country and I wouldn't be using it as an excuse at all since we'd be all complaining about it by the time we get home
I guess I really have nothing to excuse myself for being late in getting back home..
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
You weren't able to do those things when you were already in high school? Well, you already know those things by now and it is something inevitable to learn here in our country. You had a service that would take you from home and get you to school and the same when classes are over.. I wasn't able to experience that since we often just walked our way to school. A good ten or more minutes to get there.. Aside fron noon time show animes to watch, I guess there's nothing good to do at home during school hours..
On my part, I have done things that hasn't made them mad yet. Whenever I relate an incident that I'm involved in, they would usually say that I should have done it in another way in case what I did didn't comply to what they had in mind. Their opinions, even though their opinions wouldn't change anything that has already happened.
Parents are protective of course, especially to nice pretty daughters like you. Something innate in them and you can't blame them for being caught in the moment when they worry.. even though it could be annoying at some instances..
Hahaha, you think I was a good student back then? I wasn't that nice during high school or even elementary..
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
I understand on why they are doing those things to me..
well, my father told me that he doesn't want me to be like the other girls who got pregnant on their early age.. and I thank my parents for being that so.. I know that they raise me well, even if we're facing lots of challenges, I appreciate all those things that they've done for us.
well, being so stubborn and playful is just normal for a boy in that stage..
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
that's what I am during my high school days.. would you believe that I even don't know how to go across the road, I don't know how to ride jeepneys, I don't know how to go to megamall or other places because I am afraid that I might get lost.. well, we do have a school service at that time, so I really can't runaway and even if, I don't know where to go.LOL..
but I get to learn some crazy things during my college days.. but like what I've said, I know my limitations, and I've never (well, not that much) done things which I know that my parents will get mad at me.
and you know what, my mom doesn't want us to stay on someone else house. even if it is just beside/at the back or even in front of our house.
and even if we did, she'll shout our names like.. " Carlota!!! go home!! I told you not to go outside!!" (well, I just didn't include some worst words.. but If I'll translate it in tagalog, well.. that's the freaking words you'll ever hear.LOL)..
well, I know that your parents shouldn't worry much about you, and you deserve the trust that they gave you.. I know that your such a good student way back then..
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
21 Jul 08
lol =D yeah, my best fren will always use me as an excuse if ever they are gonna stay out late and their parents trusts me too, as i'm a their big brother.. lol =D
As for me, i will use different ple's name if i'm ever gonna be late for home, i will wither say i'm in school doing homewrok and got projects to complete.. lol
BUt in the end when i reach home still with tons of homework, my mom will know that i'm lying to her.. lol
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
LOL. on my side, I just need to come up with a good excuses, because it will be easy for them to know if I am lying or not.
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
well, I don't have cellphone at that time but they will call our school to check if it is already time for going home.. that was way back high school. LOL. I really just can't escape from them!
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@kaezy_kulet (2465)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
I have studied in Calamba and it is a 1 hour drive away from our home and that place always has traffic so i always say i got caught up in a heavy traffic and that ids not unusual for that place so they always believe me..^_^ but i do not use this all the time sometime i just tell the truth as too where i have been so they would not worry me if i get home so late.
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
LOL. seems reasonable at all. but it wouldn't be reasonable to my parents if I will use it, since our house was just a 10 minutes away from our school.
@kaezy_kulet (2465)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
hahaha..they will not believe if you will use the same alibi
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@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
21 Jul 08
wow...
that is really strict!!!!
but i guess it is because they love you alot...
my family have taught me since young that we have to go home right after class...
and so we are used to it...
and if we come home late we just explain to her...
and it will be fine...
lol...
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
yes, they are.. but I know that they just wanted to protect us.
good for you.. are you allowed to go out when you're still student?
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@devilangelo (4522)
• India
21 Jul 08
ahh ... well . no such restrictions like this on me .. well .. my parents are cool bout it .. they dont mind me coming late .. or me sleeping over at my friends place .. all i have to do is just have to inform them bout my wherebout.. thats it .. althou .. in the beggining .. wen i used to come back home .. my mom used to give this angry weird look of " y the hell , r u soo late " bt nw .. she doesnt .. i guess she got used to it ..
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
yeah.. and I believe that parents are more protective to their girl than to their son.. what I mean is that, of course, it was too dangerous for the girls to come home late at night..
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
22 Jul 08
I do not remember having to lie to my parents as to where I was growing up because we lived so far away from places we could not go away from home often.
I will tell you when I was reading your discussion I remembered when a friend of mine from high school called me up and asked me if I had seen his wife. I was completely honest and I said yes at college. Well it turns out she was having an affair and telling him she was at my house with me and my husband and kids. Now I would have covered for her if she would have kept me in the loop.
He was a preachers son that did not turn out like his wonderful father. I loved and respected his mother and father. He was a total jerk and was beating his wife. I wish she would have been honest with me I could have covered for her. When he found out the truth he beat her to no end. It gave her the courage to leave him.
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
i know that using my best friend as my excuse isn't that right, but like what I've said, I know my limitations. I wouldn't do anything which my best friend would be liable if ever something bad happens to me..
I pity your friend.. but good for her for she already leave her husband.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
24 Jul 08
This was over 20 years ago. I would love to see where she is now.
@marababe (2503)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
I never experienced going home late when I was in high school, the latest was Cinderella time (12 midnight)--and I am with our driver. My dad didn't really approve of me going out late--late for him is 6 PM--without a driver. Every time I ask for permission it's always about a birthday celebration of a friend, a school project, cheerleading practice, and all school requirements. I never really lie to them. It makes me feel uncomfortable. The one time that I tried lying, I ended up telling the truth after 5 minutes.
I think that's why my parents trust me. I've always asked permission, I tell them who I am with and where I am going and I go home on time for my curfew. After high school, I get to stay out until 3 AM. They allow me to do so maybe because it rarely happens. It was mid-college days when I can stay out and go out as often as I want to without curfew although they still ask what time I'll be home, who I am going out with and where.
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
good for you. way back then when I was in high school, the late time would be 6 pm. LOL. yes, they are so strict, even if I tell them the truth on where I wanted to go, they wouldn't allow me so..
seems like you are so close with your parents, that is good. you can share whatever things and story you have. and I believe that you deserve the trust that they gave you, for I know that you never take advantage of it.
@myliezl0903 (2726)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
high school days are one of the happiest moment in my life ., you will encounter a lot things like going to movies, party, malling etc ... and that was the time that you explore things in life.,i know that we sometimes felt a bit scared when we ask our parents permission to go out especially if its a party ., cause we are aware about how and what the party is ., but in my case ... i am so honest and need not to lie to my parents about anything ., they we're so openminded person and they TRUST me ., ( and thats the thing i love about my parents ) ... well, i also understand why some parents are strict ., a bit of advice ., just try to introduce your friends to your parents, for sure if they'll know that you have a set of good friends they will trust not just you but also your friends ., ... well just be responsible enough also by giving yourself the boundaries or limitations.,
have a nice day ahead!
see you around!
myliezl0903
manila, philippines
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
I agree with you. but even though I let them introduce my friends, and let them know on where I want to go, they wouldn't just let me. I don't know but they were really strict. good for you that you have an open minded, understanding parents.
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@Monkeyrose (2840)
• Canada
21 Jul 08
The truth.
My parents have always let me basically do what I want as long as I'm responsible and tell them where I am and what I'm doing. If I'm going to be home later I'll tell them or phone and let them know. SOmetimes I don't say all the details... but I'd basically say what I was doing.
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
you are so close with your family that you let them know what you're doing.. good for the both of you.
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
good for you. I envy you.. I hope that I could have that kind of family in the future.
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@Monkeyrose (2840)
• Canada
22 Jul 08
Yes I am really happy that I can be open and honest with my parents. My whole immediate family is really close. I am especially close with my mother. ANy problems that may arrise I always go to her for help. My family is very supportive of each other.
@karazu (49)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
you have that kind of parents huh? must have been hard for you during your highschool and college days... well for me, my parent's werent really that strict. of course just like all the others they prefer us not to go out late at night. the occassional gimmicks are okay and but if they think that the place i would be going to is really crowded and there is potential danger, they really woudnt let me out. but somehow i still manage to. either im too rebelious of a son or im just a little tricky! haha! i guess im both... my parents are really nice, to the point that you yourself will give in and get hit with your conscience and realize why they sometimes dont allow me to go out. so whenever i become the "angel" son i turn down the gimmicks and say i need to stay home. i dont usually make excuses, if i do, i'll say its a birthday or a project or assignments or something, the usual, broken record excuses haha! well, that was in highschool. when i got to college things were really different, my horns grew bigger since i lived with my titas and grandparents i was free!!! i party whenever i can! and there wasnt really someone to make excuses to, my grandparents are old and they dont really care since they're all asleep by the time i get home, so it's all forgotten by morning! haha!! and like i said my parents arent really that strict so occasionally my conscience talks to me and i read my books instead. haha! i think their way of discipline is much better since realizing something by yourself is much effective than someone putting sense into you.
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
Oh yeah. super strict. and those projects and school activities wouldn't work as my excuses! ..
well, parents were over protective more to their daughters than to their sons. well, I guess staying late outside is too dangerous for girls for there are lots of criminals, and rapist now a days.
yeah, at least, if ever we make mistakes, we get to learn by it..
@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
Haha. This brings back very fond memories. I usually told them that we had to finish a project blah blah. Or that we had to practice the dance sequence we will be performing at the school program. The good thing was my parents trusted me. But sometimes you just gotta lie about some things. Can't be helped. But I never abused this trust. I tried to repay their faith in me by studying hard and getting good grades.
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
joliefille
we are so the same!.. I can help but to make an excuse, but of course, studying hard is the repay for all those lies.
reckon21
other languages aside from English isn't allowed here dear.
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@mayannlucelle (16)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
hahaha! lol. GOOD QUESTION :D
the last time i went out with my friends, i have to admit..i promised not to drink..but oh! i did! (ssh. don't tell mom bout it). and it was like 2:30 in the morning so i was hesitant to go home. what i did was i told my mom it was raining and i had to sleep on my friend's place. so that was it. but because i'm such a good girl, nothing bad happened...i PROMiSE :D
but u know what? i got a lil bothered after that -_________-
so if i were you...just tell the truth and pray you won't get scold ;)
LOL . ^^
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
LOL. so where did you go then?
AArrgghh!.. my parents way back then were really strict! as in! so I really need to do that.. but of course, guilt kills me.. but I always make sure that I don't do bad whenever I use names on that ______.
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@lossforredwords (3620)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
I know I may sound ridicolous but sometimes I wish I need to make reason to my parents of how the hel$ I got home so late.
Actually I never experience this kind of situation with my mom (my dads been long gone) she never gives or become strict when it comes to me.. maybe she has a big trust to me and she knows I can manage myself. but yeah, sometimes i long for that strictness.
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
yeah, and I realize now that parents are doing that just to protect us.. because they are responsible for whatever happens to us.. and I appreciate my parents for doing that so.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
my parents weren't strict at all during my school days..they trust me too much to do almost anything..they trust on me knowing i'm doing the right thing..i am a home buddy when i was in high school..when i stepped college i started going out with couple of friends..most of the time i was home late night 5 am in the morning already..never did i hear anything from them..i never recall i made excuses just to go out late night...
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
LOL? 5 am in the morning?, If I will do that, they will definitely give me a one of a kind slap or will definitely shout at me..
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@bournecaindelta (2477)
• India
21 Jul 08
I sometimes lie, sometimes tell the truth. But most of the times its the truth because I do not want them to know about it if I lied from any other source. That would really get me into trouble. I mostly tell them the truth because they trust me and so i d not try to exploit that trust and make sure that it stays intact.
bourne
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
you've got the point. It's better to know the truth from you, than to know from the other people. by that, you can explain your side on why you came home late.
@selece (2357)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
Hello zerocharly! Nyaha! I can totally relate with you. Back in high school, I used to run out of excuses because I tend to go home late quite often. Half of the time for school research and half of the time for fun. But then my common excuse is that "We went out to gather information on the internet because we have a project/assignment." Back then, internet access was only available inside cafe's. I also tell them sometimes that we had a practice for our P.E. classes or school performances, Hehe. The truth is at that time, we usually hang out at my friends' place, play PS or watch movies. We don't notice how time flies by so fast. Now in college though, I have a lot of freedom. As long as I tell them where I am and who I am with, it's okay. But of course I know my limitations, so I make sure I don't go past 12:00am. Unless it's something really important or when it is inevitable. I didn't want to lie back at that time but I was just afraid that they wouldn't understand me so I thought it was better off that way. I never got caught though. hehe. So there, I think we Filipinos tend to get caught up in this situation most of the time.
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
yeah, time so flies whenever we're having fun..
well, way back then, I should be in the house before 7 pm. since they know my schedule. even if I am already on my college days. AAaarggh! they are super strict., but I now realize on why they are doing that to me. and of course, parents are more strict to their daughters than to their son..
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@mother_earth (195)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
I don't think I've done such excuses because I never came home late during my younger years. I am a good child, obedient too. I had always a morning schedule during my school days. If there are other activities, I make sure that I'll be home before 5 pm. I don't attend party nights.
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
yeah, I am also obedient and I don't have any choice... I just have to lie sometimes for them not to get mad at me. I know that's not right but I realize now on why they are doing that to me.
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@srpkinja (375)
• Canada
21 Jul 08
My parents dont give me a curfew, which means that I dont specifically know what "late" is. But a year ago or so, when I would come home at 3am after going out my mom would get mad and ask me where I was all night and I would also make up some excuse like, "there was a lot of people and traffic" or "I didnt see what time it was" and things like that. Now, they really dont care when I come home as long as its before 4am or if I go to another city, they know I will come home later. I am responsible and I always tell them where and who I am going with and they trust me. So when I get home "late" now, they dont ask because I usually will say what took me so long.
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
wow, that is good. they deserve the trust that they gave you.
I am doing that now, I just inform my dad just before I go out, so that he'll never get worried about me.
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