WEIRDO BOYFRIEND But i love him
By michellie
@michellie (15)
Philippines
July 21, 2008 8:32am CST
i had this boy friend for 4 months..
were having a good time and we both love each other, :)
if he's in the mood, he teases me always and she's sweet.
but, everytime we had fight.
he's HORRIBLE!
like, he's ignoring my efforts just to be okay.
i dont know whats he's point of letting our fighr last for hours. :) even days.
silly fights. :(
ugh!
it breaks my heart everytime he ignores my prsence. :(
help guys.
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4 responses
@dreemsofdark (714)
• United States
21 Jul 08
This is an unhealthy relationship! Either get out now while you can and while it will hurt less with less time passed, or talk to him as soon as you can! Let him know that you think your fights are silly, and that most of the time you're just trying to work things out, and to hold a grudge and CHOOSE to be angry is PLAYING GAMES!
Trust me on this one, because I used to be JUST like your boyfriend! And then I started going to therapy and my therapist told me that everyone has so much energy given to them in life. It can be "re-charged" by laughing and having fun, but still, energy is only so much that a person can use for a lifetime. Anyways, we Choose how to use this energy and using it by being angry is a WASTE! (I had some really serious anger issues) And that to choose to STAY angry at a loved one is playing mind games!
TRUE and real ANGER last for about 10 minutes, any anger after that in unhealthy or grudgeful and shouldn't be tolerated. Give eachother 10 minutes to finish being angry and then try to work things out. But if they can't, save yourself the abuse now. I hope that I didn't scare you or anything, and I hope the best for you and your emotional and physical health and happiness! :)
@ferdzNK (3211)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
I think it would be better to discuss this things on better days and have a pact on what to do on situation like that. Relation is not just all fun, there are times or most of the your differences would lead to disagreement and sometimes would end up in nasty things. It is very important that you both agree with what to do next and stick with it. Good luck and happy haposting.
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
23 Jul 08
I hate games when you are dating someone . I am sorry he does that , and you have to let him know how you feel . There seems to be a great side to him , but then a side that needs to grow up some. If there is more good then bad then you should be okay , and will work it out . Trust me I know about those uncalled for fights that last for hours . They hurt !!! 
