can she be trusted?

well i think there is always a reason behind that, why your friend told your ex husband about it. Maybe she wanted your relationship bring in , i mean maybe she wanted you to stay with him. It really depends of the situation if she told your ex husband that will equate for a right thing then she is a good friend but if the purpose is for bad reasons then probably she is not a good friend. Reflect and know your friend more.

I wouldn't have a problem with her talking to him because I wouldn't want to force a friend to choose between us. It's not fair to make them have divided loyalties. But, neither is it any longer HIS business what I do or say, so she is wrong to tell him without my permission. Even if I don't say "keep this to yourself", it shouldn't be told. If I want him to know something, I'll let him know myself.

A true best friend would not be talking to your ex-husband about you behind your back, not even if he asked. And why is he asking? To cause trouble for you? Maybe he and she have something going on between them. I would never trust this friend again. She has proven to be untrustworthy and deceptive. I would severe all ties with this person who stabbed you in the back.

I think that's a little strange. If she's your friend why didn't she confide in you? I don't fully understand some people's motives in friendships. I've had enough bad experiences to know that crap like this can come completely out of the blue. I'd have to see if my 'friend' is really who they say they are. I'd wait a while before dropping them.

I would first wonder what kind of friendship do you have. How close are you to her? Could she have a reason to cause a problem between you and your X? Could she be interested in him? I'm sorry, I'm the suspicious, don't trust any woman type. Been burnt too many times. Need to take all into consideration before you plan her possible demise- oh I'm sorry that's my way of thinking-for you-dropping her as a friend lol!

I would tell her that next time that I prefer to keep the personal things to herself. She'd still be a friend but I would be wary and be always on guard not to tell her very personal issues about the person I was involved with.

First of all if she did that she is not a friend. A friend would not do that. Sounds to me like she is trying to stir up trouble. She should have come to you if he was asking her things. If she just volunteered the information she was way out of line. I don't know how long you and your friend have known each other but think about this maybe your ex asked her to find out things and tell him what you told her. It is a possibility. But one thing I know for sure I would not consider her a friend. Friends don't do things like that.

It depends on what she has been telling your ex husband. If all she has been telling him are things which are common knowledge about you or things which are not harmful to you then there's no reason no to trust her. But if she has been sharing your secrets told to her in confidence as a best friend even if you didn't tell her to keep those as secrets, then definitely, she is not to be trusted and she is not your friend at all. What kind of friend would share such confidences with another person even if not your ex husband? There is no explanation under the sun that is acceptable. That's all she is not your friend. As for me, if i had a friend such as that,I would confront her and tell her she is not to be trusted and she must have a soft heart for my ex husband because she did not hesitate to betray me just to get closer to him. She can have him for all I care(LOL)

I don't think she is a real friend. She is obviously violating your trust and she seems to purposefully be stirring the pot. I would get out, ASAP.

I think your friend is being very inconsiderate and ignorant. Best advise- stay away from untrustworthy "friends".

you could but not 100%