Would you cook seperate meals?

you should tell him that he has the choice of cooking his own meals or eating the meals that you and your kids eat.

Congrats on your page one discussion! I know how hard you work on these discussions so it's nice when other Mylot members acknowledge that and help push your discussion to the top! As for the meals, I can relate to that! A couple years ago, my spouse had gotten into really bad eating habits. Then he got really sick and his blood pressure went up and he had to go onto salt restricted diet. Now he won't let himself have red meat. I wish that I could give you good advice on the veggies aspect. If he won't eat them, then he won't eat them. I have cooked meats on the Foreman grill with veggies and they all end up tasting like meat. Maybe he would like that. Men don't often like soup, some beef and lots of veggies. But you might try some kind of stew with carrots and potatoes. Puree some veggies and add to the broth. He won't know that he is eating veggies. My spouse is not that picky when it comes to eating chicken or fish cause those are healthy and he wants to live longer! But my daughter, who is four, doesn't like veggies, so sometimes I have to be sneaky and puree them into fruit juice. That way she gets an entire serving of veggies and she doesn't know it. Have you tried some kind of fruit/veggie pie? Or homemade pot pie? He wouldn't really be able to pick around all the veggies cause those are mostly veggie based with some meat. That might be a great way to get him to eat veggies. You might also try making pasta, which relies more on noodles and less on ground beef. He would still get his beef like he wants but have to eat the pasta to get full. I used to have to do that with my spouse. Best of luck. I'm sure things will work out for you!

That's sad. He is not setting a good example for the kids by eating all this unhelathy stuff. I would try to appeal to his better nature. Maybe also what you could do is like mix the beef and chicken and gradually phase out the beef. He probably wont notice if it's done over time. My dad wouldnt eat many things when my parents were first married. My mother gradually changed his habits over time and now he is almost normal in what he eats. Also, you could try getting a cookbook like decipetively delicious and sneek veggies into things.

It would drive me nuts to have to do that. I'd have a hard time cooking a meal for only him when I'm already making something else. I know my aunt does this for my cousin sometimes but most of the time she tells him now he can make his own meals because he wont eat what we do.

I'm in the habit of cooking separate meals because my husband has always been a meat and potatoes man - he has a bad reaction to onions, and even onion powder in foods can make him ill. He won't eat rice, pasta, mushrooms, onions, capsicum, tomato, curries, stirfries, you name it. Therefore, I usually cooked something different for the children and I, and now that I only have one son at home, he and I have stirfries or pasta meals whilst my husband still has the good ol' meat and potatoes. I'm so used to it now I wouldn't know what it was like to cook one meal only!

I agree that your husband should make his own dinner if he isn't going to eat what you make for yourself and the kids. I'm like your husband though, I'm a meat and potatoes person, although I prefer chicken to steak. However, I'll eat chicken any way that it is prepared and eat veggies or potatoes or whatever else with it. Why don't you try and compromise somehow? Maybe red meat on the weekends or something and something else during the week. Make enough meat on the weekends that he can have leftovers for a day or two if he needs it.

This is an interesting situation. I can understand that because your husband gets home late, that you would want to cook for him, but maybe he'd be more flexible if he were aware of the amount of work? My husband makes his own meal when he comes home late because he will sometimes feel like eating something in particular, and it's easier for us if he just puts it together himself. At any rate, can't you make a healthy meal like fish/chicken/ veggies/whatever, and then throw a little steak or other beef as a sort of a side. So that it's like you are all eating the same meal, but your husband is just eating more.

Your husband sounds a lot like my BF, except perhaps even more picky. My BF doesn't like cooked vegitables either except for potatoes and corn. I have coaxed him into liking rice and eating a salad once in awhile. Thankfully, he will eat raw carrots and broccoli, he just hates "mushy" veggies. As for the meals, he will eat chicken, pork and some fish, so I don't usually have to cook a whole differnt meal, but I will make different sides for us or I will add an extra vegitable to mine and he'll have a larger portion of potatos. But if I wanted to make stew or lasanga or something (he also hates all tomato-based products) the I will usually fix him his own meal. I don't mind doing it, because he isn't the type who would complain if he had to make his own meal. I just know that "his own meal" could well be just a piece of meat with no sides at all, so I want to at least get some vegetable matter into him, so I fix it if I can.

The only time we cook separatley is when we make something that calls for jalapenos or anything hot and spicy. My husband loves hot/spicy food and I can't tolerate it. Like when we make our okra and tomato dish, I will make separate pans of it because I like the regualar tomatoes and he likes the Ro-tel tomatoes in his cause they are hot. I'm sure, though, in your case, that it can be very frustrating cooking two separate meals all the time. With my husband and I it's only a few certain ones. He does most of the cooking by the way, just because he is better than I am..lol..

You'll have to excuse me, as I've not read all the responses to this as yet so I don't know if anyone has suggested it. But how about cooking double portions of a meal for yourself one night, then for your husband the next night, and freezing the extra. You'll have to cook an extra couple at the start otherwise you'll be eating the same thing two nights in a row, but soon you'll have a good selection so will just have to cook one meal and reheat another. It might make your life easier. As to your original question, I don't think I would personally cook two seperate meals. I hate cooking at the best of times, so I think I'd go to all that bother. One meal, take it or leave it!

ive done it. still do it. it isnt so much really making seperate meals entirely.. just tossing a steak or a burger into the mix along with the other things im fixing as well. side dishes are still pretty much the same. like you said.. he doesnt like veggies so he doesnt take any or he picks them out of what hes eating, so it isnt all that much difference in the cooking really. as far as the caseroles go.. some he likes some he doesnt.. and with the ones he doesnt like.. you make something else for him. alot of people are of the standard that whoever does the cookng mandates what the other eats.. and the other should just eat whats put in front of them and deal.. i dont agree with that. youre being considerate of his wants at the same time of tending to yer own as well. thats what a PARTNERSHIP.. and im sure if he was to cook on occaision, he wouldnt prepare something you disliked just to fulfill his own wants and not be considerate of yers by telling you to eat it or starve.

Nope, I will not cook separate meals, why make more work for yourself. My husband eats whatever is on the table, he doesn't care what it is, as long as its food..lol. I think it depends on how you were raised, he said when he was little, they had to eat whatever their mom made for them whether they liked it or not, it was either eat it or be hungry. Thats how it was in my house also, my grandma never cooked twice, if we didn't like what we were having it was too bad, we learned to like it. I think thats the problem with all these picky kids these days, they don't know whats good for them. I have a couple nephews that are so picky when they eat, if they don't like the looks of it, they won't eat it, they won't even try it, to see if they would like it. My sister which is their mom, is the same way, so thats why they're like that. She cooks what they like, and thats what their used to, and if its anything different, they won't touch it, it aggravates me when they're over here and they act like that. Thats why I say, its probably the way your husband was brought up, maybe his mother cooked special meals for him, because he didn't like what everybody else was eating. If thats the case, I'm sorry to say theres not much you can do to change it, he's the way he is because he was raised that way. My husband's boss is that way, he don't like certain things, and he's not eating them, and his kids are the same way, his wife has to cook extra so everybody will be happy. She told me that when he was little thats how his mom did him, she made him whatever he wanted, not what she wanted to make, but what he wanted her to make. It just goes in a circle I guess. And I guess thats why my husband and I aren't picky because of the way we were brought up. Hope that made sense....have a good day

i also cook separate meals but very seldom.i cook separate if the lunch is chicken. coz i dont eat chicken i cook what i like to eat like rice and vegtables.

thats crazy to cook two seperate meals. not only is it costly but your kids are more likely to develop bad eating habits. my husband is the same way but, i cook dinner and try to make a healthy meat and a few sides that he likes and at least one veggie. then we try to go out to eat once a week if we are able and he gets his fried chicken, steak, or what ever he is in the mood for. i just want my children to learn good eating habits.

Meals can be a problem when someone else wants something different. I used to be a vegetarian and if there was no vegetarian meal prepared for me I would just go on a fast which they did not like so I usually had my own vegetarian meal prepared. I am not picky about my food so they prepare something that others also like (vegetarian) and that solves a lot of problems when meals are prepared.

katsmeow tell hubby if he wants special separate meals hire a short order cook as you are only cooking one meal, a healthy meal that just might make him live longer, so if he wants to eat a lot of red meat and get a ton of cholesterol and have a heart attack, why hop right to it, theres the kitchen mister.and use just those words that might make him pause and rethink his diet. he surely does not want to court a heart attack? Dont give 'in to him as its his health too thats on the line, tell him red meat is proven to load the system with cholesterol which will clog his arteries and lead to a heart attack.he needs his veggies and his fruit and lean chicken and fish tell him this . yell it make him listen tell him you do not want to become a widow!

I make one and if they do not like it they fend for themselves! If I were in your situation I might since he is your hard working man! Best to keep him happy!

Well, when come to eating most mums have to tolerate the family taste buds. My husband is the other way around. He wants food with lots of vegetables. And my son does not like vegetables and another son does not like fish cook in dish, but wants it fry. So when every one is around, I will cook several dishes according to their liking but they can still sit down together and enjoy the food. However, now they are seldom at home so I only got to do it once a while.

you need to tell him you are not his personal chef. and what is made for dinner is for dinner. i know it kind of puts it as u are the parent and he is the child but if you have kids what kind of example is he setting for them? or you can tell him to start cooking his own meals. i know this much- if my husband pulled that crap with me- he would making his own dinner. or if you think that is not the role for a wife- which my mother thinks, then make a set schedual for dinner and one day is for you the next for him. etc. etc. sometimes i notice that the role of the husband thinks that he is in charge, yet it is the wifes role to keep the house going as well as work. there is just too much put on a women sometimes. and with a picky husband like that i would start to treat him like a child. because to me that is the way it sounds. he has taken advantage of you and that to me is unacceptable. men need to pick up some slack.

No way!!!!! I am not the best cook, I do the best I can. I had to self teach myself to cook and I'm not horrible at it or the greatest. But my husband is extremely picky and I am not going to treat him any differently then myself and my kids. If he doesn't like it, he can go to his MOMMIES and eat. It's too hard trying to please everyone in the house, especially when the Mother (in most cases) is the primary person to fix the meals.