Is it love?
By lynettebyc
@lynettebyc (2416)
China
July 21, 2008 8:16pm CST
He(A)'s my classmate when i was at junior high school, we were in the same classes in Grade 7 and Grade 9. Well, i guess we were only 13 or 14 years old. I treated him as a classmate and thought he is very talented. But i never thought that i would some day fall in love with. Well, actually i don't know.
We didn't contact for about 10 years except that once i accidentally got his cellphone number and QQ ( chat tools like MSN) from one of my best friends. And we rarely communicate except for sending seasons' or festive greetings.
Well, two months ago, one of our classmate(B), who i thought is abnormal changed his cellphone and told me that he's the guy A, B said he loves me and i rejected him before, he then try to cheat me by telling me he's A. Although i don't like A too much, but much better than B. B keeps waking me up at a certain time everyday for about one week and we chat sometimes. I always thought he's A~
One month later, he told me the truth that he's not A. They haven't met each other for years. I don't know why B tried to pretend that he's A.
We ( I and B) didn't conctact after that
The story didn't end. I met A 3 days ago on the net. After checking, yeah, i'm afraid being cheated again. He's A acutually, who has just broke up with his first girlfriend 2 days ago. And i comforted him. I told him about B.He knows nothing about him and he told me that he's loved me ever since junior high school, well, 10 years ago.But~ He's just broke up and he's far away from me, and we haven't seen each other for 10 years. Well, it's not bad to have someone who's deeply in love with you, but is he really in love with me? Or just because he's recently broken up and feel sad? He himself said that he won't forget the girl for years although she left him for another man.
I don't know how to express the feeling. The problem is i don't know whether i love him or not, but i feel happy chatting with him.
Every's so dramatic. Can i believe love which was 10 years old at an age which may don't actually know what love is?
We ( I and B) didn't conctact after that
The story didn't end. I met A 3 days ago on the net. After checking, yeah, i'm afraid being cheated again. He's A acutually, who has just broke up with his first girlfriend 2 days ago. And i comforted him. I told him about B.He knows nothing about him and he told me that he's loved me ever since junior high school, well, 10 years ago.But~ He's just broke up and he's far away from me, and we haven't seen each other for 10 years. Well, it's not bad to have someone who's deeply in love with you, but is he really in love with me? Or just because he's recently broken up and feel sad? He himself said that he won't forget the girl for years although she left him for another man.
I don't know how to express the feeling. The problem is i don't know whether i love him or not, but i feel happy chatting with him.
Every's so dramatic. Can i believe love which was 10 years old at an age which may don't actually know what love is?2 people like this
4 responses
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
Well anything that is express out of a broken relationship might just be an excuse for the hurts that he experienced in the past. Well I would be very cautious too if I were you. Mr. A might not be in the right frame of mind to say that he truly loves you since he just came from a relationship that failed. His emotions may not be as stable as it was. I guess you can give it a try when you are sure that he means what he says. Plus the fact that there is this distance that will just be another factor that prevents you two to meet in person and really feel each other if you two would match. Communications on the net is just not enough to really know a person that well.
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@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
22 Jul 08
I guess he's normal, he told me that he loved me while he didn't mention that he would like to be with me in no minute. But he actully indicates me that he hopes to forget the ex and be with me.It will take some time and i don't know how long will it last, it's painful to wait some one without end while he still can't forget the ex.
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@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
22 Jul 08
Hey, yes, we studied together for about 3 years. But we didn't contact later for nearly 10 years.1 person likes this
@summerrain (355)
• China
23 Jul 08
first of all,I am sure that you don't like your classmate B.But from you words,I feel that you a better memory of your classmate A.you say that he is very talent and he is much better than A.
but now,your classmate A is experiencing a broken up emotion,and he is expressing his good feelings to you,although you have not seen each other for over 10 years.so,in my opinion,you'd better wait for several days,for your classmate A to clam down,and show his real feelings to you,I hope that he will not be influenced by his broken emotion.
and then,you may know whether is it a real love.hope you can meet your first Mr.Right!
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@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
24 Jul 08
Hello, summerrain, i think you completely understand my feeling and i appreciate that. I will wait and see if he loves me and if i have feelings towards him
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and i appreciate that. I will wait and see if he loves me and if i have feelings towards him
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@summerrain (355)
• China
24 Jul 08
hi,my friend,thanks for the best response you have given.hope you happy!
all the best!
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
22 Jul 08
It could be love! But I would still give it time since you have not dated yet! it is wise not to rush into anything. Chatting is good but it can be confusing, especially when someone pretends to be someone else! I wonder now if A and B are the same guy?
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@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
22 Jul 08
No, they are not the same. In my opinion, B is kinda of abnormal. I don't like him at all. I thought it's dramtic, because B tried to pretend he's A. He knows well that i don't bother contact him, so he chose another one's name to keep in touch with me. At that time i've rarely contact A, so i didn't doubt. A little complicated huh.
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@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
23 Jul 08
Hey, good idea. I will talk to him later. And at this moment, i just want to accompany him and see him happier than several days ago. I'm afraid of making him sad.
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
..hi.. well, for me, you have to give yourself a break especially that the guy is in that kind of situation.. he maybe saying those words but you need to let him really forget his past relationship first.. atleast, when its really over for him, then he could analyze his feelings for you as you realize your feelings for him too.. its hard to make drastic decisions.. you have to be ready with consequences..
@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
22 Jul 08
Thanks, raynejasper. Yeah, we just talked about the problem last night, he's conscious and he said that he won't make hasty decision until he can finally forget the girl, otherwise it won't be fair for me. I thank him for that thoughtful idea. Problme's whether i should wait for his comeback or should i just walk my way ahead and move on? I mean god knows when he will forget the girl, maybe years, maybe never.
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