What do you consider cheating?

HECK NO I WOULDN'T IGNORE IT!!!!! I am married and to me cheating is anything that you wouldn't do with someone if front of me. Sneaking, telling lies....all of that falls under cheating to me. I am not suspicious of every little thing, but if little things start to turn big things, then yeah, there's a problem. And I don't see why " friends" need to text so much.

I believe cheating is much more than physical. It is emotional. Things manifest in the mind before you act on them. In general, cheating is anything you do that you wouldn't want your significant other finding out about. As for your question, I would be upset because if they have a communication going on 24/7, giving their past, that just leads to other things. That action doesn't show any kind of respect for the relationship.

That is hard. Depending on how they say I love you in the text. TO my guy friends I send luv ya not I love you; simply because I say luv ya to all my friends and I love you to my boyfriend. I would be a little upset about it and ask him to not text her as much because I am his girlfriend now and it makes me uncomfortable. To me flirting can be cheating because it leads the other person and makes me feel like he really doesn't want to be with me.

If it's possible, I would do my best, in a most loving way, to express my honest feelings to my partner. You could say something like, "While I realize you and X are friends, it hurts me that you allow her to send you pictures and say I love you". I would continue with, "As long as you continue to make me feel like I can't trust you, and you continue to put fear in my heart, we can't move forward. I'm not saying you have to get rid of your friend, but, if you value our relationship and if you love me, wouldn't you want me to feel as secure as I could with our relationship"? You might go on to say, "If you expect us to grow old together, wouldn't it be to both of our best interest for us to respect each other's wishes"? "Why can't you respect my feeling"? On the other hand, since you pay all the bills, cut the text ability off. I know that's to the extreme and wouldn't work - it would probably backfire on you, but somehow, your partner needs to have a little more respect for you. Still, another point of view is, until you actuallly have proof your partner is doing something 'against' you and your relationship with her, I don't know if I would worry too much about it. Like I've said before, what's the worst that can happen?

I agree that cheating is anything you wouldn't do around your significant other. I think that you can cheat emotionally as well as physically. In this situation I would ask my significant other what is going on and pray they tell me the truth. I wouldn't ignore it. It has been known that things that you don't know (or ignore) can hurt you in the end.

I think in both ways you are cheating and if I get a message ,I would ignore it

I consider it cheating only when boundaries that have been verbally set and agreed upon between us are broken. My last boyfriend has friends that are exes whom he still cares deeply for and loves, as do I, and we both express that. We know who these people are and their roles in our lives respectively. Both of us agree that to love someone and to be in love with someone are different things. Now if it were someone that I was never made aware of previously, my curiousity would become piqued...