New Marriage and stephchildren

There are two major issues that married couples disagree about. #1 is money and #2 is children. I've read all the comments and see you have worked through your problem. I offer one more aspect to your relationship issues. You and your wife have to find a common ground on how you will correct your daughter's behaviour. If your little girl senses a conflict between you and your wife, she will be confused and the bond you are trying to form will be more of a challenge. A general rule of thumb. Kids hear everything. You may think your daughter can't hear you, but don't assume that. Don't let your your daughter hear when you and your wife discuss private matters, such as how to raise a child. Harmony will come to your family because you care enough and have enough love for everyone in your life. Your positive attitude will spread all around you, filling the hearts of people who appear in your life with hope and an inner calm.

i think you are not only one going through this. better try to make the wife understand she has to invent the way to be friendly with the child. also try to amke friendship between them take them to some vacation and make them come closer.

You are just going to have to let things flow. Your daughter was very young when her mother passed. At three, she wasn't really aware of what he mother dying meant. Now that she's getting older, she's most likely experiencing emotions that she's not sure what to do with. Realization that she's different from her classmates, ect, because she knows this other woman isn't her birth mom, as well as she's becomming a young lady. She may also be feeling some jealousy towards the new wife, as she's getting more of your attention. Even if your last wife had not passed, and you were dealing with a divorce situation, you would still be dealing with some of these issues I assure you! Just reassure your daughter that you love her very much, and hopefully your new wife does the same. Don't try to force the issue, just go with the flow. At some point you may want to look into counseling for your daughter however, because as she grows older, she's going to have questions about her mother and you'll be better served if she's able to cope with it in an open manner.

Time is probally gonna be the best cure in this situation. There is no doubt that the bond between a biological mother and a child is not easily duplicated. Most of it is probally that the child now feels that she has less of your time and affection. If your new wife is willing to make this work she could re-assure the little girl that she is still daddy's little girl and that there is no need to feel threatened by her. They could do things with just the two of them so the kid doesn't always feel like she is fighting for your attention, as well they will build a relationship between the two of them. The kid will soon figure out that she still have the best of both worlds with Mommy and Daddy. Good Luck