Can Love and Lust be Different ...U Lust Someone and Love Another...!!!

Hi Neetu Lust is Lust, it cant be love its just to satisfy ur desire, and get fun of it, its not a pure feeling, just a illusion , a false impression. And love is pure feeling and its not only body u r thinking of but a personality, full of traits, lot of inner qualities. Sincerity, InLust when u think of other, just a body comes to ur mind, and when u think of love a smiling face is their to refrssh u i am afraid ir friens has no true direction and i dont think he love that guy in banglorer too, he might be having good life style which this boy cant provide him, and trust be this guy must be handsome than the one in Banglore Thats self pity, and wrong projestion Take care

I believe that love and lust are different. I understand where she is coming from, but I do also believe that she is wrong to cheat on her boyfriend, unless he is allowing it I suppose. Love is where you love someone physically, mentally, with flaws and want to be with them for ever or at least the foreseeable future. Lust is where you like someone physically and that is it. They could have the worst personality ever but you could lust after them, but never love them.

i think that can be possible. but i have seen in case of men mostly. they may not love,. but lust is there. i have seen my friend felling pray to this. the guy played love with her just for lust and then threw her.

The answer is Yes. Yes she is cheating on her boyfriend. and yes,love and lust are different. And yes,if you love someone you can be lustful for someone else.And lastly yes, if I could, I would do the same thing she is doing. Let me take each response one by one. There is no doubt about it , she is cheating on her boyfriend.If you are that close to another, you are cheating.Love and lust are two different things. You can love someone and have no desire to sleep with them And you can lust after someone and have no love for them. I believe it is better when you put both of them together but they don't have to go together.So since there are too different emotions, of course you can love someone and lust after another.And since I think of marriage as the end of fun and hope, I would see the guy as long as I could and then marry.

I think that if yu roeally love someone very much, then you should control your lust because this is like cheating on your partner... I know that this may sound quite old fashioned and it is a open minded world now but I still think that we should be loyal to our own partner and you will also want your partner to belong to you and only and not share it with other people... Hence, we must be able to control ourselves before we expect other people to do it..

Yes love and lust are two different things.. Lust to me is the desire for someone and love is to be with that person... Yes you can love someone and lust another.. My husband loves me and also lusts me but i know he lust for other people sometimes.... But it doesn't bother me becuase i know he loves me and wants to be with me...

Yes, love and lust are totally different things! Love emerges from heart and soul, while lust comes from bodily features. I am not speaking that any of them is wrong, but certainly I shall proclaim that lust before marriage with any one is quite immoral and unsocial. The compromising positions that you have seen in that particular case is a very good example of unsocial and immoral behaviour of the two! Perhaps the guy (time pass) doesn't love her in real sense. Otherwise he should have taken well care to preserve her social image that is being played so cheaply in public! I may say that the girl is also a time pass item on the hands of the guy! May God save them from getting more immoral and unsocial day by day! Thanks for this sensitive discussion!

It isn't any old fashioned thing or something like that of yours. It is just your point of view. Every one has different points of view. Well In my point of view the girl is cheating her boyfriend.. if her boyfriend doesn't know any thing about this!! If he does then it's WEIRD!! I would never go out with a guy with whom I a not sexually attracted with. Marrying him is way far thing. And just doing time pass around then she IS cheating. Yes if you are not in any relationship yes that includes long distance relationship as well..then you may have these kind friends.. I mean you are alone and Independent you just want to enjoy and do not want any commitment and same for the other person then its ok... I mean you just want to have the time of your life .. There is no rule written that you'll have to in a relationship for that. But remember never cheat any one just make your self clear about what you want. :)

This girl needs a reality check now while she has a chance, or else she may get it someday the worst way by getting hurt real bad, or killed for not alledgedly giving in to whatever some guy demands. She has a false sense of security believing she can control whatever happens later with whomever, when she is actually setting herself up to get hurt. It saddens me to see this when day after day, so many females are mistreated, disrespected, abused, and killed. Also in her mind, how can she expect her boyfriend to respect or trust her, if she behaves like this? Why would she expect him to be faithful when she is not even before they are married? Where did she learn this behavior is okay? The male doing this with her is not being enforced proper respect either, which can lead to irrational expectations with someone else down the road. Men many times will hurt a future female, due to a past female's behavior, and then blame them, while never taking responsibility for their own behavior. It has happened billions of times for centuries now!

Well I think those two words are different and they are not the same at all. I think its true that those can happen at separately or altogether. Although I do not see that what that couple is doing is right at all. I think they are both cheating on their loved ones. I really hope that they would stop this as I find that so wrong that they could freely do that to their loved ones.

well to me these two are very different things. love is mental intimacy while lust is physical intimacy. when in love, two person doesn't need to be physically close. when in lust, the two persons only want to be physically close. usually love comes with lust but not the other way round. a long distance relationship is definitely based on love and not lust. i wouldn't do the same thing as the girl as i wouldn't want my boyfriend doing the same thing. guess it's really up to the individual to decide on their own behaviour.

Good day...the only thing that link love and lust is that they both start with the letter L and that's it. You can not lust over someone you love why because simply you love her/him, it takes precedence over everything. You can not lust over someone you love because you also respect that person, the term lust becomes adoration, intense love making. If you lust over someone it's just a physical thing. You want her/him today or tomorrow but not in your lifetime.

Love and Lust ARE different. What that girl was doing was cheating but had convinced herself what she was doing was right because she felt safe at such a long distance. Lust is seeing someone and wanting them physically. Love is deeper and involves both physical and mental attraction. Asking if you can lust someone and love another is no different than asking if cheating in a relationship is a good thing.

d girl is surely wrong in this case...just ask her how would she feel if her bf there in Banglore was doing the same thing with another girl? n one thing is for sure... dat she is not serious with that banglore boy.love n lust can never b different. n if it ever is den d other one isint love but lust itself. its just a way of playing with others feelings.

Yes she is cheating on her boyfriend. But what I find amazing is that what you describe is what men do ALL THE TIME. They say, "I want a wife at home and a girlfriend to sleep and party with." A comment was made on the radio this week about the bachelor show. A guy said one girl was a dating type and the one to marry. He was referring to the more passionate one as the dating type one. I find that offensive, because I don't understand why a person who is passionate with another one can't marry them. People say it all the time. I would love to marry someone I'm very passionate with and would do anything for him as well. I would never cheat on him for fear of loosing that close passion together. Anything less in what is categorized as the 'married type' per the radio guy, of which I call "high maintenance." The same married type with less passion or lust is described in hundreds of articles, comments, songs, etc for centuries and I totally disagree. The 'married type' as they call it, is the one the spouse will cheat on as you can see this girl is not loyal to him, nor are the men like that either. Those people want and desire passion so they should marry it as well, not go out and cheat on someone to get it. They are cheating on the other person and also on themselves denying their true feelings.

Hi nupats, That is cheating for me, not unless the boyfriend knows about it..I guess there are open couple or very liberated in today's generation... She is maybe having a good time and no strings attached! ANyway, I can't do that...I have a different view about love, and I know this is common to majority.. Love means a lot of things and that excludes having an affair with another man, or satisfying personal needs with another guy!

We live in a complicated world. some people might think of it as something common in their lifestyle while others think differently and consider it as cheating or somewhat inacceptable. For me personally, such an act would bring disaster to her life in the future especially when she really get married with her real BF. It's the way we think before doing things that makes us different with animal. And that thing she does is something that can't be said as thing that a normal human would do. Get real, that's animal stuff.

If she loves her boyfriend, she wouldn't be messing around with the other one and yes, she's cheating! I hope she doesn't get married, if she isn't committed to her boyfriend now, she'll only have more trouble after the marriage. I can't see how she can be messing around with that guy and still have a clear conscience.

wow that chick has all of her feelings screwed up , thats if she has any , so if im hearing this right , shes going out with this other guy getting and kissing together in public places and i guess your doing the same thing , in which you should leave her alone all together ...and on top of you 2 guys she has a boyfriend who i think knows of you two guys right ? or am i wrong lol, basically to me she doesnt care about neither of you guys , shes deff not seriously daitng material to me anyway ...nothing wrongs with ur old fashioned way of thinking i too think in that same mind frame , as far as this girl in particular i again suggest to you to leave her alone and find some one else who serious , cause if she ends up pregant , she already has 3 guys who are im amsuming are ready to father , with you included lol

I know that if a am in a relationship with someone and think I am in love with them but then start thinking about someone else lets say a first love and you can't stop thinking about them and you compare them with the person you are in a relationship with then I would think you are not in love with that person. I think you can be with someone and love another but if you are it's not right to that person who are with.