Would you down grade your child's other parent or grandchildren's other parent?

that is really immuture of that lady.... i hope your child is ok and maybe you can just talk to your ex about his mom's behaviour? or if the worst comes you can just not let your son go but let his brother come instead....

People like your ex in laws just don't realize that they are shooting them selves in the foot. As soon as your son is old enough to have a say he won't be going to visit those grandparents. It is too bad that some people just don't realize how they are hurting them selves. My daughter' husband's mother is the same way and she is hurting herself with her son. He really doesn't like his mother very much.

It is really a very sad incidence. When we elders join together we do sometimes discuss and curse each other for the mistakes or wrong things which we have done to each other. All this discussions and cursing should not take place in front our children as their young minds can always get a wrong impression of one's parents. We should strictly follow this and avoid our children to go and fall into such situation.

my 3 oldest kids dad and grandmother always did. i just always put it to them that they just wanted to keep them to theirselves and thought that would help their cause to lie. as a result, they disliked visiting for any amount of time. after they were grown, now they respect and love me more because they can see for theirselves how manipulating and lying these people can be. 2 of them have very little contact with them and 1 just tells them if they want a relationship dont talk about me. i didnt do that to them because my mother did it to me about my dad and i didnt respect her for that.

Yes, it is cruel of your ex's parents to do that to your son. But it is good to hear that your son is not at all convince and jump to their side. Now that you know they are not sincere, you should stop sending your son to stay with them. You have your own life and just concentrate on your family. I am facing similar situation with my mother in-law. She down grade my husband (her son) by telling me that he was a bad person and had mistreated his ex-wife before. It is not that I do not want to believe her. It was his past life. People change and I can see it is happening to him now. He is a loving husband and he visits his ex-wife and children regularly. After his divorce, he is on better relationship with his ex and they get along very well. Som why is my mother-in-law poisoning my mind about my husband's past life?

Completely unfair for the grandma to act in that way. Shes taking out the problem she has with you on your son and it is not fair at all to him. It is your son and you should have the right to be his guardian and caretaker, not this grandma.

wow that is terrible. i don't have ex in laws, but i bet my inlaws would do that to me if they were my ex inlaws. they talk about my brother in laws wife all the time and they are still married! that is terrible. i feel so bad for your son. i can't believe anyone would do that. what are they hoping to get out of it? i would not let your son go with them anymore. that is ridiculous. I probably would go so far as to cut them off completely. i know in some states grandparents have rights and they could sue you to see him but i would seriously limit contact to them only seeing him when you are around.

That is awful, but in the end it's only going to make your son dislike them and he will probably think twice the next time he is invited to go somewhere with them. It's pretty bad they won't even let him call you. Sounds pretty close to abduction. You don't even know where he is, that makes it worse. If it were me, I'd probably call the cops and tell them what is going on. Tell them the child wants to come home, but the grandparents won't let him, and they won't let him speak to you, and you don't even know where he is.

I remember the first time my child verbally told me about my ex inlaws and his father talking bad about me. It made me so mad. My child told me I was not a good mother because we didn't go to church every Sunday. I was hopping mad, and explained to him that I had to work to pay the bills and since I had to work on Sunday mornings that is why we couldn't go to church. As my children have gotten older they are the ones that talk bad about their "father" who is honestly little more than a sperm donor with shared parenting. They are so mad at him for talking bad about me, and his bad talk hasn't mad the children not like me it has only made them hate him. I tried to talk to him about it and my words fell on deaf ears. I'm sorry your son has to experience this, maybe if this situation comes up again, let him have the choice to go or not. Good luck!

Your son will respect you more in the end. Children do not need to hear that crap from anyone so as hard as it might be for you, do not lower yourself to their tactics by cutting them down to him. He desreves a relationship with his grandparents no matter how they like to degrade you. He knows what the truth is, that's all that matters. But I agree with all of you. It shows how immature and ignorant these grandparents are.

Sad and very wrong that someone claiming to love a child would do such a thing. I went through this as well. My son's father as well as his parents were blooming idiots! ALOT of things happened. I always told my son that I knew they loved him. I tried beyond belief NEVER to talk about them badly infront of him. Believe me, it was not easy! When it was necessary, I would say things like.. "I do not want YOU to do that." or if somthing was not safe.. I would say " I do not want you to do that!" without saying they are freekin idiots and have bad judgment. You see? Alot happened in all of those years. I cried many many tears. My son cried many tears. Always know that the child loves those other people too. It is beyond your control. To make a long miserible story shorter.. When my son was 19, on Mothersday he called me to say-- "Mom, I really love you. I appreciate that you never put down my Dad or talked about about him no matter what he did. You let me decide it for myself. If you had of kept me from him or made me hate him I probably would have blamed you. I needed to see it for myself. I see him for what he is." He thanked me for that and told me again how much he loved me. At that moment I knew that without a doubt, I had done the right thing.

I wonder if your ex said things to her to make her hate you so that she would forgive him for leaving you and breaking up the family. Unfortunately you cannot control the behaviour of others, so she is going to do what she is going to do. It is horrible for her to hurt your son this way. Tell him to say in plain language, "You hurt ME when you talk about my mother like that. You can have your opinion, but I do NOT want to hear it. Please stop talking like that about her in front of me." Maybe it will stop. Maybe it won't. But at least they will be reminded that they hurt him, which is not fair. Would they talk like that about his father to him? I doubt it.