who is to blame?

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in our community, the boys who i grew up with, or at least a majority of them, didn't turn out well in their lives. while the girls became professionals, some of them working abroad, these guys failed to graduate, don't have jobs, and can be seen in the neighborhood store from morning till late evening. what do they do? in the morning, they play basketball, beside the store. midmorning, they take snacks there. lunchtime, they go home, take a nap probably, then come back again at the store in the afternoon. sometimes they play basketball again. then early evening, they would order a round of hard drinks and get wasted throughout the night. so where would they get the money? naturally, from their parents. where else? they don't have jobs, and they do this day in and day out. how could they stand doing this? how could they not help their parents and instead waste their lives and even ask their parents for money. but another question is, what happened here? are these situations only the problem of the children? these are no longer kids, but grown ups from their mid-20s to late 30s. and they are still dependent on their parents. is this really the fault of the children or there was something wrong with their upbringing? what do you think of this situation? what would you do if you are in this situation? good day and God bless you!