Abusive Relationships..

I was in an abusive relationship for 24 years. I finally got lucky when he wanted out. It wasn't quite that easy, he kept giving grief. Today I am happy and doing things that I enjoy. Nothing anyone would have said back then that would have helped. It is a decision that each person has to make on their own. I am willing to be a sounding wall and to discuss problems with an abused person but I cannot tell them how to deal with it. The best thing that we can do is to just be there when they need someone to talk to.

none of my family has ever been in an abusive relationship. But i have one friend who was in that situation before. We didnt encourage him to leave her husband, but we did encourage them to see a marriage counsellor and a doctor and try to fix their relationship that is failing already. We tried to save their marriage for the sake of the children. So far, no more hitting has been done and they have been doing quite well... ;-)

I know alot of people who are in abusive relationships, to vary degrees of it. It frustrates me that these women won't leave their husbands who hit them. There is not much one can do but give support to these people. People say my boyfriend is somewhat abusive (he says mean things to me when he is mad) yet i don't leave. Some abuse i can handle like verbal, but i would never take physical abuse!

Abusiveness happen when the person does not know what is love. My boyfriend was abusive because this was the only were he could have correspond to me or anyone. I buy shows that depict his character and speak with him in a loving manner until he realized that what he was doing was wrong. You see he was brought up in this manner and seeing it in his life he was unable to know the difference. When you love someone you can work with him/her to understand the wrong and right but if you are not interested then it would be good to walk away. I have seen person being killed because of either verbal/physical abuse but it is up to the individual if he/she wants to change. I am glad that Norris was able to understand what he was doing although he is not totally cleanse but the fighting and demeaning things has stop. I would recommend anyone to try and seek counselling or buy movies and watch together. These things does help.

It never happened to me yet. But one of our neighbors they always quarrel with his wife. Sometimes he beat his wife of the children. One day i saw the wife with the children and some bags of clothing. She's going to run away from his husband. I'm happy that she realized it sooner. But what annoyed me is that after one week she returned back and the abusive relationship saga continues.