thoughts on abortion?

United States
July 23, 2008 8:23pm CST
What are you personal thought on abortion? Do you feel strongly either one way or another? Or do you think there is a gray space? I know this is an extremely controversial subject, but I thought it would strike up good conversation if handled appropriately. I personally don't advocate abortion, but I feel that it's the woman's choice. I can see in situations of rape, incest, or for medical reasons (if carrying baby full term will harm baby or mother or both). I don't condone this as a method of birth control! I would always recommend adoption if they don't want to keep the baby themselves. How about you?
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@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
24 Jul 08
I think it's an individual right to choose what's best for them. I don't think there's anything worse than an unwanted child. Luckily the lawmakers here don't believe it's murder, and either do I. Take away a woman's reproductive choice and you step onto a slippery slope. If the government can force a woman to continue a pregnancy, what about forcing a woman to use contraception or undergo sterilization?
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
24 Jul 08
Very good argument,written with respect and an open mind.
• United States
25 Jul 08
I agree, very good argument while at the same time being respectful and non-judgmental.
• United States
24 Jul 08
I feel it should be the choice of the woman. It is her body and she is the one that has to live with whatever she does. I would much rather see the baby put up for adoption because there are a lot of wonderful people in this world that would love to have a child and cannot. But I can also understand having an abortion if there is a medical concern or life threatening situation. In the end, it doesn't matter how much we debate the subject. It is the choice of the woman and no one should make her feel bad for the choice she makes.
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• United States
25 Jul 08
And this will be a topic that will forever be debatable and cause a rise from many people. Controversy doesn't go away easily, does it?
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
24 Jul 08
I am against abortion. We adopted and our two sons's birth mother was raped and they never turned out to be criminals. Aborting because of rape is assuming the infant will turn out to be like his father or be wild if it is a girl. Also it may be that the rapist might be brought to justice and the children would be considered victims and could sue for financial recompensation. As for incest, it is not the baby's fault and if there was something critically wrong, the baby would die anyway. The only case I would be is in an ectopic pregnancy when if the infant develops me, the mother will be killed.
• United States
25 Jul 08
I don't feel that my reasoning behind abortion being justified in rape and incest cases to be because I fear the child will turn out like the rapist. I just don't think I could handle giving birth to a child that was product of such a violent crime against myself and I would never tell another woman that they should give birth in that situation either.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
25 Jul 08
Well, personally I feel that it is the woman's choice. Nobody wakes up one day and thinks... "what a nice sunny day, let me have an abortion!" No woman takes that decision lightly. But the ones who do, have their own reasons and it is not my business to judge it. Abortion is not birth control. But most every woman knows that. Creating laws to prevent abortion will not prevent it and opens a whole new can of worms as another person responded in this discussion. Mainly, it's important that people stop trying to determine what others should do in this subject. Only the person going trough it has that right. We all can have our opinions, for or against, but they are our opinions. We have control over our life and what we decide doing. We should not take it upon ourselves to control other people's lives.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
25 Jul 08
Ok, if you want to put it that way. Usually when we talk birth control we refer to contraceptive methods.In any case what I meant stands. So abortion is obviously not a contraceptive and every woman knows that. IF people don't want to get pregnant they have many means available to prevent it instead of just getting pregnant and having an abortion. HOwever those methods can fail, and if the person feels an abortion is necessary than it's their own decision to do so, not anybody else. I don't have to agree with abortion to understand this. Personally I don't think I would ever decide on having one, but that's my personal view and decision, I would not impose it on others.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
25 Jul 08
I agree with you. There are gray areas.
• United States
25 Jul 08
I agree that taking it upon ourselves to tell other people what to do and how to control their life is not our place. It's not a black and white issue, but rather I feel there are definitely some grey areas.
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@vera5d (4005)
• United States
27 Jul 08
To me, abortion is murder. I am not one of those wacko people who will go on a tangent against those who think it is a choice, but I am very strong in my beliefs :)
• United States
28 Jul 08
And there's nothing wrong with being set in your own beliefs :)
@Hayley_N (525)
• Argentina
24 Jul 08
I am 100% pro-life. I feel that no one has a right to destroy a life that isn't their own. If you don't want the child give it to a family that does want it and will love and care for it. I think abortion should be outlawed. I understand that there are rape victims that become pregnant and it wasn't her choice to become pregnant but it shouldn't be her choice to deny that child a life of it's own. Abortion is selfish because when a woman has an abortion the only person she is thinking about is herself. Hypathetically, what if that child was the one person that was going to grow up and create the cure for cancer; that woman just killed millions of other people with a terminal illness that could have been cured if she would have just given that baby up for adoption. I got pregnant at 19 and could have had an abortion but I kept my child and now I can't image my life without her. Most pregnancies are not planned so why should you get to choose when you have a child. Because you don't think you're ready you get to murder an innocent child that can't even say I want to live. If an unborn child could talk people would have a completely different view. If a woman could tell her unborn child, I'm not ready for you, so I'm going to kill you, and have that child respond, I'm sure that baby would beg for it's life. Murder is illegal in all of the states, so why is abortion ok? It's killing a living, breathing, human life...I would define that as murder. So in my opinion abortion is WRONG!
• United States
24 Jul 08
Thank you for your passion and the support behind why you feel this way! Controversy isn't always a bad thing and I respect all people's opinions as I would hope that mine is respected, even if people don't see eye to eye! :)
• United States
25 Jul 08
@Angelwhispers: First of all, I want to say how strong and courageous you are to share your story. Thank you. Second of all, this is precisely the prime example where I feel abortion is an option, as I said in my original post. I know that if I was raped and became pregnant, I would not be able to carry the baby full term without feeling like I'm harboring the product of a monster. And nobody should tell someone in that position that they can't do what they feel is right. I've found that people close to me, who have the thought that abortion is wrong, quickly changed their mind when put in the same position (I had a cousin who was raped, and a friend who was molested by a relative - both became pregnant and went against their beliefs because they couldn't bare the thought of birthing a child that was derived from such horrible events).
@pearl1003 (668)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
abortion is a BIG NO for me.... if u dont want to have a baby, dont get an abortion, instead, choose adoption. Have you seen the movie, Juno? thats one great film for young teens getting pregnant. Instead of having her baby killed, she chose to look for a couple who loves to have a baby but just can't have their own. After nine months, she had her baby adopted by this mommy-wanna-be.
@austere (2812)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
for me, it should not be tolerated. i mean, having a child is a blessing, and being pregnant is a result of your own doing. if you think you are not ready for any responsibilities that big, then you should not do something irresponsible. being pregnant is just a result of your own actions, so you should face the consequences of what you did.. i was born and raised as a catholic and in our religion, abortion is a sin, in our country it's also illegal. and i think it is just right or anybody who is not ready of the responsibility can just get rid of it that easily.
• United States
25 Jul 08
Yes, in most cases becoming pregnant IS a product of your own doing. But I agree that rape and incest victims do not HAVE that choice...they're forced into the situation and I believe that at that point, they have the choice on how to handle it from there.
• United States
24 Jul 08
this is a very touchy subject and will probably bring in a lot of negative opinions, but i'm against abortions, and I'll just leave it at that.
• United States
24 Jul 08
I don't see why we can't have a mature conversation without people getting all negative about things. So is life! There are going to be things in life that happen and people won't like, but that's life. I was always taught to honor other people's opinions without saying they are right or wrong. That's why it's called an opinion. I thank you for your comment, though :)