Is sorry enough?

I wish that once a partner would say they are sorry they would not make the same mistake once again , and hurt you ,but sadly that is not so . It depends on how deep the hurt is too . I think if it is something bigger you will get a heart felt one and they will try not too hurt you . I think it takes time to not do something once again maybe . I have had heart flet I am sorries , and ones that I know were not true.

I think that the saying that "actions speak louder than words" really holds true here. Yes, if you commit a mistake, you would expect your partner to say that he is sorry, but you would also expect to see some sort of remorse from your partner as well such as in his actions. Have you talked openly to him about this and your thoughts and feelings about this? He may not even realize what you have observed and thinks that saying sorry is enough. My opinion is that you should communicate with him exactly what you have written here and then maybe you two will have a better understanding of each other to better enhance your relationship. Good luck!

Honestly, it is not. My boyfriend will say it to, but then he will repeat his mistake. He never seems to learn.

Sometimes, people are really insensitive when they say sorry. They just say it as a norm, not as something out of their hearts. But there are also cases where a person says sorry and really means it, but due to some reason or the other, they are unable to change themselves for the better. They simply can't let go of their old habits. You said that you "want to think" that he actually doesn't love you. Why force yourself to such a conclusion before searching out other avenues? Sit for a few moments with him. Ask him if he feels some sort of insecurity within himself, or if some sort of troubles are ailing his mind. Have a heart-to-heart talk with him. I suppose that you don't speak very kindly to him when he commits the mistakes. That itself may be making him nervous when the moment comes and he's making the same mistakes over and over again. Be friendly to him. Ask him what his problems are. Be a good and patient listener and let him open up to you. Perhaps you may find that his actions weren't after all, driven by hared towards you. But of course, all said and done, if he's still unresponsive and refuses to cough up any excuses for his behaviour, then there are two ways: either you decide upon a break-up with him, or, the safer option, I should say, take him to a consultant. He'll be able to diagnose if your partner has developed some sort of mental instability or not and can suggest ways and means to cure him.

actually the word sorry is not like she was long time ago =/ is just a word that everybody saying thinking its gonna be fine. i hate when people say sorrys just to me dont be anger with them and back to do the same thinking if they say sorry i will forgive again. and about your question i almost sure you partner still love you. the problem is because he dont stop to think about ur fellings. maybe he consider you love him too much that such thing he do isn't enough to do something about ur love ^^ give him any chance and call him to talk a little. i'm sure he will understand what u have to say about it. i wish u good luck with u partner

I think maybe you're a little more sensitive. And if you think this hurt your feelings I think maybe you should communicate with your parents thoroughly. Tell them what you are feeling. I affirm that will could help you.

A lot of times people say "sorry" for the moment, not for the action. I told my kids a long time ago that "Sorry" meant "I won't do that any more". They stopped saying "sorry" unless they really meant it.

I am sorry to know that may be he his the person who takes every thing lightly it is better if you can sit with me and share your feelings also explain him what you exactly mean by saying sorry to others I am sure he will listen to you.

Sorry is definitely not enough in this case. The situation is becoming worse yet the same words are said. Anyway, you should talk to your partner seriously and sincerely about this. Tell him how you truly feel. Kudos.

I suppose it depends on what the mistake is. It might be something that is quite unreasonable. Girls are often unreasonable and want to make guys do impossible things just to prove their love. This is a very good way for you to grow apart.

Could we be dating the same man? Just kidding. I know exactly how you feel. I've been thru the same thing. So I stopped accepting his apology. He says I'm vindictive for this, but I tell him that if he were truly sorry, he wouldn't keep hurting my feelings in the same way as often as he does. To an extent, he is probably right. I am somewhat vindictive. But it has become a defense mechanism with him. I have waited until the incidint is forgotten about and when the opportunity arose, I treated him the same way that he did me when he hurt my feelings. He was hurt (as I expected). I apologized and explained to him that this is what it feels like when you do this to me. And since you didn't seem to understand it when I told you so, I showed you. It made him think twice before hurting me in the same manner again.

good day... sorry is usually enough provided that he'll not do it again. But if he keeps on repeating the mistake then you should give him a ultimatum. You should be firm on warning him that you won't give him another chance after the last one.

if sorry is enough then we should not have a police anymore coz criminals will always say 'sorry' to the police lol i just state an example like this coz for me saying sorry is important & your saying sorry coz it says that u will not do that again, but after saying sorry for a million times & he keeps on doing his 'hard habit' maybe you should talk to him about it..

hi,yrayne. i think i know your feelings. my huddy does exactly the same thing to me from time to time. i tried not to raise the issue at first but then i couldn't stand it and i told him straight how i felt. and if this was not to be solved, i said in a very serious tone, we might end up parted in our later part of life. It works, he is more careful after our talk. he sometiems said sorry and forget to do something, i remind him if it hurts me and i let it by if not. Now we are good. i would suggest you talk with him and if things still not working out. You simply have to adjust your feelings about this sorry thing.

you can tell him about how you feel. you both should talk about it. well other people think saying sorry is enough, even without meaning the word. if your guy is really sorry, the he should not do it again, make sure he doesnt hurt you for the same reason, or that would only mean he doesnt mean that he is indeed sorry about it. well i only say sorry when i really am sorry. and after i say the word, i make sure that i wont do the same mistake or fault that had offended the other person.

Hi, there. I think it really depends on what kind of mistakes that he commit. Human beings make mistakes and when they sorry it's just the word that they utter so natually when someone else is mad at them. So you need to talk with him first, and be cool, without getting angry. Then watch him, his expressions from which you can judge if he is really sorry or just try to gain your forgiveness. You must have a reason to choose him as your partner at the beginning. Just recall his strong points and the shining parts. Maybe it's just some kinda little bad habit that everybodys holds. Watch for a longer period and then decide. Personally I also very afraid of hearing the word sorry because it definitely means that they have done something wrong to me...and i hope you can figure this out soon.

Sorry is ok ,but if he is upsetting you a lot he needs to change his ways some

That is a nice discussion . Yes Often this things happen in Street , Train and bus . Somebody step in your Foot and say Sorry .It seems to be very Dramatical . The point that you had Mentioned about your Partner is also a real Case like this . I feel same as you .By saying Sorry is not Enough you must change yourself if you really LOVE that Person . It is said if you can´t change the habit saying SORRY will not Change your Habit .In my Openion try to judge more about your Parnter is he doing that Conciously or Unconciously . If that is happening by his Conciousness then it is totally his Fault . It is some kind of disrespect . Speak with him directly and give him a Fear that you can Leave this relation or Leave him . By that see what is his reaction? If he really Loves you then he will genuinely try to rectify him. If not then you can take it that he don´t Loves you at all . Only doing some pretention before you and disrespecting you . Try this tricks to judge properly.

My husband use to do the same thing. It gets to the point where it starts getting old. if he continues to do the same things over and over, he obviously is not sorry at all. Make him make a choice. I did not want to get a divorce over something so small so he had to make a choice to change or not. I am not sure what your issues are but try to work trough them. I had to leave for a day to get my point across. good luck!!

I feel exactly the same way with my Boyfriend. He says sorry over and over but doesn't change. I tell him all the time that sorry means nothing until you actually prove your sorry but like most guys, it goes in one ear and out the other. I feel the same way as well, like sometimes he doesn't love me, but I know he does. I pin it on a guy thing. No offence to them but most of them aren't all that smart when it comes to things like this.