Obey?or refuse?
By azzurebubble
@azzurebubble (25)
China
3 responses
@jerzgirl (9291)
• United States
24 Jul 08
My mother and I go head to head on this one often. She's 91. I'm 53. But, she will still tell me I can't go here or there, what time to go to bed, etc. I'm stubborn and she is wanting more control as her life becomes less controllable (she is blind, has emphysema, has herniated disks which makes walking difficult, bad knees, etc). Although I understand what's going on for her, I still don't like being told I can or can't do something at my age and, yes, I will tell her no. And, mean it.
However, I would begin to worry about her if we weren't butting heads and she wasn't trying to force her rules on me because that would mean that she was giving up on living. So, as long as she is still this way, I know she is OK. 
@azzurebubble (25)
• China
25 Jul 08
I still don't know how to deal with the problem.I know my mother don't mean to control my life,but to want me to escape from being hurt.For example,I love one boy.His family is in poverty.He is a good person although he has a little bit of money.But in China,universally,we pay much attention on the family background.If my mother refuse him,I know,she doesn't want me to live in poverty.But I don't want to apart from him.As I know,there will be no one to me better than him.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
24 Jul 08
Hello azzurebubble,
If your mother tells not do something then you don't your mother knows best and she is wiser and knowing and she knows what right for you so always listen to your mother and learn, MOTHERS KNOWS BEST.
Tamarafireheart.
@azzurebubble (25)
• China
25 Jul 08
But I don't know whether you have thought of the view that is different between mother and child.I like it,but mother hate it.Meanwhile,the thing is so common,we just have the different opinions.
@baddying (88)
• China
1 Aug 08
If I think it is good not to do it, then I won't. But if I really want to do it, I will try my best to persuade my mom and let her know what I think about it. As an adult, I couldn't and wouldn't let my mom control my life--we should respect each other. So if my mother doesn't want me to do something, there must be reason and I will figure it out. Then I will judge that if I should do it or not. I think my mom can understand me.
