How desperate are women to find a partner when they get older?

Hi When you said older I thought you meant older like me at 45 and to be quite honest even though it would be nice to have someone to share my life with in this way I am actually happier on my own. I met someone who I married when I was 23 but wasn't desparate to settle then either he just happened along the way at the time and even though we are no longer together we have beautiful children from that marriage so it wasn't a waste. I think there is something wron with a woman being desparate at any age but very sad if they are only 20. Ellie :D

I am inclined to think it is an act of desperation. I know what it feels like, I'm almost in my 30s myself. I know for a fact my friend flirted with her coworker. She didn't even have any regrets about it. She's 31 years old already and having broken things off with his ex at the time was tough for her. The ex cheated on her. She knew she didn't have more time to mope and sulk. She did try to get her crush but well, she ended up with the best friend of her crush.

Hello koharukusumi. You have posed a very interesting situation. I can speak for myself in saying that when I was much younger--teen years and early 20s--having a boyfriend or man in my life was very important. I was compelled to be with a man all the time. I think that in some cultures, if a woman doesn't have a partner, she's seen as unlovable or someone who "can't" get a partner. I know now that having a partner should be a choice for everyone--they should have a partner if they want one, not to make themselves or other people think better of them as an individual. It seems to me that if more young women would spend their time and emotional energy on getting education, working hard, and creating a life they love for themselves, they would have much happier lives in the long run. Maturity does bring with it some wonderful things like self-confidence and self-esteem. And if you have these 2 characteristics, then you know that you do not need a man to survive or enjoy life. Although it's nice to find the "right" partner, settling for less is never a good plan. Good luck and do take care.

It all depends very much on the woman involved.There are lots of women who would love to find the right partner and settle down to have a family ,and do all of that while they are still young,but often its not possible because they just dont meet Mr Right.Religion sometimes dictates that a young woman should be married and start her family at a young age.But on the whole I dont thinkthat women are deperate,most women I know are just coasting along and enjoying life,and if that special man comes along ,then so be it,the wedding bells will start ringing then.But there is no hurry for any female to settle down,she will know when the time is right,and theman she has met is the one for her,so lets all take our time,and make sure that when we say our wedding vows that its to the right man.

Well, I guess its true that as you get older your more willing to accept the flaws of the guys more then when I was younger. I'm 29 and still single and every day I'm trying to find mister right but he hasnt knocked down my door yet. When I was younger nobody seem to meet my standards and when I did find someone, either I wasnt good enough for them or I found some way to chase them off and in all honesty, I wasnt really ready for a permenant realtionship when I was younger, I'm not really sure I'm ready for one now but I'm looking anyway! Hugs, Tianna

in 20's and that is being older? can't understand. I thought women would start loking for apartner only when they cross 25 or so..may be things are different...Iam confused over the fact that it is a maturing process or a pathetc act of despair

i think it may be true in many cases. but there are exceptions everywhere. some are happy to be single. in some parts its new way of life.

Irrespective of age, I think all women are desperate for that perfect partner. Dunno how older women think but they're well settled, it might only be lust they seek.

I think it can be either, but a lot of women as they get older give up on men. The idea of living alone or with roommates is not so bad after all. Other times, we make a mistake and going back to an old love is not a bad idea. The people who knew us when we were younger just may have more potential, as they have the ability to remember us the way we were!

i think they are desperate that they will remain single in their age. but what is really important there if you are really ready a long last commitment to a person and be a responsible woman to them.

20 is still too young to be desperate, 40 years old is the age of desperation, i think.