living abroad for saving

hi rahil.. the topic that you have started can only be answered by those who r or have lived away from their family in pursuit of earning a big buck...so i dont see it surprising for you not to get many responses so far. secondly the topic is quite sensitive and people who do not know you may find it very difficult to advise. most of them will suggest you to keep your family with u in kuwait(an emotional quotient behind it. but lets be practical. i know the living cost of maintaining a family abroad..it rips you apart and you wont be able to save much. i was faced with a similar dillemma and finally i had to decide to send my family back from dubai which was a mutual agreement between me and my wife. after i went back to dubai i found it more difficult to survive...i was missing them a lot more than what i used to..it was painful. let me suggest u a better alternative. this time when u come to india on a vacation...dont relax and dont waste ur time...instead hunt for a job here...trust me graphic designers r well paid here too. u have good experience on pc and mac which is a plus plus plus. what ever package you get here will be much much better than what u actually end up saving with family in kuwait. (just to boost ur confidence...let me remind u of kazim who had taken this decision and is doing really well now. u have much more experience than he had) i really feel that its high time we come back and do something in our own country. so think about it. discuss the idea with ur wife very calmly..and i am sure she will understand. all the best. God bless you

Rahil_thkr, you are neither right nor wrong. You are asking an opinion about your own opinion of moving your family back home. If they do not want to go back to India, and you want them to...this is just a decission that you can't agree on. Yes, you can maybe make more money than you did in India. However, things cost more, and it may cost even more to move back home, to India. If you both work, in your new country, you could make more money, than one person only working, but...you can either work at different times, and take turns watching the kids, or if you work the same time, you may have to pay someone else to watch the kids. I do not know if there is someone old enough to stay home with them, that will not cost so much. If there are other kids, you can all take turns watching all their kids, in exchange, they can watch your kids, when you are at work. This won't cost extra money, but will cost extra time, for everyone with kids. Also, if you do not mind watching other kids, you can babysit at your home, if it's big enough, and probably charge more money, because if people make more money for working, they have more money to pay you for babysitting. All the above are JUST ideas. I am sure you all have your own ideas, and suggestions how to save money in your new home. I just added some new ideas for you to possibly think about. Just, if you decide, and your family agrees to move back to India, it will cost money to move back. It will cost more money to do this, too. This is money that will be harder to earn back, if you do not make much money in India. Just remember this, before you and your family decide to stay, or leave your new country, and home. I was wondering if any of your children are old enough to either have a job to help out, or to work around the house to help out, some. I do not know if they are even old enough to watch the others if the other adults were working. You do not need to tell me how old the children are. I was just trying to help out with some ideas. But, either way, the decission would be a family one. Even if you have an idea to move back to India, if the rest of the family does not want to, they probably will not. Either way, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But, nobody is right, and nobody is wrong. I am not right or wrong, either. In fact I am more wrong, than right, because I am not part of your family, and do not make the decissions for you. The reason most people will not respond to this decission is probably because they either do not have an opinion, or ideas to share, or because they may not want to. Plus, it is not their decission to make. It is a decission for your family to decide. Chrystinah, your friend, forever.

All parents wants a better future for their family. Talk to your wife about this and make sure both agree on the matter you will discuss. If that decision would be for the good of all specially the kids, try to make her understand. communication is one way to solve this problem also understanding. So better discuss matters to her and weigh the pros and cons of you decision.