what would you do if your friend's got a bad breath?
By rhane7315
@rhane7315 (5649)
Philippines
July 24, 2008 9:17am CST
how would you confront him/her about that?
my friends knows me that i'm the kind of person who doesn't know how to use the word "frank". so i can't tell him that i don't breath whenever he talks since it would embarrass him not only to me but also in other people around us. aside from that, i know that he would feel insulted if i told him about that. well that's what happened last sunday when we were watching the Ragnarok GMA (greater manila area) regionals at the mall. if i can't really breathe then i would put some hanky covering my mouth and nose then i would breath for just a second in order for me to just get enough air. i feel like i'm under the sea since i can't breath normally because he's got a bad breath. he's talkative so i need a moment not to breath when he talks lol
if you're in my situation, would you tell him about his breath or would you stay quiet just like what i did?
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49 responses
@goddessofbeauty (713)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
if you are a real friend, you would tell the truth, because he or she might be hurt when he has learned about this from other people. if you don't want him or her to be hurt, just tell him or her so he or she could do something about it.
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
thanks for that. but i don't know how to say it in a nice way that i think it wouldn't offend him
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Hi rhane,
That is hard..LOL! I haven't tried that actually..I have no guts maybe if I am also in your situation..But, I guess it will be better if you're the one who will tell him rather than he will be insulted by another friends...
Just maybe say it like a tease, like..what did you eat today? I can smell something..LOL! I do know it it's the best but I have nothing to suggest..
I have not tried that to my friends..LOL! We have a problem before but it was a friend whose armpit is very powerful..LOL! We just gave him a deodorant as a gift!
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
lol i guess your friend can defeat a villain with her powerful armpit just kidding . i think you're right about that, i'll try to tell him about it by joking. thanks for that
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@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
It's his girlfriend's job to complain about his bad breath. After all, she's the one being tortured while kissing him! If he doesn't have a girlfriend, find one for him!
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@awapak (1275)
• Pakistan
24 Jul 08
I think there is no harm in telling such person.There is a medical treatment for this problem in Homoeopathy and he or she can be cured easily...........Please try it........
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
i would definitely tell him about that. thanks for that nice suggestion
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
thanks for that great suggestion madhan2u
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@dhevasena (144)
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24 Jul 08
Well, if i was in your situation I would buy some mints and offer him one casually and i ll take one too so as not to offend him!
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
that's also a nice suggestion. thanks to that
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Sneak a breath mint next to them, or politely talk to them and say, "Can you smell your breath, please? You might want to do something about that?" I try not eat things that will make my breath smell and I brush my teeth about two to three times a day with tooth paste that makes my breath smell great.
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
i guess i don't have the guts to say the 2nd option that you gave since we're not very close. but i'll try that one if i gain enough courage
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
24 Jul 08
I know that many people would mention your friend's bad breath and this would hurt his feelings. You are thoughtful and care about his feelings so that is really good. I suggest buying some mint flavored chewing gum or mouth wash and let him try this. Then get a friend to complement the fresh minty sort of smell. He might then buy and use that product and in doing so freshen up his breath. Good luck.
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
thanks for that wonderful suggestion. i would try that once we meet again
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@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Jul 08
Just put it across in a nice way.
Tell the person nicely or just make a joke and then say its really serious.
If I had a friend with that problem I would end up avoiding them.
Its awful having this bad smell when they talk to you.
Being with somebody like that is an act of will
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
i agree with that. i'm gonna tell him about it by making it as a joke to him. thanks to that
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
24 Jul 08
It depends on what friend and how close i am to them. If they are just an acquaintance I'd likely take a piece of gum for myself and offer them a piece as well while stating I'd hate for people to think i have bad breath.
A close friend...I'd feel comfortable letting them know some how that they have bad breath, a polite suggestion...or hint.
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
yes, giving them a good hint would help them realize that they have something bad on them. thanks for that
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@marcroswell (473)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
That's a tough one, huh! I also find it hard to tell that if i have a friend who's bad breath. It's quite difficult to let him know without hurting his feelings or offend him. I am sure he'll be offended in some ways. But, if i am in your shoe I won't tell him directly coz I can't. What i will do is, once in a while if you'll get a chance, encourage him to brush his teeth. I mean, both of you will do the brushing. If for example you're in school, during break time ask him to come with you coz you need to brush your teeth, ask him to do the same. i am not sure if this will work. or my suggestion is very elementary...but that's one of the things That I'll do. Another thing, i'll give him a set of things needed in cleaning his teeth.
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
i appreciate your suggestions. i'm gonna try that once we've seen each other again
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@renitaperrone (547)
• United States
25 Jul 08
I would definitely tell him in a nice way. It's not only you who has to suffer through it, but everyone he is in contact with. Maybe offer a mint, or a piece of gum or something! That would be rough!
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@greenglitterturtle (2750)
• United States
25 Jul 08
when i was little i had a sister-in-law whose teeth were black and white. they were rotting in her mouth. her breath was horrible and when she got close to me i tried my best to hold my breath. it was difficult because she would talk to me close to my face. but i never said anything. many years later she ended up going to the dentist and have them removed and is now wearing dentures.
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
haha lol maybe i'll also try giving him a listerine as a gift for his birthday XD
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
25 Jul 08
Hi rhane, I think I might be a little like you and not want to embarrass my friend. On the other hand, if it was someone that I'd known a long time and felt that he wouldn't be upset I would tell him. Sometimes it is very difficult to know how to handle situations like this, and I know that it must have been a difficult for you. Blessings.
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@monishavakil (1019)
• India
25 Jul 08
well if it is a very dear friend yes i would tell him or her and ask them to do something about it. I rather be the one than a total outsider. Howvere if the friend is just a casual friend i would may be offer a gum or a sweet and hope he or she gets the hint.
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
25 Jul 08
hello rhane,
poor girl!
sorry to hear bout your "bad" experience" LOL
to answer you question, i am always known for telling what i i have inside and most of the time labeled as "tactless" by my friends and family coz i say what i feel is needed to say and not just shut my mouth coz it is not healthy for me specially for those who are involve.
i remember one of my great friend who have the same problem.
i told her that she is having breath problems and that is not good.
i dont just blurt it out out of nowhere of course coz i dont want her to feel embarrassed and or others to judge her though i know there are those who already knew but dont have the guts to tell it to her.
anyway, so i just ask her to go out with me one day and i there i say it!
i know it hurts her BUT it hurts her knowing it is circulating and no one even gave her the information so that breaks her heart.
you have to understand that those who suffered from bad breath (most of them) dont even know it or in denial.
bad breath sometimes is not caused by poor hygiene but intestinal problems so they have to be aware of that as it is not good to just let go of one health conditions specially if its becoming an issue.
i think, knowing that i can tell anything with my friends makes them feel safer and that they know that they can rely on me no matter what.
i know there is negativity on that as that may cause misunderstanding but honesty is always the best policy so just be it.
dont let yourself suffer coz of his breath, if you dont tell him - who will? if none come up to do the move then you are meant to suffer whenever you go out with him.
your call!
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
I will tell him about his bad breath problem.
I don't want others to tell it to his face
because it would only embarass him more.
It's better that I will be the one to tell him.
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@snowbitz (487)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
me too i can't tell my friend about the breath because i don't want to offend my friend.What i would do is lets say like watching the tv if i don't have enough air so that it would not be too obvious i would change my technique in avoiding the breath like standing and getting something or making a call coz you forgot to call somebody or go to the rest room .There are so many ways to avoid hurting someone since you are not confrontational.
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