How do I tell my cousin?
By coolchic101
@coolchic101 (848)
United States
July 24, 2008 9:31am CST
My cousin is in the military and we are planning to visit him and his family next month. When we visit them, my family and I plan on staying at a hotel instead of sleeping in their house. We like to have our space and often stay at hotels when we visit people (even if they have ample bedrooms in their house). However, I know my cousin will insist on us staying at his house instead of at the hotel (it came up in a conversation years ago and when I suggested the hotel, he got offended because he likes being hospitable). How do I tell him that we prefer the hotel without getting his feelings hurt?
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@Darkwing (21583)
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24 Jul 08
Your cousin can be hospitable just as well when you're staying in a hotel closeby as if you're staying at his home. I'm sure, deep down, he likes to have his space and privacy, in the same way you do.
I'm sure you'll have a great trip anyway, and he'll be more than happy to see you. Brightest Blessings.
@coolchic101 (848)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I'm sure he will get over it. However, I'm looking for advice on how to tell him that we prefer staying at a hotel instead of at his house.
@Darkwing (21583)
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24 Jul 08
Ok, yes, I'm sorry... you did ask for advice on how to tell your cousin. I would simply say, "Thank you so very much for offering to put us up, but I feel we both need our space, so am declining on this occasion, and taking a hotel. It's no bother to me to do so, and I then feel that I'm not trespassing on your privacy. I hope you understand."How's that?
