Why are people so rude when giving advice?

We're not being rude, we're being blunt. We don't beat around the bush when it comes to stating the obvious. We're just saying what other people are afraid to. (I use the term "we" and "I" because I am one of those people who sometimes gets insinuated to be a rude person when giving advice - I'm really not, I'm a nice guy! lol) I use sarcasm a lot and some people don't get the feel that it is sarcasm and think it is rudeness. Yes, those jeans turn your stomach into a muffintop. You talk too loud on your cell phone. Why are you such a slow driver? :) That was sarcasm. //I think my MyLot rating is about to go down// lol

yup, that's why i always pick the right person that i think can give me an advice in a nice way, even if they critize me, i'll accept that as long as they tell it nicely :) but if i'm dealing with people who likes to judge other people, i better shut my mouth up and tell them nothing or else i'll be judged by them with harsh & jugding words LOL

I have one friend/family member that is like this also. She tells me all of the time that I should just give my one son to the state and have him adopted. My son has all kinds of issues and if he doesn't take his meds then he gets really mean. I try to have some compassion when giving advice because that is what I would like someone to do to me.

you run into all kins of folks.i don't think some of them even know how they come across. if i don't want to listen to them i just tune them out.

I think when it's written down, it can be hard to tell the tone of someone's voice. You have to be careful when you give advice online that you don't sound 'preachy' or arrogant, and it's very hard to tell sometimes. It can be very easy to misinterpret someone's tone and think they are being rude or mean, when really they are just trying to explain something clearly.

I think sometimes it's just the way they talk. They might not realize that they're being rude--they might actually think that they're doing some good by telling you the truth. It would probably be best to let them know that you're not really interested in their advice--that you liked the decision you made. If they still don't back off, then they're being rude. Otherwise, it's always best to clarify with them first.

yeah! there are those people who are giving advices to the extent of making you cry! haha! why? coz their words are so powerful...really powerful! those words will mark a pain in you!

Yes, they are called to be dictators I hate such kind of people if I ask any one for advice I first want them to listen completely and then suggest me in a good manner if they are rude in giving me the advice I never follow or take their advice not only that if any situation arise in future I never ask them again.

yup... so many times. i always say "are you mad or something?. im just telling you a story, im not asking for you opinion." they became awfully quiet after that. hahaha! :)) but i do tell that sometimes especially to friends. i dont think they're being rude. i think they are just irritated. but its still not an excuse to be angry! hahaha! :))

Every now and then they show up in my life's scenes. Of course, they would always imply the entitlement to individual differences but I'm wondering what if they choose to be prudent and wise by being able to conquer their emotions and be perceptive just for once.

Most people are rude when they are giving advice. I don't think that most people are trying to be rude or bosy but sometimes when they are giving you advice they are thinking what and idiot or they are annoyed that you are doing something or have done something that they think is dumb or immature. I think that is why they sound so bossy or rude.

Hi! Maybe they are not aware that they sound like rude. Or maybe they just talk like that. But the point is, its not the way they deliver the advice to you but the point of reasoning and the lesson that the adviser wants to give you. Application is the hardest part so take an extra effort on that. Just always smile and the world will smile back to you. God bless!

yes as a matter of fact i feel just like that sometimes!!! specially because im an person who dont like anybody what to do! but i guess i get like that sometimes too! its normal

Advice is one thing everyone knows. Usually they are harsh because they do know the right thing to do but would never do it themselves. The advice is usually for themselves also.