Today would be my mom's birthday
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
July 24, 2008 11:38am CST
But she died a year and a half ago. 
I've thought about going to visit her grave, but when I called my brother to ask exactly where she was buried, he said he hadn't buried her yet. She's still at his house. 
He had her cremated, and he hasn't decided what he's doing with her ashes. He told me when she died he was going to bury them with our oldest brother, who died when he was 2 years old, long before we were ever even thought of. But now he might want to scatter her ashes along with our other brother who died when I was 12. He was scattered off a mountain in the adirondacks.
Well, I don't really know the point of this discussion, just felt like sharing. Feel free to add any thoughts you may have.
I've thought about going to visit her grave, but when I called my brother to ask exactly where she was buried, he said he hadn't buried her yet. She's still at his house. He had her cremated, and he hasn't decided what he's doing with her ashes. He told me when she died he was going to bury them with our oldest brother, who died when he was 2 years old, long before we were ever even thought of. But now he might want to scatter her ashes along with our other brother who died when I was 12. He was scattered off a mountain in the adirondacks.
Well, I don't really know the point of this discussion, just felt like sharing. Feel free to add any thoughts you may have.3 people like this
3 responses
@granite_butterfly (448)
• Canada
24 Jul 08
May I be the first to say that grieving is a highly individual process and that anniversary dates can be very tough. Your mother's soul has left her earthly remains and you don't need those remains or symbolism to grieve her. Make her a birthday card or light a candle to reflect on her being. The list is endless but your grief needs to be actualized in what ways you can. Grief is tricky and most certainly nagging but you can honour your Mom without a grave or urn. May she rest peacefully with the benevolent God of my understanding.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
27 Jul 08
Am so sorry she passed on kats...that is our dstination too, i hope you know that-my own mom passed away last year-but in that land of no return, you feel a sense of comfort to imagine that someone as dear as you mum is already there, waiting to receive you to an eternal family reunion! Remember the things you used to do together on her birthday, do them all and feel good about celebrating this day for your sweet mama post-humusly!
