Aggravating husbands!!

It aggravates me when I ask my husband if he wants something to eat, he will say, NO I am okay. I then go about whatever I'm doing, probably mylotting, as soon as I get into it, I hear, "baby" what is there to eat. grrrrr, that aggravates me I've gone through the I'll do the dishes too, and I get up in the morning to make coffee for him, and the dishes are stil in the sink.

The things that I got aggravated over my husband not doing has long come and gone. I don't expect him to do anything and I get no surprises. In your case though since he did say he was going to do them I would get a little irritated. It is the thing that he told you he was going to do them. That is the point. Don't offer if you are not going to do something.

Well my husband said that he would do a lot of helping with the move that we just made, but its been over 3 weeks and I am still the one unpacking boxes and trying to figure out where things should go. I was totally frustrated before, but hey since I get the summer off from work, I'll get around to everything in due time. I am not going to rush this since he obviously does not care how soon everything gets put in its place!

My husband has done a LOT of things to aggravate me lately - I think it's my hormones. He's started turning around and starting to walk off while I'm still in the middle of a sentence ... it's driving me crazy! He's probably always done it, but for some reason I'm noticing it now. And he makes toast and puts it on his side table without a plate - which leaves a greasy mark! GRRRRR!

I am like you...I am at home everyday and cook every night and after dinner I always get up and start to clean up. My husband usually tells me to stop and he takes over. My problem is he doesn't do all of it. Like he doesn't wipe down the stove or the table. I never complain though, I am grateful that he does what he does. I am afraid if I say anything he'll stop volunteering..haha

This happens to me all of the time. My husband is self employed and stays home with our 2 little ones, 3 and 5. I occasionaly will ask him to do a few basic tasks, take towels out of the dryer or vaccuum while I'm at work. The stuff that I don't get to because I'm trying to do other things at work. Rarely does it get done instead he waits until I get home and then does it. The point is that I wanted it done so I didn't have to look at it. The other thing that drives me crazy is walking into the kitchen after work and having to clean it before I can make dinner. I would say 3 out of 5 nights the kitchen is clean but those 2 days drive me nuts. I know staying home with the kids is hard but he doesn't do anything on the weekends - I do everything (except yard work - won't do it). Many people tell me its my fault because I just jump in and do it - truth is if I didn't do it, he would but in his own time.

LOL MY son and I stayed at my Moms yesterday night (it was her b-day and it is a 34 mile drive one way most of which is a bridge drive), so he said he would clean the house. Come home today and some of it si done, which is good, but he hasn't finished....He claims to have gotten up at 7:30am, we got home at 11:30 am...yeah...If I got up at 7:30 and all I had to do was clean, the house would be spotless!

I hear this a lot from married women, "Honey, do the dishes and take out the trash." Husband, "No!" or "I'll do it later." Men, seriously, want to please your woman, then do your part of the chores. We do not ask for much. We get that men have to work a lot and that they bring home the bacon, but seriously, didn't your mothers raise you better than that? I know that they did. How would your mother feel if you treated her that way? If you did not do it to your mom, then do not do it to your wife.

I would have been aggravated too and I would have left them for him to do tonight. It would have driven me crazy but I would have. I guess you could tell him when he gets home that "oops sorry, I forgot to cook dinner". Wonder what he would do then? I think that they sometimes see what they can do that we will let them get by with.

I understand not wanting to leave him dirty dishes, but if you just call him and tell him you did what he took on as his responsibility, in the future you can expect him to do this again. I understand people are not perfect, but if he is asking for a responsibility, let him take it. Even though it might bother you that the dishes are in the sink, he will realize (and respect you) because you will stand up for yourself (to HIM of all people, because your man is THE MAN :) ), and you will make him be a man of his word because that is who you know he is. Whether his word is about his love for you, the job he's going to do, or about house work, you want to be able to trust that your man has your back. I am sure both of you eat. I am sure you both benefit from the dishes being done. If you say you are going to do something, does your husband expect you to do it? Same goes for him. My boyfriend aggravate me? I hate laundry, but he works construction and very hard for the both of us so I can go to school, so I take on that responsibility (although when I'm stressed or busy, or just don't want to, he'll do it) but the one thing I ask, to make it a little bit easier for me, is to move his empty hangers to the front. I will have to search through all his t-shirts (which he must have hung up? W/e makes him happy...) just for a hanger to hang up HIS shirts he loves hung up so much.... He started doing it for a while, but old habits die hard, he gets it sometimes, but others it's as if he just gets dressed and goes... I am obsessive-compulsive, so maybe that is part of it, that's why I try not to freak out so much about the things that drive me insane, it might just be me... :) I know he wakes up early, but if you hear something enough you'd have to think of it at least 1 time while looking at a hanger...

Lately? How about daily. LOL My biggest beef with him today is the trash. Sorry, but in our household its the guys job. Right now there are two trash bags on the porch and the kitchen can is almost overflowing. Just how hard is it to empty the trash and put it in the dumpster???

Hi.... Your not alone my fella does it 2...I usually do the sandwiches for work and he said "its o.k sit down you have done enought I will do them" so I went up for my showercame down lay on the sofa and driffted off to sleep, he work me up to go to bed, anyway woke up the next morning for work come down to put sandwiches in the lunch boxes and guess what....They werent there. The lazy so and so hadent done them. and now he has the cheek to turn round and say "why don't you let mne help you with anything, I could make the sandwiches". What a bloody pain in tha backside lol!!!!:)

hahaha! and what exactly made u think u could believe a man when he's made such a promise? lol. most probably he just wanted u to sleep early so that he could do some..ahem..things.. well, at least you are wiser now

I have to admit I am so happy that I am not the only wife out there that this happens to! My Husbands way of helping (when he does) is soaking the dishes for a few days (if I let that actually happened)so it's easier to clean the dishes. HUH??? WHAT??? SO I would rather just do it myself, and if he wants to help I just let him do the soaking, I'll go back in there and finish it up. I've come to realize that I can't not take the help because then it seems like I always want it done now, and my way.

well my hubby said he would do dishes last nite, but i know he was tired so i let him sleep. i let him do that because he MAKES supper so i dont have to stand very long and also because i am on sick leave currently and he is the primary bread winner.

My husband has done that a few times. What I end up doing is when he gets home remind him of what he was suppose to do and didn't and then task him with that same chore again. This time however, watching to make sure he actually gets it done before bed. Sometimes they have great intentions, they just get a little side tracked. Kinda like kids.

Man, I would be annoyed by that too. You could always leave them for him for when he gets home tonight. I would get sick of looking at them before then though.

I live in a stae of aggravation with my husband alot of times, but lets see, he gave the cat the wrong kind of food this morning the cat wouldnt eat it and kept meowing, but he doesnt feed the cat that often so he probaby didnt know what to do. That's about it unless you count wearing a shirt with a piece of cereal stuck to the elbow, lol. He's a real peach sometimes.

LOL. That is to funny. He must have just felt bad that you were doing. Mine would have told me he was soaking them overnight to make them easier to wash.

Must be something in the air! My hubby acting strang to. If he did not want to do them he should have just told you.