Don't Leave me here all alone?

No, I have never lived alone, just me on my own. The closest I have ever been to living alone is when I was a single parent but that is not the same really. I have four children and so if and when they all leave my house will be terribly silent! But that will not be for quite a few years yet, as my children are still little.

I have lived on my own for 2 weeks and I made it just fine, but then again I'm not really an outgoing type. But even being by oneself for that period of time can be pretty daunting. I think that getting something to keep you company, like a pet, would not be a good idea. You should also call some local friends to get out of the house at least once a week.

I like what spark said momma. The part about being comfortable in your own skin. Being 'alone' has its advantages sometimes. It also has its moments when the quietness is maddening, but for the most part, it doesn't take long to get used to it. As long as those great kids remain in your heart, you'll never be alone. You'll always have them close to you.

Yes I used to live with people almost 1/2 my life so I was used to haveing people around. It wasn't til I was 29 that I lived by myself. Yes it took time to get used to but now that I have actually been liveing by myself for quite sometime now I like it. Not all the caos like I was used to being around it's quiet and it's less stressful. You I'm sure will do just fine when the time comes to liveing alone who knows you might like it. Your kids I'm sure will come and see you but yess unfortunately they grow up and move on and it's hard to see them go after being in the house for so long. I hope you do enjoy the time when it does come for you have fun and take care.

I got divorced a number of years back and about that same time my son moved out also. He was tired of dealing with his Dad's anger issues and just couldn't deal with it anymore. It was rough the first few months, but after awhile I got into a routine and got used to it. At least you have two others living at home so its something you can get used to over time. :) Don't worry, it will work out.

that's the reality that every parent should learn to deal with them gracefully. altho you wont see each other everyday or very often... but you can still see him whenever you want or anytime... its better than not being able to see him at all for the rest of your life.... he maybe be moving far from your house but you still 2 son/ daughter who are still with you... you spend your quality time with them more.. value and treasure them while you can.. so can still survive or live with their memories just like it just happened the other day when in fact they will be leaving soon too.... don't be afraid i know your children will not leave you alone, you need to let them go to find their future and their selves to make them a better person =)

I have lived alone before I had my daughter and I really hated it. It was so lonesome with no one to talk to and I was scared alot of times when I heard noises and such. I was bored during the day and was scared at night time when it got dark. I always liked to have someone to talk to when I laid down in the bed and I also liked to get cozy or warm with someone beside me. You will miss your kids when they move out, but the peace of mind of being able to make decisions for yourself in life again will be nice also.

The only time I was on my own was when we first moved to Samoa. Because my husband and I were not married yet (samoan custom), we were not allowed to live together, so he stayed with his Dad at his grandparents place, and I stayed in a one bedroom flat on my Uncles property, with them living next door in their own 3 bedroom house. It was lonely especially at night. My husband would visit every day but was not allowed to stay over (he did a few times though haha).

If you can entertain yourself. If you are comfortable in your own skin. If you are interested in your own thoughts. And if you don't mind eating straight from a can, you can live alone. In fact, you'll probably enjoy it. You are so totally your own boss in your own home and the freedom is liberating. I've done it often and frankly prefer it. That's because I don't depend on other people to give my life meaning and purpose. I make my own. I think you will be just fine momma. I really do.

I'm sorry to hear this, but you should be happy for your son. I'm sure a lot of parents feel this way and there are ways to go on. I think taking a class of an interest of your choice would be good. Find something that will take some of the anxiety away about being alone. And by associating in a classroom you will be surrounded by people and possibly make new friends.

Momma..you will either love it or hate it... I grew up with 5 sibs and married at 18..had 5 children and now all of them are on their own..most with children of their own..and when i found out i was going to be alone for the very first time..i was hesitant..its been now 4 yrs and I Love IT! I can come and go as i please..watch what i want on tv..eat what i want..and sleep wherever i want..my children live close by so i can see them if I want but i fine that after we have get togethers and have fun i look forward to MY TIME..where I can kick back..take whatever clothes off i want and relax and come on here and bug all of you..LOL Enjoy it and Do something for yourself!

I am glad you brought this discussion up I am having a ahrd time myself.I have been raising my daughter by myself since she was four,I never brought different men into our world I saw what that did to my nieces,nephews and friends kids.I kept my dating outside of the house and never got serious with anyone,i just couldn't bring myself to risk a man coming into her world.claiming he loved her eventually and possibly disciplining her and then letting her down like her father did when we broke up.It isn't fair what this does to children.Anyway here I am with a 17 year old daughter talking about colleges and possibly living on campus after her senior year.I have everything in the world to be proud of with her.She is an excellent student and a pretty well behaved kid.However what do I do now when she does leave the nest???? Last year I let her take a trip to Disney with some very close friends,I wasn't worried I knew she would be well looked after but I couldn't believe the feeling of abandonment I felt when she called me from Florida.I didn't se it coming at all,I was very depressed the rest of the time she was gone instead of enjoying my time alone I slept through most of it. I still don't have the answer for what to do when the kids leave the nest and we are alone,I grew up in a house with 5 brothers and sisters,I have never lived alone either. I have been playing cards a lot with some friends but that gets old quick,I don't go to clubs or anything and I don't like bingo or bowling.I have started doing oil paint by numbers I really enjoy that and I have always croched and maybe I might do more volunteer work,who knows,I do know we have to do something or we are going to be very lonely. Jas

I never really technically lived alone. I lived with my friend for a while. She had a baby and we worked at the same place, opposite shifts. She worked the 4:00am shift and I was her relief so I would take care of the baby and hand her off when the shift changed. She was always at her moms when she wasn't working so we never saw each other beside that so it was like living alone. I didn't really like it. She was going to move after a few months and I was glad. Like you I was used to having lots of people around all my life. Our family was not real big but a lot of my aunts and uncles lived close by so we were always together. My parents always had company. In fact, many of my cousins have lived with me. As for your son leaving, I know all about that. All of my kids are gone, the youngest left just a few months ago for the second time. Empty nest syndrome is true!!! I was going crazy for a while, especially the first time he left. Mylot and other sited have helped a lot lol. Oh yeah, a word of advice, make sure you have a myspace and/or facebook to keep up with them while they are gone!

when i was 16 years old,i have gone out for working during that time i am very lonely. but now all the things are geting better i have organise a new family of my own

Same here, momma. I've always lived with family, with a husband or with my children. I have never lived comepletely alone. Now in the 1990's when my son used to go to his dad's for the weekend, then I was alone on the weekends. I hated it, I couldn't sleep with no one else in the house. I missed my boy terribly on those weekends. I would never want to live totally alone!

It would really depend on whether you like it noisy or quiet. I have lived alone and with family before. When I was living with family, there are always compromises that need to be made. And in return, I get the company of people I love and people who loved me. There was always laughter and joy in the things we do. We share the same celebrations. We rough it out through the same problems. Always a helping hand when you reach out. It is different when you are living alone. You have to be more independent. Things around the house WILL NOT get done unless you go around to do it. Fridge will not restock itself. Floors will not get mopped. And laundry will not get washed. You have to do it yourself. But the upside to this is, you are on your own time. No one nagging at you to accomplished the chores. You eat what you want where ever you want. You do what you like when ever you do. Peace and quite. Time to yourself to pursue some thing you like. Something you can never do when you have to tend to other people's needs. It sort of one up for one and down for the other. Depending on whether you like to spend time alone or not, living alone is not that bad. But living with family ain't that bad either.

Well, being that I don't have any kids (not by choice) I can't speak for that however, my husband just retired from being in the army for 27 years and he went to Korea for a year two times, the first time I stayed with my parents (in Virginia)for the year and the second time we had bought a house so I stayed in Texas while he was gone and at first it was hard but then I learned to accept it then it got to be monotous and almost insane like. I couldn't wait for him to come home!! LOL But when he did come home it was like a brand new honeymoon all over again but too we had to relearn how to live with each other again too but we did just fine and enjoyed life and it's offerings from then on out. So when your children move out, it's best to find something that you and your husband are interested in together so you two don't drift apart and take that something up and enjoy your new found freedom!!

Quiet! And incredibly peaceful.

So sad to hear this. After living in house full of people i cant think about how one can live alone even withou children. But for their studies and for carieer we have to spend life alone. I pray let your children be with you sson after their colleges. I have never been alone if at all is for one day not more than that.

It's very understandable that u don't want to be alone because u love ur children very much,I guess.On the other hand,u should be aware of that ur children have grown up and it's time to let go and give them certain freedom on their own.I mean,as long as they can lead a happy life,then I think,as a mother whose biggest concern is to see her kids happy,u should feel happy and try to understand ur kids' feelings.And I believe ur kids will definitely understand u and do sth. different--at least not to make u feel lonely.I think that would be enough.Anyway,hope u can get through this a.s.a.p.