inadequacies of men

Hi, jeninays ~ I am a man, and you are correct. There are ways to say things, and there are ways to say things that will go over better. I always tell my wife that if she has something to say that I am not going to like, she can soften the blow by telling me, "You're not going to like this, but..." I don't know why, but this defuses the statement and makes it a little more tolerable for me. I have been reading a book recently that deals very closely with the topic of your post - it is called: What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage: Lessons for People From Animals and Their Trainers by Amy Sutherland. The book grew out of a New York Times article that can be read here: http://www.nytimes.com/2006/06/25/fashion/25love.html