Balancing act!
By blogging2
@blogging2 (201)
United States
July 24, 2008 10:15pm CST
How do you find the balancing act between mother, wife, woman, maid, cook, taxi driver, and personal time? I am having some trouble with this one!
2 responses
@Marsgirl74 (28)
• United States
26 Jul 08
I know how your feel! I am there too....it runs me down alot! I do have my daughter help me in the house, and it helps but there's just some many other things to do. I have no personal time, cause when I do I feel bad for having it! Do you feel the same?
@blogging2 (201)
• United States
26 Jul 08
I agree it is very hard, and i realize that even small things are starting to get to me and my daughter is only 2! Things like it seems like laundry is NEVER ENDING! And I can never get the house really clean! Am I the only one? If I give myself some time for myself will it help me let these things go? I don't want to have a house that my daughter is uncomfortable in either (too neat), but everything is annoying me at the moment... Please tell me I am not a bad mother and someone has been through this too!
@i12read (57)
• United States
25 Jul 08
I'm not sure that there is one right answer. As a woman, you are more likely to put others needs first, and it is a hard habit to change. I make the kids help with the chores. They don't like to do it, but I told them that they are allowed to not want to, but they still have to do them. I started taking a craft project or a book with me whenever I had to take the kids anywhere, so that I had something to do while I was waiting. I also started meeting with others, in a local coffeeshop, to do needlecrafts. It is hard to make the initial change, but you will feel so much better when you give yourself permission to do something for you!
@blogging2 (201)
• United States
26 Jul 08
Thanks for the advice I guess I really need to find a hobby huh?
@i12read (57)
• United States
26 Jul 08
It has really helped me! Of course, my kids have beome interested in my crafts, so I try to have supplies for them, but kept separate from mine. I find stuff cheap at thrift stores and yard sales, and I buy new stuff on sale or with a coupon, so I can afford separate supplies. It gives them something new to do, and it gives me a much needed break.
I always have a bag, with a crochet project, a puzzle book, and a book or magazine, ready to go. I have a messenger bag of sketching supplies, a small plastic tool box with card-making supplies, and a tackle box with jewelry supplies. These are all easy to take with me, and I have larger containers (plastic shoeboxes or sweaterboxes) of supplies at home for when I take a few minutes for me.
When I want to read but don't have much time, I usually choose light-hearted, fast-reads like Garfield, Family Circus, Peanuts, etc. They put me in a ood mood without making me feel guilty for spending too much time on me. I do have other books, but I reserve them for vacations, rare free days, or an occasional late night.
Whatever hobby you choose, it isn't too hard to make a travel pack for it, even if at first it just contains a book or magazine about your hobby, and a notebook and pencil to write down or sketch ideas. Once you find something you enjoy, it will be easier to find take-along projects.
Good luck!
