choosing comments to respond..

I find it difficult to respond to all the comments on my posts. I do make a concerened effort to give a general response like thanking everyone for responding. I really am not trying to be rude but sometimes time is also a factor. I think it is important and sometimes I do feel bad about it. However in general I think most mylotters understand that it is tough sometimes to comment on all the comments. Like I said I am not trying to be rude or offend anyone. dale

hi zerocharly! honestly, i don't respond. i used to do that, but then i got tired of doing it. i still do, but it is very very few and far between. i got so busy that i would rather post and respond to others' discussions than to my own. i dunno, hehehe i used to keep a conversation then i stopped. i dunno why. anyway, i hope you respond. good day and God bless you! :)

I try to respond to each and every post on my discussions but sometimes if you get so many of the same response I will skip some or just post back a simple thank you. Lately I have been behind on responding as my computer was broke.

I don't respond to all of the comments in my discussions because sometimes I just don't feel like I have anything more of value to add. I don't add responses just so that there's a response.

i always try to always respond to each. i think it's only polite and a nice gesture. my feeling is that you have taken the time and energy to respond to my discussion and it's only right that i reciprocate. but, i'm very new here. maybe someone who has been here longer may have a reason to help you.

Well, there are probably many reasons why people choose not to respond (it's most likely not because your comment isn't worth it...). One of them might just be that they don't know what to say. Perhaps your comment hits the point really well, and they don't want to type another comment saying, "I agree!" Or perhaps your comment is agreeing with what they said in the beginning and there aren't any new points that they can bring up in agreement. It's also possible that your comment was very similar to the ones before it, and so they got tired of saying the same things over and over again. Either way, I wouldn't take it personally. :-]

well i comment to all the member s who responded to my discussion, but if his/her answer is to short and direct i no longer comment back. just plain thanking them is against mylots rules and regulation so i just do not comment back at all. but as much as posible i will try to comment back. some of my response has no comment too but i dont feel bad. to each his own. we cant force someone who doen not like sommenting back to comment just because we feel bad when they dont comment back. i am a singer and even i just sang a very hard song and no one claps their hands then it is okay i got used to it already. i dont force people to appreciate me just to make me feel good. thats how i put the non commentor here at mylot. dont worry zero you will soon get used to it

In answering my discussions, I will try to answer all even if they disagree with me. However, when they get combative and abusive, I just ignore them.

I like to respond to everyone that answers one of my discussions, so I'm glad in a way that I don't get heaps of responses, but even on the odd occasion that I do, I still respond to all. I too, feel a little disappointed if I've gone to all the effort to respond to a discussion, and then get no acknowledgement whatsoever. I know mylot does state that you don't need to respond to everyone, but I feel it is just polite to answer anyone who takes the time. I find now that with people who don't acknowledge my response, I'm a lot less likely to respond to another of their discussions!

I think I have only done that to others when they respond to the responses of other members who participated in my discussions. I think the ones who got responded with their response should also be the ones to reply. Now, when initial responses are given among my discussions, I also reply to every one that I can reply to. Give my comment, response, feed back, opinion and so forth.. least I could do would be to thank them for reading and participating. Now, whenever I am the one who seems to be not getting any feed backs yet some of the succeeding responses got feed back from the one who initiated the discussion, I would either think that they didn't got notified with my response in their email, they don't have anything to reply for my response and it would be awkward to just post 'I agree', or perhaps when seldom checked for replies in their discussions they could only reply to the most recent ones that they get to read. Though it is disappointing to get no replies from your own response, we can't do anything about it. Maybe another member would get to read what we posted and they would have something to respond to it.

In most of my discussions, i will make it a point to respond to all the comments i have received, except for one of my thread, whereby i din respond to a single one at all.. hehe I guess, those who respond to only those they wanna comment, are the ones that agree with what they are thinking and thus they comment.. If not, if their thinking are different, they see it as no point to respond as both thinking differs.. But it's only my point of view.. Another reason may be that, they are busy and so they can only reply to some and as for the rest, the starter will wait till they are free b4 responding to all ^_^

If someone doesn't respond to my comment, I don't take it personally. I figure they're just busy or my comment doesn't really need a response, as when I write something like oh, I'm very glad things turned out well for you! And then I pad it a little with a short personal experience so that they'll be credited with a quality response. It's nice to be acknowledged but there are many here who are desperately trying to supplement their income and have not time to write gratuitous comments on replies to their discussions.

People do not always respond to my replies, so once I realized that it was normal to not always get a response, it didn't really bother me. I do wish mylot had something so you could tell your response had at least been READ, maybe by adding a little icon or something next to the top of the post. As a discussion starter, I do usually try to answer everybody's, but once in awhile I just have nothing to say in response to a particular posting. It shouldn't be taken personally, it certainly is not meant that way. One reason I might decline to respond to a comment might be if the post either has nothing to do with my original discussion, or if it is so poorly written that I cannot figure out what they are talking about, even if it DOES have to do with the discussion. Other times the person responding wrote one sentence instead of giving details, their opinion, and what they think.

i try to respond to everyone i get but i have been battling really severe headaches and i can get online for awhile and it not bother me but then it will hit me and i will have to get offline.. so i would be in the middle of answering people and not finish or lose my place etc.. and there are some times where i have NO idea what to say back since you cant just say "thanks" since that is against the rules etc.. if the person is just saying a couple of words that just state their opinion some times i dont know what to say back etc.. i try to though.. but like i said i havent been on top of my game lately and its pissing me off!!! lol.. im seeing where i have done it everywhere!! but im gonna get better i promise and i dont take offense if it happens to me since i figure they are having the same probs and i have had some discussions get like 50 responses in a few hours and its hard to keep up so i figure they just might not have time yet or maybe didnt have anything to add.. the only time it really gets on my nerves when other people dont answer is when i see the people listing 20 discussions or more a day and i along with everyone else dont get any replies to what we have said.. its obvious then that they dont really care to begin with

I always comment to all those who respond to my discussions... even if it takes me a few days to finish... i had this experience where it was only my response that a particular member did not comment to... and when i read her other comments... i read that this person finds what i wrote gross and uncivilized... this person did not even have the courage to tell me... So after that... i decided not to immitate that member... and try to comment to all responses to my discussions...

Sometimes people write the same thing over and over again. How do you respond to the same response over and over again? Also the way some people's email gets to them, they see a response out of order, so they answer out of order. I've skipped people by accident before. Also some people have a cut off number, like after, 20, they dont answer any more.

zerocharly hi well for me I am swamped with responses to my discussions and am only one person and c annot physically be on here 7/24 so I have not commented on everything yet but will soon get to it but I do not like to be hounded as the replies are not even paid for and mylotsays do not bother with them as we do not pay for them. I do this out of courtesy after Ihave made my daily quota of responses to others discussions. This discussion has been made at least t wice every day so far and we answer with the same answer mylot says dont answer to responses as we do not pay for them. so when we do it is out of courtesy we are making nothing at all. I for one need my money.

Well, maybe people sometimes do not value the effort of the one who responded, they tend to focus on those that catches their attention. Probably because they don't have the luxury of time to respond to all of them. I make sure I comment on all the responses, but sometimes, it takes a long while before I get to do so because I am very busy. Or sometimes, my eyes are tired that I do not noticed I slipped on response. I feel that commenting is like an act of courtesy towards the response. Whether it's a simple thank you or a short feedback, it will do. At least that's what I think.

Hey there, I don't respond all of my respondents because some of the comments are hard to reply. Sometimes I just write there thanks for your opinion but to me, it's the same as writing nothing. Sometimes they respond a statement that is like stating a fact thus it's undebatable so I soetimes overlook those kind of answers. Do you feel better if it's only a 'thanks for the reply' comment?

hi friend,i always respond all the comments on my discussions.I think i am a responsible man to do it.I think if i put a response to my friends' comments, they will feel happy with it.lol.I think whatever the response is right or wrong to my discussion,but as long as i did what i should do.That is all.I think we should understand each other a lot.So we can get more help and support from our friends. Good luck