Do you find people giving you unsolicited advice every now and then?

Hi deepak, for me this is very simple. If I like the person, then I like his or her unwanted advice as well as wanted advice and nothing will annoy me. But if I don't like the person itself, then I will turn deaf ear to that person or will make some sarcastic statement ,which will be enough for him /her to understand that it is time to stop. Also let me tell you that liking and disliking a person is also depended on different experiences that you had with this person. We can always make out which person really cares for us and which person is just playing with our feelings. So you see..... trust able persons-- advice welcomed not trust able person....can go to hell. Isn't it simple.

Thats funny that you started this discussion. I had a bill collector call me and I told them I was going into the military(which now I am thinking I am not going) but he talked to me for 15 minutes about the military and the benefits of going active duty instead of just being part time. I sat there and listened to it but I really just wanted to get off the phone but I didn't want to be rude and hang up in his face (even though I normally do that with bill collectors). Then my mom gives me advice all the time, my dad does it to me, my sister does it to me. Sometimes I give my friends advice when they tell me something and they don't ask for it I just give it sometimes and I don't know if they listen or not or even care but I still do it. I think it is human nature to give advice. Especially if it will help better the person or help them feel better.

lol..I used to get that a lot from my mother...but she isn't in the same country now...so it's not such a big problem. I don't find too many people giving me unsolicited advice (maybe I have an aura that keeps them away). I also do not open easily to everyone...so they have nothing to advise me on. I usually wait for people to ask me for advice before I give it to them. But sometimes, I do give unsolicitied advice at the work place when I feel that it might affect my work too. I'm not sure if people take it personally or not...but no one's argued with me over it.

I try not to give advice even when asked LOL it's something that is a bit complicated, often when someone asks for either advice or and opinion they do not want either , just to hear what they want - sometimes a validation of something they did, sometimes a hope for something they wish to happen, sometimes they just want us to tell them what they want to hear. So giving advice is a dangerous thing :) People don't usually give me unsolicited advice, but it has happened on occasion. I try not to be rude. If it's something that sounds like good common sense I might listen to it as some wisdom that might come in handy at some point. If not I will nicely explain I am not really looking for advice. SOmetimes I will give advice but I make sure that people understand that what works for some doesn't necessarily works for all, and that all people are different.

Hi dpk262006! Yes, a lot of people do that and sometimes I do that too. I do have good intentions though. haha..However, I am very careful not to just give unsolicited advice because if it is done to me, I am somehow irritated. Anyway, I won't give advice unless the person has openly shared to me her troubles and I could feel or sense that she is waiting for me to say something. And if I am being given unsolicited advice, I just usually keep quiet, listen and just try to weigh things through. I still think though that she just cares for me that is why she is giving me some wisdom. Take care and God Bless!

When I frist got married my my mother inlaw was always giveing her advice AT frist I thought this is nice shes trying to help,after a while her advice felt like interferance.And I always said I will never do this to my daughter inlaws but of course I do. I know now advice is giveing out of love just smile and accept it.

Dpk, An interesting point you have raised indeed. I get a lot of advice around from people around me whether it be family,freinds or colleagues. I would not rebuke them in any way unless and until it gets to be a little too much to handle. Normal tendency is to listen to it patiently and then form my own judgments on it. How well I have taken and followed the advice is dependant on the situation I find myself to be in at the point of advice. When my confidence levels were high and things were going the way I wanted them to, there was a tendency to sublimly disregard the advice and say to myself, I have been able to get here on my own . When things went bad then I have regretted not listening to that advice and then every bit of advice which has come my way has been given a great amount of importance and value. Giving advice to others is always easy as they say. Moreso when you learn from mistakes you do not want others to go through. Of course, as you have also pointed out subconciously we land up in giving advice to others simply based on what we think is right. Has got me into some awkward situations at times and made me feel very sheepish.

Hi dpk, When I am opening my problem to my parents, sister, husband and friends, it means that I am open for any unsolicited advices. I will listen attentively and ask questions and give them situations or consequences so we can discuss thoroughly and will help me find a better solutions.. Since if I want to solve it alone with what I believed, I will not be talking to them about it nor sharing them with regards to my situation!

I listen politely unless the person is being really rude in which case I'd tell them I thought they were being rude and it's none of their business. I don't get it very often generally, usually only from my dad and I know it's only because he cares. I try not to comment too much if I think someone is making a bad decision if they don't ask me for advice but if it's someone I care about I will give them advice without them asking. Really though we are often only giving our opinion and everyone sees the world differently and doesn't have the same opinion.

I do get unsolicited advice from time to time. Fortunately, it does not happen regularly. It is nice when someone close to you give advice. That means they care and are looking after you. I understand how one feels if you already know what to do or perhaps you are already into it and still there are some who would tell you do what to do. If that happens to me I just listen to them emphatically and then decide later whether I would heed the advice or not. That way I am polite and will not hurt their feelings.

Different people think in different ways...So, we frequently get unsolicited advises from our friends,family,etc..,Advices are helpful when we need them..Many of them will give us advices even if we do not need them...Such advices irritates me...We will be thinking about some thing and people give us advices on some other things...Many of them give us advices when there is no need ...but,when we need a good suggestion or an advice, no one will be giving the appropriate one...When I face such situation,I just listen to the advice and I just thanks and I will go according to my mind..I never give an unsolicited advice to any one...Because I know how it makes me feel when I get such kind of advice..

Its easy... don't listen to what they say if you don't want their opinion...

I often think that people are trying to give me unsolicited advice, although in most of the cases i appear to be wrong. the most common way of thinking for me in such situations is that they still don't understand what's going on in my mind, what my experience was, and what fear do i have. However, later on i try to think about such advices, and understand that people do try to help me and they just give me an opinion of a side person. What frustrates me the most, is giving unsolicited advice from my relatives when they barely see me once a year. It seems to be justifiable for them because they always try to relate my situation to their own experience. but i can hardly listen to such advices because they are made without having an interest on what is going on in my life at present time.

for a person dare to give me unsocialited advice its ok. I think we can pick which advice we can hear it or keep it for ourselves. I can't imagine what they had done to you but i will finish my job first..

i find it very common. may be its human nature to give advice.may be we like to feel bossy at times. so we give advice and so on.i just listen. by nature i do not say rude words to people. but also i try to take positive points from it.

I do get unsolicited advice, I don't mind that kind at all. What I mind is insistent unsolicited advice. I listen to advice and thank whoever is giving it but I draw the line at repetition. I do give unsolicited advice too but I try to do it when the other person is receptive and I never waste my breath on someone who is hell-bent on being miserable. When the student is ready, the teacher will come, I always say.

Ha ha ha nice discussion deepak wel just like u, i may some times gives advise but its very rare, u know i like my nose very much and dont want to poke it every ones matter. but if some ask then i alway do my best to share advise to my best of knowkledge Well i do get advises sas well and i dont muind and just listen to thenm as i believe that other is giving in in good faith so why to hurt them, some times u may get good tip or else u can do what ur heart and mind says Take care

I do understand in just about every case, there will be an exceptions... I don't know everything but at the same time, I don't need advice on everything... I tend to listen to people for a fact that I could always learn something new... Of course the final decision and/or judgement has to be my own... I try not to give mine unless asked... If I do see an obvious situations that someone needs to get involved but nobody's saying anything, I'll give my opinion but I do let it known that it's just an opinion, not an advice...

i half listen.. people ask me for advice and i give it to them so i figure that maybe they want to return the favor and they may actually have something good to say.. i will always give their advice a chance but i dont go out asking for it.. but maybe thats because i have always been asked.. i dunno but i dont mind it unless its from a very narrow minded person that just wants to put down the whole issue not help you with it.. one of those "you wouldnt need advice if you hadnt done/tried this in the first place" people grr

I have relatives that give advice to help and also some that give advice just because they are "know it alls". The ones that give me advice because they are truly trying to help, I listen to. The ones I know don't have a clue, I listen to but can't wait until I can escape. My Aunt is one of the "know it alls". I have bad acid reflux and need to take prescription medicine for it. She told me to stop taking the medicine because it is just a placebo Dr.'s give out. There is a real cure for this by a home remedy. Drink lots of vinegar and it will go away, she says. Well, if any of you have ever had acid reflux, you know the damage acidic vinegar will have on your stomach. I listened politely and am not following those orders! LOL!!!!