Do you wish your husband if you had a fight?
By pradysgirl
@pradysgirl (246)
India
July 25, 2008 6:50am CST
This happens to me all the time, anniversaries, birthdays either ours or kids we would have fought few days earlier, so the silent treatment goes on . we don't wish each other eventhough we wanted to . everything remains so fresh in our mind we don't bother to have a look at each other. This is worst I know, it takes weeks to be normal again. what will you do in such a situation, do you forget all those fights and wish your husband? .
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@Vickie7978 (164)
• United States
28 Jul 08
We used to do this all the time. I've learned to almost expect it, but we've learned to let whatever the problem is go. It's not worth it in the long run. I'd rather suck it up than spend important events to our family stressed out with hubby.
We weren't speaking to each other when I went in the hospital to deliver our second daughter. I had been "nesting" to much. I was so worried about the house being clean when we brought the baby home. I woke him up vaccuming at 3a.m. He ended up turning the main breaker off to stop me. LOL I just turned it back on and kept going. Now it's funny but he was mad. I wanted the house clean and he wanted all the sleep he could get.
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
25 Jul 08
I think that a birthday or anniversary is a good excuse for the two of you to start over and forget the silent treatment. It starts with a "Happy birthday" which should be followed by "thank you" and, poof! the two of you are talking again and the day is not lost. One day one of you is going to pass away and the other one is going to be left with many regrets so don't waste special days because you had a fight earlier.
@pradysgirl (246)
• India
25 Jul 08
I agree with what you say, it is so true. but E-G-O is causing the problem, who will let go of it ? this is the difficult part.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
26 Jul 08
OH! It appears sad, what you have described.
I on my part try to forget the quarrels and fights sooner than later. I cannot prolong the killing silence and make myself and my partner suffer for trivial things. When you ponder over, after fights, you realise that you fought or argued for something, which could have been solved otherwise.
Even if I am annoyed with my better half and it is our anniversary or her birthday, I would keep aside my ego and definitely wish her. Since we got married many years ago, I have not failed even once, to wish her on birthday (please do not think I am boosting....LOL!). I make it a point not to forget birthdays and anniversaries of my near and dear ones, once I have started wishing anyone on his/her birthday, I do not break the practice, at any cost and come what may.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Jul 08
pradysgirl why are you fighting in the first place,figure out someof the causes then if it was trivial be the first one to sayI am sorry.PIck your fights, dont fight over small stuff and most of it is small stuff.Think of all the reasons you married him, and then just maybe some of the fights are just plain silly.If you both have big egos, one of you has to give in a bit,for one thing life is short and love is long,you dont want to find one day you have lost your mate and have all thse fights to think about. work things out, and solve your problems insteadof just yelling at each other. I was married for34 years and we always wo worked out our differences and madeup.compromise and set things right.
