Is it hard to make friends when your older?
By Marsgirl74
@Marsgirl74 (28)
United States
July 25, 2008 8:08am CST
Now at 34, friends are not as important to me in huge amounts like it was in High School. I find that it's harder to make friends because people my age either have families, jobs, or already have a group of friends they hang out with. We moved to a new town a year ago found that trying to make new friends is hard. Does anyone else feel that way? How do you make new friends what's your secret?
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5 responses
@dextornap (333)
• India
25 Jul 08
You dont have to find them here and there. Just be happy and share happiness. People them self come to you and ask for your friendship. Age is not comes inbetween true frienship. So dont feel bad about your age. More age means more knowledge, More experiance, more love. So see life with a possitive look.
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@Marsgirl74 (28)
• United States
25 Jul 08
I age about the comment that age bring knowledge and more experience, I know that I would not put up with the same stuff I did when I was younger.......
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
25 Jul 08
I am forty years old and I do understand your point. Of course when we were back in high school there was more time for friends and the like. Now we are busy people. Busy being mothers and wives. My family and I have moved recently a few months ago down south from Pennsylvania. I have made a couple of friends. It is not always easy sometimes.
I believe that you just need to be a good friend to someone and let them know that you are available to get together or go out. And let it happen from there.
@narayan2006 (2954)
• India
25 Jul 08
Hello friend,I do believe in the wellknown saying- " A friend in need is friend indeed ". True friendship is built on the foundation of love,trust,commitment and mutual sharing/sacrifice.It is not important to add more friends to one's existing list,but it is more important to nurture and sustain a friendship already established.Genuine friendsip lasts for ever. Age is not at all a barrier for making friendship.It is one's personal character,behavior and capacity to understand and share with other's feeling ,emotion and needs that determine the degree of one's success in winning true friends. Have a nice day!!
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
26 Jul 08
I am in the same boat, but a bit younger. I started my family very early, I have 5 kids. So I lost the majority of my friends when I had my first child. Also through the process of growing up I learned many of my friends were bad influences, or we just grew our seperate ways (or more like I grew up and they didn't).
Now I am a stay at home mom of 5 and have no real friends. The only friends I have are on the internet. One of them is a very good friend and she comes to visit a couple times a year, but she is a 5 hour drive away, so I can't just go see her whenever I want.
I have been trying to get out more to make friends, but it is tough. How do you create a friendship from a conversation? I enjoy having conversations with other moms, but I feel sorta weird saying "Will you be my friend? Can I have your number?" geez!