What makes you a good parent?

United States
July 25, 2008 12:12pm CST
I think I am a good parent because I always take the time to listen to my children even if I do not agree with them. An some times I do change my mind on issues to their point of view. I have a very close relationship with them and they feel they can come to me with things even if it is a bad issue and they have done some thing wrong because they know I will be calm and not go phys flip out on them and judge them for their mistakes but guide them. I heard two people talking yesterday and the woman was saying she felt she was a good parent because she provides for her kids. To me that is only a small portion of being a parent. I found it very vain. Why do you think you are a good parent and what would you say is a bad parent?
4 responses
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
25 Jul 08
A good parent is somebody who listens and sees about the needs of their children. Listening is extremely important and the other thing is providing for their needs. All of the needs including love, affection, support, affirmation and everything else that goes with these. The child's emotional needs are so important they are among the top of the list. That's what I think a good parent is.
• United States
25 Jul 08
I think you are right! I have seen poor kids that are neglect and abuse, but I have seen poor kids that are happy as heck that only have the basic and have wonderful parents. I have also seen rich kids that only get bought off with no one to listen to them and feel alone. There are parents out there to who are rich and give there kids everything that they didn't have but listen and nutere as well. I think my point is even if you provide the basic for you kids you must listen and pay attention to them.
@jaicharu (39)
• India
25 Jul 08
HI HONEYDEW I think iam a good parent.Firstly I always think about my kid,than i care for rest f the things.My husband nd i both are very much involved.we give her lot of time.Iget so much engrossed with her in playing,at times i don't realise my half f the day is over .She is just 14month old.
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• United States
25 Jul 08
My kids always come first to! I even put them before the hubby's needs. He is ok with it! I figure I only have one shot at being a parent I am going to do it right. If you mess it up you can't go back and fix it. You only get so much time with them before they are on their own. Some time I do wish they came with an instruction book! lol!
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
25 Jul 08
I think I am. I try and listen. I am consistent. And I give lots of love. Being involved is important. My husband and I both take the time to be involved parents.
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• United States
25 Jul 08
It is good to be active. I know a few parents that think if they feed and cloth their children and buy them all the new hot things that that is enough. The poor kids are waiting for their parents to show up to their events to be left sadden and disappointed.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
25 Jul 08
I know I'm a good mom when I see other people's kids. Today I went grocery shopping, and I witnessed many children, that made mine look like angels. Walking in I noticed a boy, around the age of 8 sitting in a cart. His mother was trying to remove him from the cart, and he threw a fit claiming he would not budge. The mother gave in and pushed the cart to her car with him inside. There was a woman arguing with her 3 little boys, who were ages 8 and younger. The boys were throwing temper tantrums because they could not have toys, and the mom was trying to explain she did not have the money. My children realize they never get toys when we go to the store, and anything they do recieve is appreciated because I do not spoil them. There were many other children being rude and obnoxious and the parents ignored this or condoned it even. Things like this make my blood boil. I cannot stand to see children behave in this manner. Parents need to stand up and become parents. Children should not act like spoiled rotten brats, and parents need to stop letting them get away with this. I consider myself a strict "mean mom". Sometimes I wonder if I am too strict. But you know what? I am constantly complimented when out in public about how well my children are behaved. They do not scream, shout, wander off, throw fits, or make a big scene. I'd say I'm doing 1 thing right at least.
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• United States
25 Jul 08
You are right children do not have manners in the store like years ago. My daughter did that once and I left my whole cart there and went home! She has never done it again. You should be a proud mama! I do not think being strict makes you mean. You are giving your kids structure and guides.