betrayal?

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I feel like I'm being punished here, feeling guilty and confused if I should be feeling guilty at all. See, I have broken my loyalty to a three-year-old friendship because I owe it also to someone else. Someone who has been there for me when my friends were out of reach in the past few weeks. I wonder whether what I did was the right thing... I guess I'm going to have to start from the beginning so you guys can get the picture. In the past few weeks, I was one miserable cat. I felt abandoned and lonely because I had problems at home. At that time, it was when I needed my friends most, but then they were out of reach. I couldn't blame them if they never responded to my text messages no matter how much I bloody wanted to. I felt as if they just took me for granted somehow, only texting me if they asked for load or questions about school... But then, out of nowhere, here came someone whom I had never thought would be there for me. At first, I hesitated opening up to him because I thought he only befriended me so he could score with my close friend (the one whom I have broken my loyalty to), but he was insistent that he wanted to listen. I couldn't refuse at that time because I really needed someone whom I could talk to seriously. So, I told him everything I felt and about my situation - and then I felt a rush of gratitude when he sympathized and comforted me. I had expected guys to be "ah ok ra na." or "sus, sensitive ra kaayo ka oi." but then he was different. Well, he finally set aside the bugging for information about my close friend and became someone whom I could turn to 24 hours. Let me just call him Yael, ok? Ok, the awful thing - I overheard my close friend talking to her barkada about Yael. It wasn't something pleasant, believe me. Then I remembered the time she told me that the he didn't stand a chance on getting her into a relationship because she found him annoying. She also told me that she had lost her strong feelings for him. She mentioned how "babaw" Yael was because he often got mad at "little" things (girl, please.. he got mad because you often took him for granted. is that a "babaw" reason for you? don't you think you're the "babaw" because you took him for granted when all he ever did was give you attention?). God, 'twas so annoying. At first, I had remained silent, thinking that my loyalty should belong to her, my close friend for three years. But then for days, I felt strangled, knowing that the Yael was still hanging on and not knowing what I know. It felt wrong. Then one night, I couldn't stand it any longer. Yael and I were texting at that time. He was confused whether he should go on or not. He couldn't sleep because a lot was bugging his mind. He seemed really down, and I felt so bad about it. I knew it wasn't fair for Yael to not know the truth and be left hanging. It wasn't fair that I should just shut up about what I know when during the time I needed a friend, he was there when none of my friends were. Certainly my close friend wasn't there for me. He was there for me - shouldn't I be there for him, too? So I debated whether my loyalty should still belong or not to someone who was never there during the time I needed her most. I debated whether I should owe the truth or not to someone who just recently became my friend but was (by coincidence?) there for me in my darkest hour... I owe him... I don't owe her anything. So you know what happened. I told him... But the following day, I told my close friend what I did because I didn't want to lie to her. She said some stuff, and then just told me she wasn't mad because if she were in my place, she'd do the same thing. But she added that I shouldn't have "pangunahan" her... I apologized. But something was wrong: I didn't regret what I did. Was that really betrayal? If I hadn't told Yael, wouldn't that be a betrayal too?