do u guys like your step relations as your own relations ?

I don't have "step siblings" of any kind but my girl friend is a step mother to my daughter... My daughter loves her & thinks of her as her own mother, not a step mother, & vise versa, my girl friend thinks of her as her own daughter, not a step mother... As far as we all are concerned, they are good as blood related...

I'm not really fond of the term 'step'. To many people, this indicates a separation such as 'you're not my REAL sister because you're my step sister' or 'you're not my real son because you're my step son'. It really really bothers me, because I am adopted first of all, I am also part of a blended family (parents, sisters, brothers) and my own family because I have 'step' kids. I do not call them step unless somebody purposely asks. They look exactly like my husband and not like me. I can see why some people would want to use it as an explanation, say they didn't live with that part of the family and only visited infrequently. To explain their presence, saying I am so and so's step sister would be appropriate. For me it was never like this because my whole 'blended family' was the only family we had, there were no other parents out there. In the case of my kids, they are or were (oldest moved out, starting college) always here. I don't consider them any different than my youngest, who I gave birth to. Not everybody feels this way, in fact I am aware that I am probably the minority on this but I have also seen families who have different 'rules' based on bio and step or a 'my kids' vs 'your kids' arrangement and I don't see how these people don't GET that the kids are not stupid! The kids are going to realize it, resent it, and instead of accepting the other parent (and the other kids accepting their brother or sister), it will divide them further. Quickest way to a family war. The only time I would not feel close or think kids would is is they have a step relative whom they never see, because that person doesn't live with them, or lived most of the time somewhere else, so they never developed a relationship. If you are raised together or live together all the time, there is no reason to be or feel any different than a natural or biological relative.

when my dad remarried I was young about 8 yrs old and I didnt like the fact of having new kids in the family because I was the baby and then she brought along 3 younger kids. Eventually they ended up having another kid together so that made 4 younger kids. My step mom has always told me there is no step in the family so we were just all raised like we were real brother and sisters which now I wouldn't trade them for anything in the world. I love them just like they are my brothers and sister. Of course I have my half brother so he is my blood. But if anyone ask I say the steps are my real family and when they get to asking about kids I say there is 8 total on my dads side and then I have to explain the whole step thing. My mom also remarried and I have 2 step brothers on this side to. One of them I dont like that well I mean I guess he is cool but the other one I love him like a real brother and look up to him. He is my favorite brother other then my brother that was born before me.I got a sister who is 30yrs old ,bro is 28 yrs old, brother is 25 yrs old (my favorite) then me (my mom and dads kids) and then I have a step bro who is 19 step sis who is 16 step bro who is 13 and half bro who is almost 12 thats my dads and step moms and then I have a step bro who is 27 and his younger bro (my other fav) who is 25