I want to be a loving and submissive wife, but do I always have to say yes?

I've read this book entitled "The Power of a Praying Wife." It strongly encourages that we wives should always submit to our husbands no matter what. But here's one thing; if you can't say no but you know that's the right answer, let God say NO for you. I believe that the power of prayers encompasses a lot. Say YES all the time and let God turn things around. Just focus on what God wants you to be and He'll surely make things easy for you.

To be a submissive wife it is itself loving for both husband and wife. What is love and loving life is the time when both the husband and wife submits each other to each other. Likes and dislikes on both the parts are always there. Bubmissive does not mean to be slave or order agreeing submissive means submission from the core of heart with love if you do so your partner will also do so.

Polaris, darlin', I hope you won't be offended, but you want to be a wife, not a doormat! Why would you want to be submissive? Maybe it's part of your culture, but please assert yourself. Women who even try to be submissive to make men happy end up abused. Even if he never laid a hand on you, it's a sure thing that he'll abuse your spirit! Join the 21st Century, Pol, and stand up for your own humanity! Please, please, don't let anyone hurt you.

be quiet and submissive and then he'll be a repeat offender. being a loving and a great wife doesn't mean you have to bow to all your husband's demands. definitely not!

polaris hi no you do nothave to be submissive to be a loving wife, who says that.you are equal to him, not below him,and not a slave.you are his wife, not his servant. maybe its a bit different in the phillipines but not that different. and he should not do things to hurt you and offend you.staying out all night and getting stupid drunk is not being true to his marriage vows.No dont keep it all in, tell him he has hurt you and offended you.you are a human being, equal to him, not his servant, and he is supposed to be good to you.talk to him, and tell him you are unhappy with what he did. I would never be a quiet orsubmissive wife, I would be an equal partner and my husband would respect me or out he goes. my husband and I were best friends and lovers and he respected me and was good and kind.

You can say NO. He should respect what you feel. You're also a human being that has emotions and he should be aware of that. If you think your husband is too much, then you should leave him because you don't have to be miserable. You have a right to enjoy life.

I took a look at your profile before responding to your discussion. I see that we have grown up in two different cultures. I am from the United States. I am not a quiet or submissive wife. I love my husband very much but if he hurts me you better believe that I am going to let him know it! How else is he going to know that I don't like something if I always go along with it? He is my husband and my partner, not my master. I personally think that my husband would get pretty bored if I always agreed with everything he said. We can have some of the most interesting discussions when we don't agree on something. I can't even picture myself being submissive...to anyone.

who says a wife has to be quiet and submissive? thats ridiculous! a woman has her rights. she can refuse whenever she wants. no need to be a slave.