What nature teaches us about silence?
By msedge
@msedge (4011)
United States
July 26, 2008 3:13am CST
Too often we speak before we think and do not listen nearly as much as would benefit us.We learn something by listening instead of talking.Some people can be challenging to relate to--a nosy mother-in-law, overbearing boss or co-worker, or simply your child wanting your attention. Instead of justifying your feelings or explaining your point of view, use effective yet concise words and then wait for a reply. Good leaders are always marked by being good listeners. When a friend needs to talk, resist the urge to give advice right away and just listen. We have an obligation to tame our tongues and give people the courtesy of being an attentive and engaged listener. Wouldn't you want the same respect?Everyone deserves to be heard. Give that thoughtfulness to someone you care.
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3 responses
@roxanne271 (2034)
• Trinidad And Tobago
26 Jul 08
Hi msedge,
Well personally, I'm a real talker. I do think before I speak because I may not want someone knowing about something about me or my life or a secret about one of my friends that I'm supposed to keep or something of the sort.
But, my dad told me before. Even if you know something that someone is about to tell you, do not say that "You know." Just listen as if you never heard it before, you might learn something new. So I have started to do that alot and sometimes it's an easy way to catch someone lying if they already told you "that story" before and they forgot they did.
Giving advice, i try to listen as much as possible and be supportive. I sometimes give advice and other times I may hold back my advice. It depends on the person I am dealing with and the situation they are talking about.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
26 Jul 08
To listen well is an art. Keeping quiet and understanding what is being conveyed is difficult especially when your mind has already made its deductions and you have the eagerness to express it. It becomes all that more difficult as you say when we have a challenging situation. Realising and controlling this urge is the key.
@chineseairhead (756)
• China
26 Jul 08
I'm really a great talker. But I know when to show my respect by stopping talking.
