Do you hesitate to say 'I told you so..' ?
By marina321
@marina321 (4556)
July 26, 2008 3:34pm CST
I am one of those people who would hesitate to say 'I told you so..' to someone when they are down after having done something you discouraged them from doing or if they did not take your advice.
Maybe because I would feel sympathetic about their position and I am sure they're already feeling quite bad enough already so I would not say the words.
I have however found that some people do not hesitate to say those words and it can be a bit awkward or embarrassing
when you're in the position of receiving those words.
One of my close friends does not hesitate to say those words to anyone even when she does not get the same treatment so I sometimes think it's quite harsh
I guess it depends in which context they're used but do you hesitate to say 'I told you so..'?
I have however found that some people do not hesitate to say those words and it can be a bit awkward or embarrassing when you're in the position of receiving those words.
One of my close friends does not hesitate to say those words to anyone even when she does not get the same treatment so I sometimes think it's quite harsh
I guess it depends in which context they're used but do you hesitate to say 'I told you so..'?4 responses
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Jul 08
you must be a very nice friend to have. im afraid i have said it a few times. not meanly but just well, you know i said it. im so sorry i was right. like that. guess im not as nice a friend as i thought. i do try. thamks for your advice. Dear.
@marina321 (4556)
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28 Jul 08
I am not the best friend to have in this case as I would let someone get away with being silly but I would feel sorry for them
I am sure if you say it in a certain way, it's ok but I just haven't got the guts
I am sure if you say it in a certain way, it's ok but I just haven't got the guts
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
27 Jul 08
It would depend on the person and the situation.
If it was someone who did it to me constantly than of
course I would gladly say it. If it was one of my more
sensitive friends, then I might be more inclined to hold
my tongue. There are times when it is necessary to let
a person know that they have done something really wrong
and stupid and that you warned them about it over and over
again and then I think you have the right to a good old "I
told you so". I think it must be said with the utmost
discretion in most cases.
@krayzietam (832)
• United States
26 Jul 08
I don't say "I told you so" to anyone because I really wouldn't want to hear that from anyone. People are their own individuals and it is up to them to live and learn for themselves. As friends we try to warn others not to do something because of possible outcomes but at the end of the day it is our opinion. If that person believes they want to go ahead and try something anyway, then it is up to them. We have a right to be wrong and we have a right to make our own mistakes. Its is sad and embarassing to hear those words and I don't think I would be a good person if I gloated in someone else's downfall. It's just not the kind of person I am. I try to encourage them instead. 
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@marina321 (4556)
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28 Jul 08
Yup, it can be pretty embarrassing to get those words flung in your face
@haileylicciardello (34)
• United States
26 Jul 08
Not me. I wouldn't want it done to me, so I wouldn't do it to them.
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