So Many Times I've Decided I'll Refrain, But I Just Keep On Doing It.
By abhi_destar
@abhi_destar (764)
India
July 26, 2008 10:30pm CST
Don't worry guys, I'm just talking about posting discussions here on myLot! Always I'm disappointed with the meagre number f responses which I get here, and vow to myself never to post discussions again here, but time and again, I again have the wish to try my luck and post another one: perhaps situations will have changed around here and I'll finally have a shower of responses. But predictably, I'm disappointed once more. I really can't understand how some people here seem to have responses served to them on a silver platter everytime they start a discussion. It almost seems as if people are drawn to their discussions by a magnetic attraction and they feel compelled to respond to them, no matter how common the topics may be. Have you ever felt the samee? Do share your experiences on discussion-posting here on myLot. Or maybe you won't share. This discussion of mine will also go with a trickle of responses being thrown in.
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@sugarplum9084 (1771)
• United States
27 Jul 08
haha I know exactly how you feel! Today I have been struck with mylot end of the month luck though, and I posted a discussion that got me my highest amount of responses, a whopping 26 in that one discussion, before my highest was only about 8, so I was glad to receive those. It was only on "today's top" for about 2 seconds though, one moment it is there, then I look after replying to someone else and it is gone. So I had my first 2 seconds of fame today haha, and probably my last 
. It does give me a little more hope than before though, when I wouldn't get many responses. I hope my post makes you feel better, an added response to your trickling count 
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. It does give me a little more hope than before though, when I wouldn't get many responses. I hope my post makes you feel better, an added response to your trickling count .2 people like this
@abhi_destar (764)
• India
27 Jul 08
Congrats to you for getting such a huge number of responses and for your 2 seconds of fame. Yeah, it seems I got quite a drizzle of responses here, not just a trickle.
I do feel better, thanks.
I do feel better, thanks.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
Hi abhi, how are you? :)
I figured the main reason you are not getting much responses is the lack of exposure. From the total count of posting and responding you did which is 409, you need to work hard to make your presence known to everyone.
Coming from where you are, this is no easy feat. But then, it is not a chicken piece of work to comment on more than 50 responses either. If you're really set on improving your status here, go over to your list of friends and see which one is still active and which is not. Adding new and active friends will be pretty helpful.
It doesn't matter how simple and ordinary your discussions will be. The essence and quality is what really count. A little touch of charms to your thread will also do the tricks, lol.
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@abhi_destar (764)
• India
1 Sep 08
CHARMS, IT'S YOU????? IT'S REALLY YOU????? I can't believe I would see you another day here. I thought that you were gone for good. I also sent you an email but that went without any response from you, so I felt that perhaps you've quit the internet altogether! Welcome back. 
Well, it's been quite a while since I posted this discussion on a sudden bout of frustration. I assure you I don't feel this way any longer. In fact, I already have a discussion to my name in which I have got perhaps 41 responses or so. So I'm decently satisfied. Ahhh, you're right. A little touch of charms does really do the trick. I really missed you here. I missed the cute bunny a lot. Hope you are here to stay on now. Cheers.
Well, it's been quite a while since I posted this discussion on a sudden bout of frustration. I assure you I don't feel this way any longer. In fact, I already have a discussion to my name in which I have got perhaps 41 responses or so. So I'm decently satisfied. Ahhh, you're right. A little touch of charms does really do the trick. I really missed you here. I missed the cute bunny a lot. Hope you are here to stay on now. Cheers.1 person likes this
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
27 Jul 08
Well, from personal experience I have learned that with some discussions you will definately get more responses than with others. It is a learning game and a process you will go thru as well. I know I still get frustrated with ones I get less responses back from than others, but it does stop me from starting New discussions as well either. I enjoy seeing what others have to say here as well.
One thing I have learned, is take time to always post back to others discussions making new friends, and learning new things along the way. Find people you can Trust and who will trust you and will continue to encourage you along the way as well. These are some tips I have learned along the way, and hope they can help you out a little as well.
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@abhi_destar (764)
• India
28 Jul 08
I do try to respond to as many of my friends' discussions as possible. Well, with me, it's not the question of some discussions. It's in nearly all discussions that I meet with such scanty responses. I'll keep your words in my mind, though. I'll try to build more trust. Cheers.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
27 Jul 08
don't be disappointed. it was the case with me as well here. initially i never got responses here. it was very small. i stopped posting new discussion myself. later I ahve started getting few more. but not luike some who really rule here. they have hundreds for whatever they start
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
27 Jul 08
I think it happens to us all but I also feel that it is important to keep responding to your friends and they will respond back and you will develop a closer relationship with them and get more of your discussions answered. It has to be a daily thing. When you start learning little things about your friends you can constantly send comments through out the day about different things and this is making more responses for you both too. If you have a few good friends you like follow them around and get in on all the discussions they are responding to also, there is nothing wrong with that since you both are good friends. Don't give up on posting discussions, well all have god ones and bad ones. Have a good day my friend.
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@abhi_destar (764)
• India
28 Jul 08
Thanks for that sunny response, howard. Yes, I do respond to my friends' discussions here, but perhaps I should be increasing that number. Getting to know people from all over the world is also one of the reasons I am here for, and I'm already glad to have ssome very good friends like you. Cheers.
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
28 Jul 08
Thank you and I am glad we are friends, I really am.
@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
27 Jul 08
I don't a lot of responses to my discussions either, but I don't start that many so to be expected.
I keep starting them when I do get the chance because I'm interested in what other people think about the things I am thinking about. Even just one response helps to satisfy my curiosity.
I'd like to get more responses, but I think sometimes, I start discussions that you really have to think about, and sometimes people here just want to have some fun without having to use their tired brain cells too much, especially if they have just gotten home from work and are trying to unwind.
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@abhi_destar (764)
• India
28 Jul 08
That's a new view of things certainly, newzealtralian (By the way, does that mean you live in both New Zealand and Australia? Just curious). True, people here often come tired and just as a rule which they have made for themselves. They'd obviously try to answer the easier questions, not the ones which are thought-provoking. But is myLot a very good place to unwind? I mean, I find it very interesting and everything, but I know from personal experience that after a hard day's studies, when my brain is so crammed with information, I simply fail to come up with responses. That's the reason why I don't remain active in myLot when my semester starts. I only get to it in the semester-end vacations.
@mnflower (1299)
• United States
27 Jul 08
ok abhi your not going to like my response but to be totally honest you have to not be so negative your not going to make any money and good responses on here with a negative attitude, it seems to me that you like to quit real easily and sorry life don't work like that, those that get the good responses are people that are here daily and post megga posts no matter how many responses they get.you are taking this personal on you and it is not maybe you need to talk to your friends and see if they could help and reply to your responses not quit. but good luck
@momalisa65 (1971)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I notice one of my friends has ALOT of friends and he gets alot of responses to his discussions. I think the more friends you have, the more people get notified that you started a new discussion and you get more responses.
Also, make sure you start the discussion in an interest that a lot of people have.
And make your discussions about things that concern everyone all over the world.
@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
14 Nov 08
Hey, abhi, i have the same question as you, today i saw one discussion has got more than 90 responses, god, how could this happen. I guess she's got hundreds of friends, and she frequently visit and response friends' discussion. Well, i also think that she's got enough time to spend in mylot, otherwise she can't make such a huge popularity.
We can't stop ourselves from coming here, maybe because there's fun here, and maybe just because we don't lose heart easily, we won't give up easily and always try again to perform better. And we will make progress, lol
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
27 Jul 08
Well, this one might because you really haven't given the responders much to respond to. Yes, I've posted some discussions with no responses and some with very few but I don't take it personally. I realize that I'm up against a lot of other discussions when I post and it seems to take something very controversial to get a large number of responses. So, keep trying when something comes to mind and don't get too worked up over the numbers. The only numbers you should concern yourslef with are the ones at the top with the $ in front of them.
@abhi_destar (764)
• India
27 Jul 08
I don't think that a controversial topic is always necessary for getting a large number of responses. More often than not, I've seen discussions like "What did you have with your morning tea?" getting at least 26 responses. If such discussions can get such an overwhelming response, I can expect at least above 5 for mine also, can't I? And I personally feel that if I concentrate on the number of responses, then also the numbers at the top should increase with the increase of the former figure. They are directly proportional, aren't they? Cheers.
@nupats (3564)
• India
28 Jul 08
hi dear well i will tell you ..when i started on mylot i used to answer loads of discussions a day and start maybe one slowly add on to your friends list keep all your notifications on...there are still times when my discussions go with zero response but that is ok be optimistic..write truthfully and i am sure in some time you will also be doing very well..Good luck
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
27 Jul 08
Hi Abhi, don't worry too much about it, though. You'd soon get the hang of it.
I've gone through this before - discussions with 1 or 2 responses. It's possible that things that interest me, may not interest others!
Just keep on posting, and have fun!
@latriciajones (846)
• United States
27 Jul 08
i agree, like when i first came on here i started like 5 or 6 discussions and i honestly thought that they were some good topics, you know not like some of the same ones that you see on here. but i barely could get one response. so i just stopped starting and i just said i wouuld just post responses.
