People who keeps interfering your life...

Your Aunt might just think that she is trying to be helpful when really she is just annoying the heck out of you. My advice to you is to take her aside and politely ask her to be less interested in your choices and decisions becuase they are just that yours. Tell her you love her but you are out on your own and you have to learn and have experiences based on your decisions not someone elses. She might be sad that her daughter will no longer be living with her and looking for someone to take her daughters place and that might have been you. You need to be firm about what you want but diplomatic on how you say it ... Becuase she is family she isn't someone off the street trying to get you to do what they want just for fun. I'm sure she has good intentions it's just not her call to tell you how to live your life and you need to make sure that you point out to her that you understand that she is trying to be there to help you and make sure things go good for you but you also have to tell her that your parents raised you good enought to trust your own decisions and if you make a mistake you will learn more from the mistake made then never having to have had the learning experience. Good luck and take care.

I think everybody has own privacy in his or her life. So as commonsense poeple or human being nobody should interrupt anybody's life. But when our close relative interfering like our giued then we face a odd situation.

there are people who think that they're doing me good by interfering with my life - directly or indirectly. there are others who simply want to interfere, just for the heck of it.no matter how i try to be optimistic about it, it all boils down to the fact that they simply want to mess up with my life by causing me pains and troubles. it's as if they rejoice in my misery. they always try to find faults in everything i say or do. there's no easy way to handle these people or their attitude. there's no stopping them from thinking, doing or saying whatever they want. i have realized, after almost 6 years, that the best way to deal with them is to stay away from them.

Whether she is older or not makes no difference. She is infringing on your life and she has no right to do this. I would confront her but in a nice way. Like maybe have her come over for tea and talk about other things for a while and than without her realizing it slide the subject over to how she is doing with you. If you don't confront her you are going to be miserable for a very long time to come. It doesn't sound like she is going to ease up. I am the kind of person that I would definitely confront her but in a tactful way.

Hi there klaudine! There are some people who can't help but interfere with other people's life. It can be annoying you know. I also had this aunt who keeps interfering with my life. At first, I really wanted to confront her about what she is doing. Later on I realized that it was not worth it. I just ignored her and it even reached a point that I did not really talk to her. Well, we are good friends now and I think it helped that I made her feel how irritated I was with her. Sometimes, people interfere because they think it is okay but if you let them know that you are not comfortable with it, they may leave you alone. However, there are people who would claim that the reason why they are interfering is because of them love and concern. It can still be annoying though. Well, why not try talking to her about it? If you can't do it, maybe you can talk to your dad or mom about it. They might have a better idea on how to handle this.

The best thing is to keep quiet, do whatever you want, ignore her and maintain distance from her. She will automatically stop interfering in your life when she knows that whatever she say's is not affecting you anymore.

I know that different cultures have different beliefs, and I can understand you respecting your aunt, and saving your mother and father's own reputation or namesake by showing up to your cousins wedding even though you do not want to as your aunt is causing you distress. I know that in my own culture we are taught to respect our elders, but sadly, we do not do that anymore, or rather, not all of us like to follow this simple guideline. The best thing for you to do is to confront your aunt and tell her that although your respect her own opinions and beliefs, that you have your own and that you would rather learn from mistakes she feels you may make, as that would only make you stronger. Showing her respect but also letting her know that you would rather learn for yourself may help her to lessen her attacks on you if not quit altogether. If you end up marrying this gf your aunt will see that although you did live together, nothing bad came out of it, rather something of the good. Either way, I hope that you have fun at your cousins wedding and enjoy the festivities. I hope you have a very wonderfully lovely day.

I swayer these aunts are horrible. Even my aunt is like that. Even I was staying in another city and my aunt had all the issues with the same. She used to continuously ask me to come to her place and later told people that it effects her personal life as sunday is the only holiday for her husband. I hate her so much.

Your aunt is not your enemy.There is no need to purposely hurt the person who ever cared about you. Be grateful for her intention that she just wanted to help you and ingore what she did that made you unhappy.Anyway, life proceeds in your own hand and nobody,except yourself,can change it completely,not to mention others who try to 'interfer' it.

hey you got to listen to your mom. she's just concerned and wants to keep you on track.. that's what most mom's do.. stay calm.. and someday you will get out of her sleeve..

HI Klaudine, it's sound orrible but cannot be that you parents told this hunt to look at you? and may be she took the part to real..anyway go to marriage, don't care about her and have fun there... Nun

I believe you aunt love you as you parents do and i don't take her as annoyance. There are just generation gap. She love you in her own style. If you live far away from all your relatives, you will be easily moved by her care. Be sure to attend the wedding and help them if you can.

you know what, we have the same problem. it is also a common practice here in our country. elders interfere with the family members life. that was good then, way back than, but now a times is not. people now are educated which ever, so people are more attentive to what is happening in the community or the world for that matter.unlike yesteryears, we learn through them. a good example for me is also my aunt, a wife of mom's bro. even the other family member complain about here attitude or character. like you, we were raise to respect elders, but how can we respect them if they don't respect us. respect is earned not imposed. most of the time, her interferings results to argument between me and my wife. i can't help it, i was trained to respect and my wife can't accept that fact. until one day, i was fed up, cause she'd started messing with my daughter's life. so i stood up and fight back. it was a good feeling, but somehow along the way, it resulted my mom to getting mad at me. (i wasn't guilty about it) that is the price i have to live with. as for you, you can end it, by doing what i've done, but suffer the consequences. or you could just ignore her and pretend as if she doesn't exist. either way, you'll judge as a disrespectful person by them. it's good you wrote about this, that you can let go some of your anger and frustrations....... regards.....

I understand what you mean,I never treated like that with my auntie´s but i have one friend who is asking me where to go or when to go.It like she is telling me that i do this i do that,and i hate it so much.She called me everyday to ask where i am or what i am doing and she is suspecting me that i have a bf and i dont like it.Its really iritating i told my husband about it and my husband said just try to avoid her,so what i do is i dont answer her call.I really dont like it that somebody telling me what to do my family and husband did not tell me like that and now she try to said it to me who is she by the way.I hate it so much.