Do You Forgive and Forget?

The words 'I forgive you' are easier said than actually done. You may think you forgive, but the event is not as quickly forgotten and comes up more often than one desires. Somehow the 'ugly' is still stuck in the back of one's mind. I think forgiveness is something that evolves. You have set your mind to forgiving, eventually to trusting again, and then slowly and hopefully the 'good' adds up until the 'ugly' is a fairy faint memory or even hopefully forgotten. I can forgive, but getting over it and forget is something completely different for me;)

I forgive the person who made the mistake, but I never forget the lesson learned from the mistake. To a fried of mine I knew who squandered money by leting people take adanage o her, came the lesson that if you feed everyone else and not care for yourself, there will be nothing left for you. I'e also learned to become absolutely fiersely independent, because I am the only perso I know I can depend on. That's one example of what I have learned for a mistake I've seen a close friend make.

I have alwayas been the type of person who has always forgiven why hold whatever happened as a grudge you will only get bitter inside..so yes I forgive sometimes its not easy to forget but eventually it always gets easier

Forgive and Forget. Lovely words on paper, but very difficult in real life. Depending on the severity of the situation, forgiving and forgetting may/may not be easy. Becuase harboring on the trespasses that someone may have committed against takes too much energy, it is better to try to forgive and move on. Forgetting, not so easy.

Life has brought me many situations in where I have had to forgive and forget, if i held grudges then I don´t really know where I would stand today. Even though it is not an easy task to forgive and totally forget it is not impossible, I don´t believe in living in the negative therefore i don´t want to stay in a hole only because things happen-

Definitely not easy to forget. I can forgive but forgetting is just not in my nature.

It is east to forgive someone but very hard to forget the bad situation in life. In case if we have forgiven some one after doing a great mistake to us but we will not easily forget what he or she did to us and next time if we want to approach them it will be very difficult.

well it's great to be able to forgive and forget. however, it's different when one puts it into practice. i'd like to think i've gotten the forgiving part but it's not easy to forget. if a person apologises for the mistake with sincerity i find it easy to forgive. but the incidence will still be in my mind for a long long time. it's a self-defence mechanism for me, so that i don't fall into the same trap again. maybe when i get alzheimers i'll get the forget part pat down.

yes i am one of this people who forgive but forget when it is not reapiting againe the some mistake.becouse if i am the one started the fithing or make any wrong with othere from the first time i tray to ablogies to them.when ever some one make any mistake or argue with me i tray to come cool my tember and anger befor adding to come on clay.It is naturally to be anger.

what i will say might reflect that i am a horrible person. but for me, forgiving is hard, let alone forgetting. i tend to keep a tally sheet (in my mind, of course) with all the wrong people have committed. but to their advantage, i have a bad memory. minor mistakes and slight wrongdoings may be forgiven, probably even forgotten. but if it is a major offense, i don't think i can either forgive or forget. with time, perhaps i may forgive, but forget----no, i don't think so.

It is really hard to apply this. I looked at myself a long time ago and realized that I held grudges. If you hurt me, I don't even really speak to you again, unless I'm forced into a situation where I have to. I can name at least a handful of people who I have had relationships with, then conflict and the relationship has never been the same. I can have a very unforgiving spirit, especially if I'm really hurt and I think that you intentionally caused that pain. On the other hand, aside from the men in my life, the women that I know don't really apologize when there's a conflict. You just have to get over it on your own. Also, I feel that I know when someone says something hurtful just to get at me, or if they really mean it. So, I try to recognize that in the heat of the moment people will let their emotions get the best of them. And, if I feel like they were just reacting I won't really hold it against them. But, if I feel like you were being hateful, then I hate you, too. (I don't really hate anyone, but you know what I mean)

I forgive really easily. It's easy for me to understand why people act he way they do and see things from their perspective. But I never forget. Even with my closest friends, I'll always remember the times they've let me down and didn't pull through for me. I guess we're the same in this aspect. I mean, how can you forget what happened? I can avoid bringing it up and making an issue of it but it will always be part of my memory..

I think that a lot of people "forgive and forget". Maybe they remember the event, but they forget the lesson. If someone wrongs you in some way, and you forgive and forget, the person may wrong you in a different way, a different situation and you may not even realize it until you've been burned again. You need to remember how people have treated you, so you know who to trust. I mean, you shouldnt be afraid to trust people, but you need to be aware, so you can recognize what you can trust certain people with. We need to always try to be forgiving, but if we forget we can never learn and that's what mistakes are all about. "Live and learn."

I can forgive but not forget. It basicly depends on what it is I'm forgiving, something minor I'll sooner forget it but anything major I never forget. I think we must remember those things people can do to hurt us, so that we can avoid having it done again by paying attention to who that person really is.

Personally for me, it depends on the situation. If it is something small, I find a lot of times I can forgive and forget and move on, and it is never brought back up again. But when it is something major that has affected me, I would say that even if someone comes up and apologizes, it might be OK for me at the time, but I also am cautious. Especially if it is from someone I have to deal with it a lot of the time personally.

Like you I would say that I'm adequate in the forgiving department although sometimes it takes me years, depending what was done to me. But forgetting I don't do. I'm much more a fan of forgive and move on because for me forgetting is not going to happen.

I think it's easier to forgive than to forget. Honestly...how can you just forget something that someone did or said or something that has happened? You can forgive the person for it...but wiping it from your memory and forgetting it is next to impossible. You can act like it's forgotten by not bringing it up in the future, but that's about the extent of it.

It is easy to forgive but it is difficult to forget. We are easy fo forgive because no one always hurt us at will. He will regret his mistake and we should not take anyone's ignorance in mind. Good memory help us accumulate our experiance and know some one well, which will make us considerate.

hi.. May you are a good man. I think is really diffdult for a person to forgive and forget something bad.For examp some person hurt you deepply can you forget it quikly? I am a forgetfull girl but something i really can forget,maybe is unmeaningfull .Of couse i will forgive a part of them,sometimes it.s only the way you have on chooise.

I often forgive but never forget. Forgiving always encourages the person making the mistake to commit another