Do you wish that you could spend less time working to pay bills?

I could really relate on wishing that parents getting more time to spend at home and with the family. Though I ain't a parent and ain't working yet, I still find it important that my dad get back home or at least spends time with us. Same goes with my sister who happens to have two sons that me and my mom take care here at home. Haven't looked for work since these young boys at home are really hard to deal with and my mom already raising us six isn't getting any younger.. There are indeed a lot of things to give up in order for things to work out. We just have to understand the situation and don't get annoyed by the fact that even with the simplest things that we want can't be granted most of the time. Hope that you partner can find a way to fix a schedule wherein he gets a day to spend with you and your children, perhaps once a week?

My Mother had the belief that she was home when we were. She did not start working until we were in school and was always home when we got home. An easy way to do this is to get a job as an aid in your children's school. That is how she started out. It made it so she was always at home for us.

I had my fair share of regrets on not being there to care for my kids when they were growing up. At that time I did not realize that the kids are growing fast and soon would leave the family nest. I have been so preoccupied with business and rely on the maid to care for them. Now the two boys are grown up adults and working in other part of the town. I rarely meet them except through the phone. I miss that part of their growing up life. I might have to make up for the lost time in some other ways, maybe to care for my grandchildren instead but both are not married yet and when they eventually get married and have children of their own I will be too old to be there. My advice to young mothers is 'be there for your children when they need you most.'

Hello dear beauty queen. I have to say that this wish of yours is also what I expect, but I have to work hard as a bread-earner in my family, as my wife is also a stay-at-home mom to my kid, taking good care of him and the family. I have to work hard and often I expect to get retired from work at an earlier age, but that is impossible and I will have to work until sixty or more than that. It is actually not an easy thing to support a family, especially during the recession when everything is on the rise and nothing is cheap. One of my greatest wishes is to have the recession away from us so that we can lead an easier life. Enjoy yourself, beauty queen, and take care.

Hello beautyqueen26, How I wish I could spend less time working! I am very lucky as my working hour is from 8.30 a.m. to 4.30p.m. Everyday, I will rush home just to fetch my son and spend time with him. I really do not want to miss any big moments with him. He is my priority. My husband spends more time for his work as he just started his own IT business. But he always spend like 1-2 hours every night to play with our son. I think for him, quality is more important than quantity but for me, I never feel enough being around my son!

Hi Beautyqueen, the main thing is that you are there at home and that your husband does still get to spend time. I am a working mum and I got so upset when I had ti miss my sons first sports day but to pay for the PE kit I have to work. I think we all wish at times we could spend more time with our children but the most important thing is that a child knows it is loved and given time and attention when you are available rather than you be too tired from work to bother. Also if a child is used to daddy being at work and only seeing them maybe at the weekend as they in bed before he arrives home that is to them how it is, they don't question, they have acceptance it is only us that worry about it. Routine is also important too. Ellie :D

Oh yes. I do wish I could make more money and actually work less. I don't mind working away from home. I do enjoy being with my children more. I have to pay the bills so I go to work to make money.

I am a single parent and I would really love to have more time with my daughters (ages 3 & 6) too. But like your husband, it is something that I just can't do since I really have to work hard inorder to support my children. I am one of those moms who really love to personally take care of ones children. I feel more fulfilled and in touch with them if I am the one actually taking care of them instead of their nannies. HOwever, I do make a point that whenever I am home, I spend all my time with them playing and just doing things together, even house chores such as cleaning our room, arranging our clothes etc... It is our bonding time and I do exert extra effort to make lasting memories and impressions on them of things that we do together. It is very exhausting for me, physically and emotionally, but its worth all of it and I would still do more if I do have more time.

When our children where little I was a stay at home mom. When they got into school I too went to school. Then I started working nights so they would not have to stay with a sitter so much. I worked 12 hour shifts three nights a week. I would try to sleep while the kids where sleeping. I did not get much sleep. The children grew up around us. I did spend as much time with them as possible and learned to be flexible. I worked at a local hospital and had to do my share of weekends and holidays. We would celebrate the holiday early if I worked on the holiday. The kids loved that we got Christmas a few days early. They also learned to be flexible. I know I spent more time at work then I wanted to but I did what was needed to keep a roof our our head. My husband was self employed and did not being in a penny for many years. Learn to be flexible with the time your husband has off. Do things on his time and not the regular days. If he is off a few days before a birthday or big event then celebrate it early. Who cares if it is on the actual day it is the celebration and getting together and spending time together. Take lots of photos and videos of you have a camera so he does not miss out as much as you fear.

I'm lucky enough not to have a paid job to go to just now, so I get to spend plenty of my time with my family. Even though I don't go to work for someone else, I still have plenty to do though! It would be great for all of us to spend more time with our kids, but I do think it's important for kids to see their parents working. Kids learn from what they see at home and it's part of how they develop a work ethic and a sense of responsibility. Time spent with family is only as good as the activities you do together too. You can have all your time with your kids, but if you just watch telly then noone gains from the experience.

well it's really hard now a days to spend quality time with our children, but what can we do , we have to work in order to pay the bills, and leave our children with people that we don't know if they are been taking care they way they are suppose to be, I used to work more than 50 hrs a week sometimes 60 a weeek and i used to see my kids late at night and I was so tired at that time, so most of the time they used to see me with no energy, and it wasn't worth it. I left my kids with this babysitter that used to charge me lots of money and waws leaving my kids with a stranger, and they were all shy and one of them was really shy, and he was sick all the time,but I used to work to pay all those hrs to pay my bills but it wasn't enough I still was going to hell. but What i'm trying to say is that is not worth it working so many hrs and just leaving your children with some other people and us missing those big moments.