Evil In-Laws

Oh my Lord, could I tell you some stories! We get along fine for the most part now, but even when I was dating my husband it was ugly! They always accused me of cheating on him, even after we were married, and asked point blank if our daughter was even his while I was pregnant. Yeah, in-laws = suck.

Hehheh... Honestly, I don't like my mother-in-law because when my hubby cheated on me, instead of telling his son that what he has done was wrong, she kept on insisting that her son didn't do such thing. She didnt even want to hear my side, she always interrupts me and tells me how good her son is... When she saw the clothes of his son i threw in the living room, she told me if i dont want my husband, just return him back to them... the nerve of her to say that! my father-in-law apologized to me and that's what im waiting for her to do. If I see her, i am just being civil to her, say hi and answer her questions but i don't really like her...

Yikes mine give me nightmares... My husband's parents are divorced. His mother is who he lived with and I got along with her pretty well for three years. I thought we were good friends except every once in a while she would do something a bit strange like it seemed like she was trying to set her son up with someone else and she was telling my family members that her son was going to break up with me any day now. A bunch of little things I brushed off at the time. Then He went into the military and she was quickly wanting to get rid of me. Telling him to play the field and I wasn't cut out for military life and I had a social anxiety order and one thing after another, when he told her we planned to get married. Then she did everything she could to break us up. She would tell me I was too good for her son and that I should find someone more grown up. She told him I was treating her terrible. Then her son started to notice his money was coming up missing... Then she basically told him that it was me or her and if he chose me he was not going to see his brothers anymore. And we have not been able to see or speak to them in over a year and a half now. She tells them we are welcomed and that we choose not to see them but when he tried she smacked him around and stared shouting and crying as if he said or did something to her when he didn't. We tried to work things out with her for over a year. After that we just went and got married anyways... since there was no way my big family wedding I wanted was going to work out. We even went into another state because we were scared she'd ruin it. Then after we were married when my husband spoke to her the first thing she asked was if I was pregnant! And even know he told her I wasn't she continued to harrass everyone we knew demanding I must be pregnant for him to have married me. His dad isn't much better however a lot of that is because of the bitterness that is still in him from the divorce and the fact she made sure all her children hated their father. For years my husband thought that his father divorced his mother... She said she only got $300 a month in child support a month... in fact she was getting $1200 plus alimony that was just as high. come to find out she served divorce papers on valentines day. But his dad has a lot of hate in him and it gets the better of him all the time. He never really got to be much of a dad because he was away for the military a lot and then contracted out in other jobs. Pretty much we have learned any advice he gives we should do the oppisite. He wants us to move out where he is but my husband knows the only way he can have any civil relationship with his dad is to keep the distance. The funny thing is my husband's mother kept saying my husband is just like his father and that his father taught him this and put him against her. Then his father would say you think that way because of your mother, and he's said many times that I'm like my husband's mother. His mother thinks we are on his fathers side and believe everything he says and is making it out to his brothers that he is just like his father. His father seems to think my husband is on his side and that they have a great relationship now. The truth is they are both wrong. We are just trying to distance ourselves from all the insanity and wait for the day his brother's are old enough to see that both parents are screwed up and want to get out on their own. There are so many incidents to tell and several I would not have believed if I hadn't experienced them first hand. If my husband ever acts like either one of his parents I'm leaving him!

Now now there are two sides to every story. I have a DIL who hates me and one who loves me, I treat them both the same. She thinks they have no obligation to think of anyone but themselves and we have to cater to them, and they owe nothing in return. But this girl is also 10 years older than my son and 10 years younger than me. Me son can not make a phone call without her knowing about it. And this is my son's second marriage, his first wife said the hardest thing about the divorce was giving US up. Also I did not comapre 1 to 2 or vica versa. Now as for me I do not wish to control anyone's life but my own. My MIL and I have moments and little fights once in awhile, but we have learned life is a give and take and NO ONE is right 100% of the time. You have not explained what it is they have done to you, so how can we judge?