When You're Mad, Do you Say it Out Loud?
By eihdra
@eihdra (3115)
Philippines
July 28, 2008 2:45am CST
Or Do you Just Keep it to Yourself?
I am not a fan of keeping mum when I'm really upset and cannot take it anymore or if I can't control my anger..I just had to let it all out and resolve things at once, if possible..I wont be able to keep my mouth shut for a long time. I would be pacing back and forth while thinking of how to say things without hurting the other person. I am past those yelling and throwing things in the air. i wanna do it in a more civilized way..
Lots of times I tried to be silent about the things that made me mad. But, somewhere along the way, it only makes matters worst. Because I was boiling inside and would blow my top any minute! When that happens, I know I wouldn't be able to stop talking and couldn't think rationally.
Can You Keep It For Long?
Or You Just Have To Spit It All out?
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11 responses
@marina321 (4556)
•
29 Jul 08
I tend to keep quiet for a bit or ignore the issue after sometime if there's not much I can do (you know like at work..) If it's a partner, I will let them know how I feel and that they've upset me. If I don't at the time that they have upset me, it somehow has a way of cropping up later in an argument.
If I am really mad 
and can't do much about it, I have been known to cry
, sometimes in silence and let it out
My mum often says I should let it out, scream, break something or anything at all rather than keep it bottled up but that's just me..
If I am really mad and can't do much about it, I have been known to cry, sometimes in silence and let it out
My mum often says I should let it out, scream, break something or anything at all rather than keep it bottled up but that's just me..
Say no more... I will be venting from now on!
@jinxky (2248)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
im the kind of a person that keeps my anger from myself but when the time it reaches my limitation, im just like a volcano that will erupt lol there was a time that my officemate really pisses me off coz she's soo irritable, i shouted at her & she just stopped hahaha..
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
31 Jul 08
When I am mad I get very CALM!! My husband hates it because he gets in he ood to argue, and I don't take the bait. LOL I get calm, I speak up, but I speak very cally, and choose my words carefully. I don't want to say soething that I'll regret later.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
30 Jul 08
I will normally keep it to myself and let it out when i'm home by going for a run, and after which i will feel much much better.. It's good in a way as it doesn't hurt anybody and won't ruin any friendship too ^_^
BUt if i'm holding too much anger inside of me, i can just blow up at any slightest thing at anybody when i cant control it anymore too.. haha
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
wish I could just leave the kids and go for a walk or run outside to release the anger...but since I can't, maybe I'll just pace here and there and breathe like i have never breathe hard before..maybe i could try counting up to a million, maybe by the time i reached a million, im so tired I just wanna go to bed and forget all about it..thanks kun..1 person likes this
@aryajayaprakash (1643)
• Japan
28 Jul 08
I can not keep anything for long time. Just immediately I will say. I don't like to keep anything inside the mind. Open and be open - that is my policy.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
29 Jul 08
Oh I'm the type that can't keep it in for too long or I'll
burst. When I'm angry about something it shows. I can't
hide it or pretend. I have to get it out or I will explode.
I try to do it calmly but it doesn't always end up that way.
It depends on how angry I am. I have a terrible temper. I
also am past the tantrums but I still can let someone have
it but good.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
21 Aug 08
Hi eihdra,
[i]When I am upset, I will always express it to the person who makes me, If I need to yell I will because I hate to cry and when I will prefer to shut up, I will be crying...lol!
This is not also common to me, with my husband whenever we have conflicts, he knows I will vent it out and positive thing about him is that he will always bring the fight into laughter, he will tease me a lot and won't stop![/i]
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
2 Oct 08
I think with pain I learned to mellow down. I rather be alone when I really am upset or really mad. I think when your mad you can't think right. What I have is patients, or keep the pain. But in time I will seat and talk, and telling my reason in a suttle way with what I really feel. I just don't wanna be affected cause their are things that I have to do or settle it down first. We are all human and we make mistakes and I just don't want it to be complicated. I think their is always a right time for everything. Have a good day!
@blandz0416 (99)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
I just keep quiet when I'm really mad, I have to control myself for I know one word that will come out from my mouth when I'm mad might kill the person or who ever i am with, either his the reason for my anger or not. So since i know that i cant choose my words when I'm angry, i will use all my self control not to say any word. After i cool down that the time i will talk to the person what ever i want to say , at least then i have a cooler mind and i can think sensibly.
@tin_cierva (241)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
hmm, i say it out loud if i can't carry it anymore, but not to the extent that i'll say what makes me mad.. i'll just scream, to take out the tension im feeling.. and after that, a move to solve what makes me mad.. maybe a reconciliation, or a peaceful agreement, depends on the severity of the situation..
@hinkerbell (522)
• United States
21 Aug 08
depnd on who im mad about or if i keep it inside wen i do explode its like crazy crazy . aha. but if its at a boyfriend. i just get so mad specially wen im hurt i alwasy end up saying stuff that hurts more than anything else crazyy right ude think i wud just say that im mad bout like if im datinga g uy andwere breaking up my fav thing to say is i lied wen i said i loved u i never did. ehh. i guess i should try and not be so mean.
