Possessiveness in relationships

Hi Dear Quite a Senstive Topic Well what theory say is differnt but practicle life is differnt its not easy to share ur things and its natural, inbulut in oneself, hard to change, U know Mayka, possesiveness is not a problem and it shows ur care, ur love, ur attachment, but it get problem when u start doubting on ur friend, partner, kids. And make them feel that u love them but dont trust them and always suspicious that they are betraying U. That ends the relation and makes lives miserable of u as well as others associated with U. WEll thats my OBservation, it might be wrong, what u think about It Take care

hi dear my hubby is very possessive as well as protective and i actually do not mind it..it is just that he does not want any harm to come to me and my son and he is mostly correct in his judgments..we share very open relationship no secrets at all and we both keep in mind our mutual likes and dislike..i would never like to spoil the relationship by doing anything wrong and he also maintains it..i think it is the base of any steady relationship..i m also very possessive about him and my family

you are true. very ideally true love need not be excessive possessive, but at times it is so. then emotion works more.Just like i am very possessive about my parents. as dad is not well now, i am very conscious about him and very possessive. i can't help it.

You have quoted very positive thoughts........that .......love means settign your partner free...........but you appear to be adopting the opposite of it i.e. you are very possessive, you say. One should be possessive about one'parent, children and partner, but if one becomes possessive for each every relation, how the dictum of 'setting free' could be followed. I think, most of us are possessive for our near and dear ones and that keeps us attached to them.

i think we should bring wings to our love,set it free. love will come to a standstill if we grasp it too tightly. our lover needs private space,private thoughts,and also private love,so we'd better set it free. anyway,happy your marriage,happy your life.

To be honest I believe that being over possessive is very unhealthy for any relationship, no matter who it is with. In response to a partner I think that each should have their own space to be who they want to be. Too many people crowd one another and make themselves feel like they are one. Being in a relationship doesn't mean that you have to be joined at the hip 24/7 ... it is an understanding and you want to share this with one another, at the same time allowing each other to breath. I have never been possessive and never intend on having a possessive streak. I know as people we find that hard to supress but it is one of the root causes of couples splitting up over time.

Yes that is really true for saying that possessiveness would not really help and show what love really is. You should always bring in what you can do to make things right. When you love someone you should always try to allow your partner to grow and learn from the relationship.

Some people are born to be possessive. They just can't help being the way they are. The sad thing is that becuase these people are very possessive about their friends, family members and partners, they tend to alienate the very people that they want to stay close with. To some degree, I am possessive but as I grow older, I learned to control my impulses. Yes, it is not easy to let go of the people that you love but then again, life is like that. You have to let go sometimes...

I am possessive in a way that my partner won't feel it. In other words, I let her feel that it was a positive move rather than a negative one. For me, giving much attention, love, affection and gifts to the one you love are acts of possession as well.

My wife is very possessive and even wants my time. It is not a good thing. She is not happy nor am I with all this constant possessiveness. Choking kills and possessiveness is nothing more than choking.

Possessive people are people who are highly insecure about themselves. They always doubt that what they do is good and are constantly looking at other people to validate what they have done. Possessive people are also the ones who will go out of their way to ruin your life, just because they are jealous of what you have. I had a friend who was highly possessive of me, and she was a real pain to be around. If I wanted to do anything, I had to ask her permission first, and if she said no and I still did it, I copped a hiding off her. I'm not a possessive person. I love my husband dearly,and would be very hurt if he wanted to leave, but letting him go and trying to remain friends would be what I would do because then at least I would know that we made a go of things and parted on good terms. Letting go is better than hanging on and suffocating the person you are possessive of.

good day.. I can be possessive to some point just to show how much I love my partner but never to a choking point. I have to give her a certain degree of space and freedom if not I will choke her and also the relationship we have.

i used to have a bf who's very possessive & i dont like that. it's just like i lose my freedom coz he wanted to be at my side all the time, if im talking to my guy friends he'll get mad or have a glare reaction. yeah its not good coz i lost my love on him i cant breathe anymore. in a relationship you must set your limitations not just like that, coz people also loses their interest about it & the worst is you will lose your loved one if you keeps on doing it..

I feel that every humanbeing has the feeling of possessiveness.Ofcourse possessiveness may ruin relationships and lives ,but when someone has true love for something or someone ,naturally possessiveness is unavoidable only due to a fear that he may lose what he loves most.

i think some amount of possesiveness is good but being overpossesiveness can suffocate a person.

I think I am also a possessive lover. I easily get jealous. They say that if you trust your partner enough, you won't have to be jealous. Sometimes, I am thinking, do I really trust my partner. I do trust my girlfriend. I am just really possessive. On the other hand, I am a patient guy. So those two qualities balanced me. Have a nice day!

Yes it would'nt help. Trust is the most important in a relationship. If you trust your partner then everything will follow!

No i'm not, because for me love is sacrificial. I mean if you really gone to this called "LOVE", you need to accept the fact that everyone of us needs time and space to know and realize what we really wanted to do with our life. If your not letting him to do it with his own or do what he wants to do, then that would be the time that your being too possessive. Let him learn, let his experience teaches him and let the destiny binds you and your love ones back to each others arms. If this doesn't come, think of it this way, "He's not meant for you". better try to change yourself every single day before situations hurt you... thanks for sharing...