Do you think it's better to have children in your 20's, 30's or 40's?

Interesting enough, I have experienced this. I had my first son when I was only a mere 17 years Old... I feel that is too young, but oh well. Yes I had lots of energy, but I was stille so young, I have no regrets. I also think in your early 20's still May be, just maybe a bit young depending on your mindset, people still want to go "hang out" party etc. my 2nd son came along when I was 37... YIKES SURPRISE! I feel I am more in tune now, appreciate his first steps and developing speech, I have more patience now. I do get upset sometimes when I think how old I will be when he Graduates College, etc. My first son will graduate next year, and I'll be 40, that's cool. So I think I'll see grandkids with him, but maybe not with the 2nd, what I was not fully aware of the precious moments watching my first son grow up, I am fully aware with my 2nd. What I am experiencing now with my 1st, I may not be able to with my second. So I am really lucky to have both experiences and wonderful boys!

i feel it's better to be in 20's...when me and my wife planned for kids i told her from the beginning that it should be earlier when we are young enough to bare all naughtiness the kids are going to do and even for the energy as you said...talking them out to play, for school and bla bla... i have two sweet babies with their birth gaps of two years... as i think they will grow up together...and whatever stress we will have it will be for one time...and when they grow they are grownups they can help us.

I had my first daughter when i was 23 and my second daughter four years later but i personally wished that i should have waited for longer and should have gone for children after atleast 10 years in to my married life somewhere in the age of 30. I should have enjoyed life with my hubby to the full and then gone in for more responsibilities like children as then the time needs to be divided between the two and i find that time is just too short to be with my family.

I know this question is far from my life now,but I always to think about ,imagining that a baby ,everything is little ,when I look at seems to look at myself.maybe I can't have the feeling the mother haved.if I want give birth to a kid ,I hope when I am 20's,the younger the better.

My children were born when I was 17, 22, 26, and 27. When my fourth child was born when I was 26, I realized that's when I should have STARTED having kids. I had no patience for the older children (granted there were a set of twins in there), and basically I am still dealing with problems that were caused by having them so young and not having the emotional or mental capability of raising them. I have been so different with my youngest 2. I have a lot more patience and understanding. I am not sure if that is because I'm older and more relaxed or if it is because I know what I'm doing now, lol. I think it has more to do with age though, because 17 was far too young to have a child, and 22 was too young to have 3 kids. Now here I am 28 and have 5 kids... I'm still probably too young for this, lol. So in a way I wish I had waited and started having children later in life. But at the same time, I am happy that I will only be in my late 30's by the time my children start leaving the house. When I am 50 all of my children will be grown and I'll still be young enough to enjoy life. And probably can live to see my great grandchildren.

If finances and living situation were not a problem right now, I would plan to have kids now or very near future. I am 23 years old and always said I want kids when I am young, so that I can play ball with them and things of that sort. I want to learn new things with them. I would not like to wait until 30 years old to start having kids, but sometimes that is what life throws at you. I need to have more stability in my life before making any decisions for that.

I regret the fact that at 45 today I still dont have a grand child, by now I should be having a son helping me out in this hard economic times-my first son is 15, I got him when I was 30, that was a mistake-have your baby at 21, it will pay off!

There are several ways around it I guess. In your twenties you most likely have more energy, you are most likely in better psychical shape and the chance of getting a dissabled child is smaller. On the other hand you are just starting to build your own life, are in college or just finished and getting your first house. Seems like you have enough on your mind allready and you have little experience in life. In your thirties you have more experience, you are in the middle of your carreer and have more life experiences. Changes of children being born dissabled are more common but still not to much. Seems like a good way around it but a tight shedule it is. Do you want to give up working by now? Can it be combined? In your fourties you have much more life experience but the changes of getting a dissabled child are getting steeper. You can wonder if you still have the energy and if your physical shape allows you to go through a pregnancy. You will be allmost 60 when you get a first change of having grandchildren and that will only be the case if you have a daughter and she decides to be a young mom, and you can't force her to be as you waitted till you're fourties too. You have to do what you think it's right, all of them have pro's and con's.

I don't really know which is better. I got married at 18 and had my first child at 19. I had another at 21, 23 (almost 24) with my ex-husband and the last at 28 (almost 29)with my husband. I was/am more tired with the last one than the first 3 put together! I am 30 now and go through phases of thinking I would like another one...it just isn't an option anymore because we decided he would have a vasectomy after our daughter was born 2 years ago.

Well I had my 1st child at 33. I am pregnant with my second and last child now at 38. Having had a history of miscarriage and birth defects not survivable outside the womb, I am just glad to have healthy child, and another on the way. I am not sure I would have been strong enough to decide to continue to try. I think I am a more patient person now. And my daughter benefits from that.

I always said that I'd like to have my kids when I was very young to ensure that I was young and energetic to enjoy them. It didn't work out quite like that as I was in my 30s when the youngest came along. I suppose I'm still pretty young in the great scheme of things, but I feel like an old crone half of the time. I blame that on the kids and reckon it would be the same if I were 17 or 47 LoL I think the key thing when choosing to have kids is not how old you are but how stable you are able to be. When I was younger I would have been a different Mum to the one I am now. I'm sure I'd have coped OK, but I think older is better in my case.

I am of a mind that 25 to 35 are the best years to have children. I thnk that at that age range, you have most of your wild oats sown, yet you are not too old to chase a toddler around.

hey BQ.. The doctor once told me to have them before I reach 25 because my eggs cells would have been the same age as I was..But, I was all ready to get pregnant, unfortunately my ex husband wasn't..Glad that we didn't have kids because he didn't change his ways and got worst during the marriage and we finally ended up the relationship after 5 years of pains and sorrows on my part.. I got pregnant at the age of 29 with my ex-boyfriend. That was a good age, still..And had my second and i think my last pregnancy at the age of 38.. I think, it depends on the couple.It doesn't matter what age as long as they are both ready for the responsibilities, in all aspects...If one gets pregnant at an early age and is not responsible enough or not stable enough, they would really have more difficulties along the way... But, these days, some women are getting pregnant in their late 30's because they wanna enjoy their single lives, so when they get pregnant, they have already fixed their minds into settling down and leave their single lives forever.. As you mentioned, we cant really tell how things will go..Sometimes, we plan things and it will not happen..Sometimes, the unexpected happens, and we just have to accept it...

I plan to have children when I'm 30 years old or a little older. Even though I've seen many young moms, I think I'll be able to care for my child, myself, and my husband better at that age. I'm just such a busy girl right now I don't think I'll be able to focus my entire attention on raising children before 30. I want to travel, to go on adventures, to be a successful corporate or business woman.

Ideally your body is ready to give birth on your twenties as it is the peak of your fertility. Although the first time you had your menses is the sign that you are capable to getting pregnant, but at that age you are immature and your body is just starting to adjust to being fertile so it needs further development. In the 20's your body is already ready except that you may not matured emotionally to carry a child so I think I would choose the age 25 and above is the ideal age. When it comes to 35 pregnancy may becom a high risk pregnancy already as you body is starting into a new phase and starts to deteriorate already. Definitely 40 is not an ideal age though you can still get pregnant at that age but your organs is just not that ready already.

I wish I had my son in my 20s because when I turn 50 he will only be 19 years of age. I had him when I was 31 and we have been trying for more but no such luck.

yep, sure do agree with ya. it's more easier because you're young. and them kids can be pretty tiresome at times. I should know, i have a boy. :D

I think its better to have your children when you are ready. There are a lot of factors that one can consider before having your first child. First, you must be ready financially, 2nd you must be emotionally strong too handle the birth of a child.I believe the late 20's is the perfect time to start having kids, simply because your body is at its peak position to bear children, and you have worked for a few years and maybe made some savings. Children are a blessing, wether you have them in your 20's 30's orr even 40's.

Hi friend, according to me very young age we should not have childrens. Ya offcourse after 28 we can have that's good for us also. If we give later birth to the child then it's easy for us to maintain the child because we should settle down first then we should think of all those future one's.

well this is a quite complicated issue cuz you've got a lot to consider nowadays more and more people choose to become dinks, which means they have double incomes while they do not want to have kids the main reason will be having kids too young leads to responsibility and some kind of trouble so people choose to have kids when they really settle down and for me this is a different issue to have kids and to shoulder responsibility in a young age is an important step in one's life so i will choose to have kids when i am still young and enegetic