Crying Child.
By alpha7
@alpha7 (1910)
France
AS a father,what do you do to help a child that is use to crying,any little thing you do against his wish,he crys,can Children like this be help in any way?5 responses
@alori61 (344)
• United States
28 Jul 08
You don't say how old the child is. A new born has no other way to communicae its needs then to cry and you should respond to it.
If on the other hand the child is over a year and a half two years, they are able to tell you what it is they want or need, and crying should no longer be the primary source of communication.
If the child is just throwing a temper tantrum make sure they are in a safe place, tell them you will talk to them when they calm down, repeat this frequently until the child calms down and talks. Never give in to a child just because they start to cry, the first day or two you may hear a ton of screaming but if you refuse to give in the child will learn the tears no longer work and stop doing it. If you give in just once though it will get longer and louder.
Children use what works to get them what they want, if crying gets them attention they will cry, but if you encourage them with praises like good job asking for that or your playing nice they will start behaving good to get your attention. For now if the child is old enough to know better stop giving in to the crying and the child will stop using it.
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@alpha7 (1910)
• France
29 Jul 08
Thank you very much,i think he's just using that as a weapon to get whatever he wants,even when asking for something and knowing that you might say no,he'll start to cry,i think he is just using it against the parents to get all that he wants at a particular time ,nothing is wrong with him though.He is almost 5 years.@alori61 (344)
• United States
29 Jul 08
At the age of 5 he knows what he is doing and is using it as a weapon. The parents need to come together as a single unit, tell him from now on if he cries to just tp get something he will not get it no matter what and then stand firm, and prepare for the testing period to come. At 5 the child is also old enough to understand time out so if he starts throwing a temper tantrum or really turns on the tears then he can be placed in a corner, or a chair or in a designated spot and told he may get up only when he gets control and stops crying, and then be prepared to place the child back in the 'quiet place' until he learns. The key is they must use it every time though. Most kids will give up in a day or two once they figure out that the parents are serious and they do not give in.
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@chenmeiyi (972)
• China
28 Jul 08
children is so innocent,and they cry when they feel like crying ,they laugh when they feel
like laughing. dear alpha, as a dad,don't get troubled when your child show his/her true
feelings cause you are witnessing his/her gradual growing up,it is really pleasant,isn't it?
hope your child grow up healthily.
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@deb8er (49)
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9 Aug 08
Did you solve this problem? I hope so as I know my parents were at their wits end when my little brother was whinging all the time. They did try patiently telling him that he should stop and calmly tell them what it was he wanted to say as they could not understand him when he was whinging. This did work for him.
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@alpha7 (1910)
• France
9 Aug 08
What he needed was a break and since he's been going out often now a days,i can notice the difference already.Some days ago,he told me how he beat his aunty and she wept afterwards,what a difference.Though i never thought him to beat other people.
Now the problem is that he's trying to prove that he's stronger than his elder sisiter,though they play together a lot, but atimes they fight over supremacy!
Thank you for your concern.
Thank you for your concern.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
A crying child loves to hear a lullaby. Sing it
for the baby. Maybe he is hungry or wet. You need
to change diapers. Colic baby is a type of baby who
always cry. They need attention and care.
That's for children under 4,may be.
