how children learn social behaviors?
By chenmeiyi
@chenmeiyi (972)
China
July 29, 2008 4:51am CST
as far as i am concerned,there are three ways that children acquire social behavior
through reward,punishment and modeling.reward is a positive reinforcement for good
behavior.many parents do this unconsciously,they say to their children,if you eat
your vegetable,you'll get cake for your dessert.punishment is not effective or
necessary from my own perspective,it is rather controversial.modeling is the best way
leading your children to good behavior.
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7 responses
@intimate36 (1415)
• Pakistan
30 Jul 08
I think you are 100% right and I agree with you without any hesitation
@intimate36 (1415)
• Pakistan
30 Jul 08
but one more thing I want to mention, it is never easy..specially, when they move with other of same age ,,
@chenmeiyi (972)
• China
30 Jul 08
thank you for your support.
it is really no easy job to model children.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
29 Jul 08
I agree that being a good role model is the best way to teach children how to acquire an acceptable social behavior. I think punishment can be done in moderation. Without some kind of punishment or restrictions, a child thinks they can control the parent(s) and do whatever they feel like doing even if it's wrong. I felt like a teacher in many respects when our kids were growing up and it was always a learning experience for not only our kids but myself also.
@chenmeiyi (972)
• China
30 Jul 08
i think you are a great mother as well as a good teacher for your children.
happy everyday,dear.
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@chenmeiyi (972)
• China
30 Jul 08
i also think children learn social behavior through outside new things.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Teaching kids how to learn social behavior is never been easy.
But you have to be patient to have success on it. They need
adult supervision to develop their social behaviors at an
early age.
@chenmeiyi (972)
• China
30 Jul 08
children need parents' surveilance to help them build a good character.
@Scarrlet (168)
• Ukraine
30 Jul 08
I also agree with you that modeling is the best way to teach children a positive social behavior. In fact this process doesn't look like a teaching itself, but a child decides on his/her own what behavior is more acceptable. reinforcements seem to be good at first sight, but i think they can bring more negative results in the long-run. so parents definitely shouldn't concentrate on this one.
@chenmeiyi (972)
• China
30 Jul 08
yeah,children need to make decision on their own,they shouldn't always depend on their parents and parents also should set it free.
@ajesh_pullad (2251)
• India
29 Jul 08
Hi friend, if you ask me, a person's behaviour is created and edited in their own home. What we are teaching them, they will show. Required punish is needed. Also they have a dear about parents when they disobey. All of above parents have a great role.
