My boyfriend is my long lost brother
By eivanna
@eivanna (14)
Philippines
July 30, 2008 2:43am CST
I have a boyfriend for 2 years now. We love each other very much. Likewise, I have this feeling that my boyfriend is my long lost brother. Our classmates and schoolmates often got mistakes that he's my brother because we have similiraties. And I have a mark on my finger tip just as similar to his grandfather. His mom told me that his dad had another girl. I've talked to his dad but he wouldn't answer. I always caught him staring at me. I know you wouldn't believe it guys, but I'm almost convinced. I have many brothers actually, but we are now scattered everywhere since my birth. I came in a broken family. My parents now whom adopted me
told me about what really happened but they never did tell me who and where they are. i'm so confused now, please help me dear friends on what to do.Thanks and God Bless :-)
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17 responses
@bieke81 (1067)
• Belgium
30 Jul 08
The only thing you can do is test your dna. If it's compatible, there will be a big chance that you are brother and sister, if it's not, you can leave it alone and go one with your relationship. It will give you peace of mind and you will need that.
Have a nice day 
@eivanna (14)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
Yeah, you are right. Thanks for the nice advice :-) Well, if the result will be positive. Then i must accept the truth even if it hurts. There are still lot of good, kind and gentlemen out there. But I'm afraid to love again, what if that guy is still my brother or my cousin?
Have a nice day too :-)
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
Well that is kind of absurd and a one in a million chance that you and your long lost brother would end up as lovers. But then to make sure before going into further with your loving relationship maybe its right time to have DNA test to prove or disprove you doubts about him. I think there are other means to know if you are not siblings because if you are indeed siblings would just create a lot of problems.
@HollywoodBarbi (618)
• United States
31 Jul 08
I agree with everyone here, the best way to tell is a DNA test. Can you go back to your adoption agency and ask for your records? I would also check birth certifactes in county records or what not. I wish you the best of luck!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
30 Jul 08
I think that the only thing and the best thing for you to do is one of two things. You can either go get your DNA tested or if your to young to this legally without consent then I would talk to your adoptive mother and ask her to give you as much information as possible as you fear that you may be in a relationship with your brother. I think that so you don't get hurt further on in case your relationship progresses, it would be best. If you are brother and sister and don't mind then to each their own. Nevertheless, pick what you choose to do and I wish you the best of luck in your endeavor's.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Aug 08
I appreciate your compliment and hope that your discussion with your mom will be very easy!
@LovingMami07 (3)
• United States
1 Aug 08
my dear the best advice i can give you is to go get a dna test. as much as you love him but you need to know before you go any further or fall deeper in love. getting tested will give you piece of mind no matter what the results are. if he is your brother well you know what you both need to do.which i believe is just have time apart from each other and recognize each other as siblings. if you're not related hey keep on loving him if he's a great guy. whatever you decide on just make sure in your heart your happy with your decision. i'll be praying for you! take care and god bless!!!!
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@eivanna (14)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
OOoohh, thank you so much for your concern LovingMami07. You are really a loving mommy. Yeah, he is a great guy. That's why i don't wanna lose him. If the result will be positive, then i don't have any other option but to accept the truth and just move on with life. I know whatever happen, God has a plan for me. Thanks for the prayers LovingMami07. Me and my boyfriend appreciate your kindness. We'll pray for you and your family too. Take care and God bless you and your family :-)
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
1 Aug 08
wow thats tough!!i guess you must trace his roots before it got deeper ..i mean im talking about the relationship itself..if you had some doubts on him then do it..one solution for this is to undergo some DNA test..although its costly but maybe it will paved the way the truth..
@xueyao (164)
• China
1 Aug 08
You know,we have a old word said that if a couple went along with each other for long time when they will change and look like day after day in china.Maybe you are are love so much so you look like each others.but I advice you to test DNA.if it isn't.you can have a happy life.Best wishes.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
1 Aug 08
I would start immediatly looking into family history and searching for adoption papers. Talk to your adoptive parents. It is a small world. I have a friend that was searching for her niece who was given up for adoption years ago. Come to find out, this girl lived in the same small town as her brother. In fact her brother had hung out with her. He looked young for his age and often went for younger girls....it was good that he discovered that she was her niece. I would also keep pressing his dad for a strait answer...at least to confirm that he has never been with your mother. Another thought...DNA testing...you'd have your answer real quick.
@carloLL2004 (376)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
That's very difficult, why don't you asked your parents, or ask your boyfriend if he feels the same way for you.
@carloLL2004 (376)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
yeah good luck, just pray to God that you may be enlightened.
@jinxky (2248)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
that really sux.. i came to a broken family too & i hope this will not happen to me, i hope lol coz ill get crazy if so 
@medicguy (307)
• Pakistan
6 Aug 08
Similarities exist between many of us, whether we are closely related or not
As most of us have mentioned here, it is better that you get a confirmatory test rather than asking anyone's advice over here
DNA testing would once and for all settle all doubts that you may have.
Hope you find your resolution.
@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
Its kind of eerie and creepy knowing that the man you love would be your long lost brother
... yup DNA exam could help you and even TRY hard to convinced your parents to spill out the beans of info to shed some light on your all fogged-up mind. May God bless you in your search for truth!
... yup DNA exam could help you and even TRY hard to convinced your parents to spill out the beans of info to shed some light on your all fogged-up mind. May God bless you in your search for truth!