What to do with the excess baggage?

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My husband was married to a woman, no names will be mentioned, years ago. The Ex as a lot of us refer to them as. Strange woman I would say. She had an affair and this is what ended their relationship. Here comes the strange part, she would call me on occasion after she remarried and my husband and I had also wed. What could she possibly want, you ask? She was very heart broken over her seperation to my husband. She needed a shoulder to cry on and vent her frustration. Being someone that can find humor in anything, I did not become upset. Rather I would listen patiently to how much she loved and missed him. She would tell me that I just could never understand how terrible and hurtfull this all was to her and guess what? She was right. I didn't get her pain when she cheated, left him, and then remarried the man she cheated with. She told me the reason she was with her current husband was because he reminded her of, guess who? Yes you are right, my husband. Ok so maybe I should have raised the point that she could have still had been with him if she would not have cheated, left him, and then remarried but in stead I took pity on her and decided to give her a solution that may make her feel like she had not totally lost him. I told her that I would rent him to her. She could pay me to enjoy picking up his clothes, making his bed, waiting on him hand and foot because he is too lazy to get out of his chair, have all the arguments for me instead, etc... Then at the end of the day she could return to her own husband feeling much more complete. Sounded good to me. After all she was the one whinning about how she missed him, and I believe what he is, can somewhat be defined by how he behaves. I told her to think about my offer and call me the next day with an answer. I don't know why but 8 almost 9 years later, I am still waiting for that call? Any ideas as to why you think she passed, LOL! ;)