Bottoms Up

Exploration. That's exactly the term. Thank you Checapricorn.

Wow!

Thank you. It sounds like you have found true happiness and contentment in your relationship. I wish that others might be so happy.

i only understand what works for us. i can't wrap my head around dominant women, not that i'm saying it is wrong, just that it is not natural for me. (Yes, i am very much a woman). In our home there is order and respect. Everyone has their own place and knows what is expected. MacCain (my mate and Master) has the final say in everything, however we talk like "normal people" and He asks my opinion on things before He makes His decision. i have three children, and for the most part i make decisions pertaining to them. The children are not His, though He treats them as though they are. i make decisions, based on what i know He prefers, and if i don't know what He would do, i ask. You see, i respect Him. i know He would only do what is best for us. He values us, and wouldn't put any of us in harms way. He knows what i need, sometimes better than i do, and sees that my needs are met as well. From the outside looking in it may look like He has the ideal life, but the truth is, i feel i do. In our home there are no arguements...if i even shoot a look of disapproval, He is quick to quietly remind me it isn't my place. There it ends. Done. For me it is very comforting to know what is expected.

WhooHoo! Although I am partial to Peacock I wouldn't mind using an Ostrich feather for a little tantalizing pleasure..it just make me shiver in delight waiting for it to arrive..anticipating the pleasure it will bestow upon me.

I can understand why you say that. Your story got me so upset for you. Cuddling is very good and should be an integral part of our love life.

I have a huge Ostrich feather that you could use!!

I have to agree with you there my dear!!

Thank you. Mind you the bra fantasy turned out to be a humorous reality! You'll have to hunt to find my latest challenge. But there are some that want to see me covered in cream!!!!

Darn. Just as I got my backside all ready for you. LOL. I think that the fantasy is often more exciting than the reality Skinny.

Hi p1ke the book I haven't begun and dont know if I could start from the very beginning well could do but I was rather naive in those days but things that happened after became very colourful,exciting and fun to do..so if I even attempted to write a blog it would never end !! A short one would never give you an idew into a totally different way of life that I have known..maybe one day I maybe able to tell you in person as intend to go and see ellie soon...littleowl

Please may I come too? I'll be good and Ellie know what I am like. We've met already. I sound like a 12 year old. LOL. That would be just so exciting.

You know Littleowl, I would love to hear your stories someday. Write a book, or a blog then I can gorge myself sooner. LOL. You sound such a genuinely interesting person and I am so pleased that you come to my discussions. I can only imagine. I think that I am worldly wise, but I'm such a beginner really. LOL.

Really. How?

Thank you Property. You have way more patience than me. LOL.

Hmmm... sucks? Would you ming elaborating on that thought? i think even people in the vanilla comunity would agree that a playful swat on thier bum from their mate is a act of "hey...i still think your cute". So, not all people enjoy stepping it up a notch, but wouldn't you agree that on some level it could be enjoyable? From a primal point of view, being taken willingly (but with force) can be very liberating. Maybe you'd rather be the swatter than the swatted. i get that too, but to say all spanking sucks is such a generalization, i'm not sure that is what you meant. Feel free to correct me if i'm wrong.

I don't find pain a turn on personally. But power exchange can be.

I was so tired and down this morning, I don't know WHAT I was typing! And my mother could really hit HARD for only being 5 feet tall!

It will come as no surprise to you Angel that I prefer my women in charge! But preferably not wearing leather and spurs. That's a little too much. This discussion has introduced me to some very interesting folk.

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LOL. That cat gets everywhere methinks.

thank you for being interested in my way of life and not judging....yes our way of life carries out 24/7 not just in the bedroom...basically my Dom rules the house...He always has the last word...what He says goes...but He always will listen to my opinions and thoughts and take them into consideration...it is a very hard way of life but it is who i am and the only way i am happy...i have and want no control...having control makes me unhappy...it's not like He walks around the house barking orders and beating me lol...but if He wants or need something, asks something, etc. that is my place to give it to Him...it is a different way to live but that's who we are....any other questions feel free to ask....or start a different post and we can talk back and forth there :)

i'm not sure if there is a way i can give you my email addy in private on here..if so let me know and D (my Dom)and i would be happy to answer any questions you have and chat about our life :)

I don't live a full time BDSM lifestyle like Raven does but it still plays a large part in my life. I don't know that enjoying the light punishments such as spanking in the bedroom has much to do with the way I personally was punished as a child. Unless it's very much in the heat of the moment which I will admit can be enjoyable because pain bleses into pleasure, when my Keeper spanks me it is still a punishment. If I've earned a spanking in my role as his Submissive he has a very hard hand to remind me who I am and who I belong to.

I agree about the pain thing. But role play, power exchange can be sexy.

Do you?

I don't think that I could get turned on by inflicting or receiving real pain Minnie. But a little role play can be very stimulating.

Ummm...err...I actually am having trouble remembering...it was all so long ago. If you're making a cuppa though, I'll have one with you mate...

Sounds good. The next step? A nice cup of tea? LOL!!!

I think they are called "love taps" or something similar. I think that can be a turn on.

I think, hope, that you've posted this to the wrong discussion skbh. I have one called "Wait until your father gets home" which talks about childhood punishments.

LOL. Firstly what a fantastic way to meet your hubby. A little of what you fancy done between consenting and loving adults spices up life no end.

Indeed it is. Thank you.