is it a sin to fell in love with your bestfriend...
By emogummy
@emogummy (57)
Philippines
July 30, 2008 10:08am CST
even though both are committed to another person?
is it a sin? because my cousin feel the same thing and i don't know what will i say to him. he wants an opinion from me... can we help him out?
3 responses
@tigertang (1749)
• Singapore
30 Jul 08
I don't think we can choose who we fall in love with. It's not like we can search out a perfect mate and then fall in love as if we are working on a script. I wish it were because it would make life so much easier. But, unfortunately things do not work out that way and we tend to fall in love with some of the most unusual people and our feelings of love don't always fit the nice social rules that we make for ourselves.
I've been in love with some of the most unsuitable people possible so I'm either the best or the worst person to say something on this.
Perhaps the only thing you can do is to find out if the other person feels the same way about you. It's possible for best friends to become lovers and an ex-flame of mine used to argue that the best relationships are founded on the foundation of friendship. So, what's there to lose? You may never get another chance to feel love and so, whenever you are in love, just follow your heart.
On the other hand if its clear that the other party will never feel the same way about you, then you have to let go and move on with your life and let them move on with theirs. Sometimes, being in love is having to let go of the other party.
I think sometimes you have to let what is meant to be happen. If it is meant to happen then it will happen no matter what you may want to happen. I mean, just let love take its most natural course.
@marcroswell (473)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
I certainly agree with you. Loving is taking the risks. It is best to tell what you feel towards the other person. I fell inlove with my bestfriend before. I was too afraid to confess that time coz I might lose him if I did. But then, I realized I need to take a risk. It's better to tell the person what you feel and take the risks than never trying, at all. And so I did. At first, it was a shocked to him but few days later, he told me that the feeling was mutual and he's just afraid to tell me what he felt for me. And, we ended up being lovers. We're still together and been married for two years now and we have a kid already. The thing is, if I did not have the courage that time, we wouldn't be together today.
@marcroswell (473)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
If they are both committed and you're cousin fell inlove with his bestfriend, it is somewhat complicated. It will be a sin if he'd ruin the relationship of his bestfriend to the other person. If things are going well with his bestfriend's relationship with other guy, why complicate things? I guess, the best thing that your cousin could do is to control his feelings toward his bestfriend. But, if he can't, he could confess to his bestfriend and be ready to face the consequences of his actions.
