Are you selective in making friends?

Yes I am quite selective in making friends. I used to be someone who thinks that everybody is good, and everybody can be my friends. But after sometimes i get to face the reality that one of someone that i consider my friend backstab me from behind. From then I started to think that I might consider someone as my friend, but they might not think so. They might only use me to get to what they want, so why should I care about that?

yeah sometimes ,,and in the sense that your friend must not be a bully or not so much different from u,,this will make sure rhat u dont get in bad activities ..its because this will leads to ur downfall,as friends shows or reflects you to others,,u are know from ur friends in ur school or colleges,if u dont have good friends then this will make u loose ur character ,,even if u are nt a bad prson,,so choosing friends is imp

I really don't have a best friend, but I have several friends that I go to church with that I know I can call on if I need someone to talk to or share a burden with. I have met several wonderful people here on MyLot too that even though I haven't met them face to face they have become near and dear to my heart. To me a good friend is one that you can open up to and share things with and know that they won't tell anyone else unless you give them permission. I rarely ever have something that I wouldn't want to known to anyone else, but if that should happen I want to know I can confide in the person. Take care hon and have a wonderful day!! SheliaLee

Yes and no. Yes, because I don't want to get hurt (which has happened my entire life) . I let people within my own little circle and then I'm reduced to looking like an idiot. That really sucks. And no because I let all types of people become my friend. I don't care about superficial stuff and in return I have people to talk to.

I agree with you. we should be like this only. We cannot confide ourselves to every other person. But unfortunately, i m the one who takes everybody at his face value and share my secrets with every so friendly-looking (?) buddy. But now i shud change.

Not actually. But the thing is all are welcome to be my frnd, but if there is any evil in that particular guy/girl I always try to make him get rid of that evil senses and appreciate his/her good things. thats all I believe in.

criteria of a bestfriend? i don't really have one. it's just that if we can trust and respect each other, i consider them my bestfriends. just sad that in this world, it's difficult to find such people. so, i only have 3 of them my whole life. and even if we're oceans apart, the communication is still there and the fun goes on everyday. have a nice day! anne

nakshatra i get that we are much alike. I have only a few very good friends with whom I kind of share the right kind of vibe. They have been there with me no matter what and on many occasions they have gone out of their way to help me out. I had been through terrible times and had it been not for them, I would have struggled to exist. I mean it. The only criterion that all my friends possess is honesty. Obviously I cannot forgive ppl who are poseurs, who fake and feign. They need not be the perfect but they should be truthful and have integrity.

I think to be a best friend or to make a best friend it always need time. That does not come in weeks or months. For me I have lots friends in different level. With some just only get together and do fun thing but nothing very personal sharing going on. With some I can share my personal feelings upto some extent. But there very few with whom I share all my personal feelings and opinion. The important thing is I am open to be friend with everybody. Because unless you don't get closer you don't know how the person is.

I am very choosy with friends and very hard to trust. It will take time for me it's getting to know you more I guess. It's very easy to be friendly that's all. Friend do come and go and wishing them all well. I meet people everyday treat them well but that is enough. My criteria of friends are accepting me for what I am. Can not be abusive and not a user friendly only. A friend that can tell me to my face my mistakes. Have a nice day! At this point of time my bestfriend is my mom I owe everything to her who am I now.

am so choosy while selecting my friends

For very common friends I don't mind. But to be my close friends, I will be very selective. I don't want the kind of bad friend will affect my life. I would like to make friend with the friendly, moderate and happy person. Then my life will be happier too.

Nice topic =) I am not selective when it comes to making friends. I can make friends anywhere and anytime as long as I am in the mood. Lol! When that happens, I can just talk to anybody about anything under the sun! However, that being said, out of so many friends that I have, there is no one single one I can call as best friends, not say even good friends. Perhapes, I had never believed in the concept of so called good or best friends, or perhapes I just never seem to trust people to that extent. I have a clique of friends who had been with me for coming to 10 years, however, I would not call them my good or best friends. To me, they are just that.. Friends. That's all. People who are outside of this clique is just acquaintances or colleagues. Lol, that's how I differentiate between people. In my clique, I do treasure them as friends. They are always there for me through thick and thin, through my ups and downs. I could say that they had regarded me as their good/best friend, however I never recopriate. For me, the criteria to become my good friend would be that I feel 100% comfortable and trust that person 100%, and likewise for that person towards me. That is whom I would consider as my best friend. I have not yet found that person even after 22 years of existence on this world. =D

I am friendly person.so everybody can be my friends but the one you called best friends is really selected,I mean you selected best friends who you can trust to,share thought and dream and etc.

The base criteria is honest,if i make friends i will pay more attention on the honest.But people who can be done is very less,so my friends is not much many,i think it's enough,a best friends is better than many common friends.